Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice (17 page)

7. During this trial period, this slave agrees to use
Master's given name, , as an
emotional safeword. That is, if Master says something
that violates an emotional boundary with the slave, the
slave agrees to communicate emotional hurt to Master
by prefacing such comments with his given name.

8. The slave agrees to answer fully and promptly any
and all questions asked by Master. This is a FULL
DISCLOSURE Contract. Further, this slave agrees to
volunteer any information that Master should know
regarding this slave's physical, mental, or emotional
state. Master will not use this information to harm the
slave in any way.

9. The slave has previously stated personal limits in a
checklist, and Master will not violate these limits without prior negotiation with and consent by the slave.

10. The slave agrees to address as
Master, unless otherwise directed. The slave agrees
to abide by such Manual of Protocol as Master ultimately creates. The slave agrees to speak respectfully to him at all times, including times not spent in a
scene. Master may address the slave in any way he
chooses that is not emotionally abusive.

11. Master will furnish the slave with such token(s) of ownership as he sees fit; the slave agrees to wear such
symbol(s) at all times, except when the slave states to do so would be inappropriate or would non-consensually involve others.

12. The slave agrees not to have any sexual encounter
other than with Master for the duration of this Contract,
except to the extent that Master is aware of and
approves such encounters. The slave will not engage
in sexual self-pleasuring actions without requesting
specific prior permission from Master.

13. The slave agrees to and understands that minor
infractions of this Agreement will be dealt with through
Correction, and that continued inappropriate behavior
or material breach of contract will be Punished by
withdrawing attention for a specified period, and/or by
administering manageable physical discipline in private. Any Correction or Punishment will end in debriefing and forgiveness.

14. If the slave commits an act that violates the trust that
Master has placed in the slave, a third party (selected
by Master if not mutually agreed upon) will be chosen
to hear the issue and to administer a Consequence.

• The slave agrees to abide by any Ruling made in
such a case.

• There will be a debriefing and forgiveness that will
complete the cycle.

• Time with this slave-in-training must not take away
from established times with members of Master's
Leather Family.

Fluid Bonding

Unprotected sexual intimacy is a very special Gift between
Master and the slave. Master will provide the slave with a hardcopy of his STD report, and agrees that since that STD report, he
has not had unprotected sex with any person outside the Family,
and will not have unprotected sex with any other person outside
the Family while fluid bonded with this slave.

In a general sense, fluid bonding between Master and this slave
will occur once these terms and conditions have been met on
both sides:

• Test negative for all STDs in a test taken at an appropriate time after last sexual encounter with another
person.

• Agree that ALL future sex partners are pre-negotiated.

• Agree that ALL future sex partners will use condoms
during intercourse.

• If there is a lapse by either party when striving to conform to these conditions, the party who has had the
lapse will return to this negotiated state by immediately
bringing this issue - like any other moral/ethical issue
- to the other person's attention.

• In the event of an episode of unprotected sex, there
will then be a period of protected sex between this
slave and Master sufficient to enable the lapsed person to be retested for STDs and to obtain test results.

Master will...

• Use the slave in any way he so desires, and for any
purpose he desires.

• Encourage the slave to explore his/her slave heart.

• Serve as a Guide for the slave in the slave's quest for
submission and spiritual connection through BDSM.

• Give the slave Directives and Instructions that may
carry beyond their physical time together.

• Provide the slave such tokens of ownership as he
chooses.

• Correct inappropriate behavior in whatever manner he
chooses. Such correction will end in debriefing and
forgiveness.

EXAMPLE OF A COMPLICATED CONTRACT

Here is an example of a very complicated (but specific) contract,
taken from many different sources, both from books and websites. Obviously, you will need to negotiate your own limits prior
to creating this or any other contract. The bulk of this material
came from a public-domain website: http://www.londonfetish-
scene.com/wipi/index.php/Contract. I sense that it's been created by an attorney with OCD, but that's strictly my opinion.

[Commentary on this Contract: I hasten to add that I have not
ever tried to use this contract - nor would I. I have read it carefully a number of times and have done some editing, but it does
not, in fact, sing to me. For a long-term contract, it seems to
me that the Master has allowed the slave to retain far too much
personal will. Worse, as I read some of these clauses, it would
be easy for the slave to trigger a safe period when - in reality
- Master is simply training the slave in a way that the slave finds
uncomfortable. At any rate, I'll leave it in this book because it
is so thorough, and because it should cause you to think about
clauses you would want to modify when you create your own
specific M/s contract.]

Mutual Respect

This contract describes the respective roles and responsibilities
of Master and slave. This contract assumes that each party
holds the other in equal respect; that Master and slave each think
of the other as having equal value to themselves. Master is not
better than the slave; the slave is not less than the Master.

Contract Provisions

1. I agree to please Master to the best of my ability. I
understand and accept that I now exist solely for Master's
pleasure, to be trained, disciplined, punished and rewarded
if and when Master deems it necessary.

2. My Master has agreed not to inflict any physical harm upon
my body that would require the attention of anyone outside
of our relationship, and has thoughtfully agreed that no
discipline, training, or punishment shall take place if he
has consumed any alcohol or any drug which would thus
impair his ability to keep me from any physical, mental, or
emotional harm.

3. My Master and I understand and agree that during the
period ofthis Contract, I hold veto power over any command
given by Master only under these specific circumstances:

a. Where a command conflicts with any existing laws
and may lead to fines, arrest, or prosecution.

b. Where said command may cause extreme damage
to my life, such as losing my job, causing family
stress, etc.

c. Where said command may cause long-term bodily
harm or psychological trauma.

d. Where said command is issued in a public place
that was not agreed upon beforehand, and reveals
to anyone else our relationship.

e. Where said command is issued during a time that
Master has consumed sufficient drugs or alcohol to
be considered legally under the influence of said
drugs or alcohol, thus impaired in his ability to keep
me from harm.

4. I agree to accept, without hesitation, any punishment,
reward, discipline, or training regimen my Master decides
is needed, whether earned or not, whether physical or
mental or emotional.

5. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment,
discipline, and/or training, shall not involve any of the
following, defined hereby as "Abuse:"

a. Drawing or release of blood.

b. Burning or mutilating my body in any way.

c. Drastic loss of circulation.

d. Inappropriate and hurtful language intended to
upset me (emotional or verbal abuse).

e. Internal bleeding or complications.

f. Loss of consciousness, hearing, sight, smell, touch
or taste.

g. Withholding of any necessary materials, such as
food, water, sunlight, and/or warmth, for extended
periods of time.

h. Forcing the consumption of any illegal drug in any
form at any time.

6. My Master and I have also agreed that because my body
now belongs to Master, he shall immediately undertake the
responsibility of protecting my body not only from temporary
harm, as stated directly above, but also permanent bodily
harm.

7. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment,
discipline, and/or training shall not involve any of the
following, hereby defined as "Permanent Bodily Harm:"

a. Death.

b. Any damage that involves loss of mobility or function,
including broken bones.

c. Any permanent marks on the skin, including scars,
burns, or tattoos, unless accepted by the slave.

d. Any loss of hair, unless accepted by the slave.

e. Any piercing of the flesh which leaves a permanent
hole, unless accepted by the slave.

f. Any diseases that could result in any of the above
results, including sexually transmitted diseases.

8. My Master and I have also agreed that because my mind
now belongs to Master, he shall immediately undertake
the responsibility of protecting my mind from permanent
harm.

9. My Master and I have agreed beforehand that punishment,
discipline, and/or training, shall not involve any of the
following, hereby defined as "Permanent Mental Harm:"

a. Formal brainwashing or hypnosis sessions, unless
expressly agreed upon by the slave, and then only
by a third party trained professional.

b. Electric shock to temples or any other mind altering
application of force or energy.

c. Any mind altering drugs of any kind.

d. Sleep, food, sunlight, or other forms of deprivation
or neglect specifically designed to break down my
mental capacity in any way.

10.1 am aware that as a slave, I will be required to maintain
a positive outlook and have correct thinking, as such. I welcome Master's assistance in those areas.

11. My Master and I have agreed that at any time I may utilize
a "Safe Word," and that whatever punishment, discipline,
or training that is happening at that time shall immediately,
and without hesitation, cease, and that time shall be called
a "Safe Period," wherein the following rules shall apply:

a. During any Safe Period, Master and I shall resolve
any issues before continuing any punishment,
discipline or training.

b. I must have a valid reason for using a Safe Word,
and I must supply a specific reason each time I use
it.

c. No punishments, discipline, or training will take
place during a Safe Period, and I shall be free to
express my concerns and to speak freely without
fear of harm or punishment.

d. I understand, and willingly accept, that I will continue
to address Master with respect and love at all times,
and that deviations from this rule are subject to
punishment at a later time.

e. There is no limit to the number of times during any
given period the Safe Word may be utilized, and
thusly, Safe Periods.

12. My Master and I have agreed that I may ask for a "Free
Period" to express my concerns, and to speak freely
without fear of harm or punishment. The following rules
shall apply at all times:

a. These shall occur only once per day, and only if
requested by Master or I.

b. They shall never last more than one hour, unless
Master wishes it to continue past that time.

c. They are not cumulative.

d. My Master has complete control over when these
Free Periods shall take place, but has agreed that they shall take place on the same day that I request
it.

e. There will be no punishment, discipline or training
applied during Free Periods.