All the Things We Never Knew (17 page)

“Adorable.” I stopped chiding the schoolgirl in myself and let my shoulders fall, listening to him chat about his work (high-tech),
his kids, the toll of a bitter divorce. It felt good to fall silent; I talked all day for a living. I liked his voice—deep, but not too baritone, and he enunciated his vowels and consonants like a trained singer.

He also straightened his silverware. That combined with his precise look—shaven except for a soul patch, baby blue shirt tucked neatly in black Italian pants, shined shoes, moisturized skin—were distinct clues to perfectionism.

Was he too controlling? Was he a player? I was performing mental gymnastics to accommodate the position I'd put myself in. I imagined myself bolting to the door and then fantasized about reaching over to touch his hand. The kind of normalcy Colin seemed to embody was so infectious. I placed both of my hands at my side. Slow down.

“So, what's your story?” he said, unaware of the minefield he'd just entered.

“Ahh, where do I start?” I said, editing myself. “One daughter, Sophie. She's nine.”

“How long have you been divorced?” he asked, toying with the toothpick in his martini.

“I'm not divorced.”

There was a long pause on both sides of the booth. I couldn't lie; I'd rationalized a life for Sophie that didn't include divorce.

“Wow, you seemed really unmarried last night.” He looked at my ring finger.

“Yeah, I took it off three years ago.”

I'd had one brief but intense affair within those three years. Richard was an out-of-town businessman, someone whom I knew could be discreet. He was passionate and smart, and he helped me reclaim buried desire. I explained the relationship to Colin with as much brevity and honesty as I could. “He was not a long-term boyfriend,” I said. He was an ember to a much larger fire.

Colin nodded. There were deep wrinkles around his eyes, and I liked that he'd let his hair go salt-and-pepper. But there was something deeper about Colin than his drop-dead good looks. He seemed completely comfortable with himself; his gaze and his breathing
were steady and deep. I'd been around David's volatile energy for so long I'd forgotten what it was like to be with someone so calm.

“We pretty much live separate lives,” I said, surprising myself with my own candidness.

“Three years is a long time to be separated,” he said.

“Tell me about it,” I said. So that was it. I gathered my purse and started to stand.

“Wait, whoa, wait a minute.” He reached for my hand. “Please sit down.”

“I'm really sorry,” I said. “I shouldn't be here. My life—or what's left of it—is totally screwed up.” There was a part of me that couldn't believe I'd shown up in the first place. What the hell was I doing here? Why would I want to take on more complication now?

He looked at me without flinching. “And?” he laughed. “Does that mean you skip dessert?”

After hot fudge brownies and coffee, we stood outside the restaurant, one of those places that plops itself down in a residential neighborhood and manages to thrive despite its less-than-perfect location. People's homes were lit up with evening activities. In some windows you could see the glow of the television. From others, you could hear the low thump of music.

It was ten thirty, the time when many couples look at each other and either find comfort or something to ignore. David and I had taken the routine to a whole new level of ambivalence. How lovely it would feel to be touched again by any man, but especially this one. The loneliness and restlessness I'd felt for so many years welled up inside me.

“Um, I should go,” I said.

“I'd like to see you again.” Colin leaned into me, almost pressing me up against my car door.

The whites of his eyes were even brighter in this light.

Oh, for God's sake
, I found myself thinking,
this ridiculously strong attraction is purely biological.
I put my forehead on his chest and allowed myself to appreciate his smell—the cleanest, freshest masculine smell I'd smelled in a long time. I tried to place his
shampoo, his lotion, whatever it was that made this man so enticing, but no labels came to mind. He leaned down to kiss me, hovering just above my lips until I couldn't stand it any longer. I pulled him in and kissed him long and hard.

The combination of feelings was too much to process out loud. Colin's kiss had amplified every emotion world-weary adults are trained to be wary of. The dopamine raced through my body, electrifying the moment. I wanted the simplicity of romance and the exuberance of desire. I wrapped my arms around his waist. He was built like a lean pyramid, wide shoulders, narrow hips, the kind of body swimmers develop after months in the pool. He looked down at me and smiled.

The leaves above us crackled when the wind blew through them. I'd always loved fall for its profound changes in color and temperature. There was something shifting in the air.

David called from Canada when I was packing boxes in Sophie's room. I'd found a loft in the Pearl District that would do—temporarily. It wasn't the greatest place to raise a nine-year-old, but it was close to work, there was lots of light, and the rent was affordable. I planned to move in with Sophie until we could find a small house I could afford.

David's voice sounded higher than I'd ever heard it, supercharged by nerves and grief and the side effects the drugs were having on his body. He was angry with his father.

“I tried to talk to him,” he said. “He's just the same—judgmental, unforgiving. Christ, he's the most stubborn man I've ever met.”

David's father was notoriously moody; sometimes David would make the long drive to Canada only to have his father retire to his room upon his arrival.

“I am so very sorry. Your dad is a really good man in his heart,” I said.

Then, David began to wail. I could hear him open the door to
the outside, pacing the big green lawn his father had insisted on keeping, even with advanced heart disease. David's mother would need her only son, but he was of no help now.

“You can't leave me,” David cried. “I can't take it. I can't.”

“David, we don't need to talk about it now,” I said. “This isn't the time.”

He let out a sound like an animal's cry, a combination of grief and longing and bone-chilling madness.

“David, please, you're scaring me. Is Sophie okay?”

He sniffed, the door creaked back open, and his voice was nearly normal again.

“Sophie, your mom wants to talk to you.”

“Hey, Mommy!” Sophie's voice said into the phone. “I miss you soooooo much.”

“How are you, sweetheart? Is Aunt Jill taking good care of you? Are you and your dad okay?”

I asked the questions as if they were code, a secret way for her to tell the truth. What was happening up there?

“Oh, yeah, Daddy's really sad. But we went to Grandpa Lew's favorite beach, and Dad built a big fire. You know how Dad gets carried away.”

David had always been a bit of a pyromaniac. He loved watching flame dance. He built big fires in the winter and huge bonfires on the beach, but I always wondered what it was about the flame that seduced him.

“Sophie, promise me you'll stay with Aunt Jill during this trip,” I said. “I don't want you alone with Daddy.”

“Why not?” she said, innocently.

“Because. Because, honey, he's too sad to take care of you alone.”

My legs were falling asleep, the circulation cut off by sitting for so long on a hard moving box. My shoulders ached; I arched my back to try to find some relief.

“Okay. We're going to have dessert now, Mommy. I love you. Gotta go, bye!”

The phone went dead. Jill would drive Sophie, David, and her son home the next day, and then I could take Sophie to the new apartment.

I pushed myself off the box and picked up another knickknack from her dresser. The photo, bedazzled in white and red jewels, showed Sophie as a toddler, dressed in a big sun hat and baby blue sundress. We were vacationing that year at my sister's second home in Capitol Reef National Park, the place where the lightning show and new love had electrified our romance.

Sophie was resting her chin on David's head, completely relaxed, looking intently into the camera. He was staring into the camera as well, not smiling, disturbed. No, distracted. He looked completely distracted, as if his mind was racing away from the moment. There was a pink and blazing orange sun setting behind them, but David was completely unfazed by it. The photo had always stood out to me, maybe because Sophie's gaze was so intense, and maybe because I could see the beginning of David's illness in that shot.

Did he always know he was different?
I wondered.
Did he know that he harbored the beginning of a mental illness? Did his family know and minimize its importance, or even worse, keep a diagnosis from me?
I often caught David mumbling, a habit I used to think was charming. Other times, I'd catch him staring off into the distance, troubleshooting what I thought was a problem at work. Had he always been working to sublimate his feelings of anxiety and madness? Had the mere act of living been a burden, one made worse by a child, a family, a mortgage? My heart ached for him, for the man in that photo, the David I'd fallen in love with.

The phone rang again, startling me. David's voice was filled with rage. “You know what?” he screamed. “Fuck you and your fucking life. Go ahead and leave. I could give a shit.” He started to hang up, and then he screamed so viciously it scared me to my core. “You're a real bitch, you know?”

I held the phone in my hand, stunned by David's vicious attack.
Who was he? I was too paralyzed to move. I must have sat for hours on that box, its seams cutting into the skin of my legs.

No sooner had David returned with Sophie than we received news of Lew's death. I had prepared myself to tell Sophie that we were leaving, and now there was another crisis that made me feel miserable for even considering my own needs. David didn't even bother unpacking his bag—he returned home to attend a small funeral for his father. First, the divorce. And now this.

I weighed my plans for moving. How would Sophie remember this? Mom left Dad the weekend after Grandpa died? Heartless. And yet, I knew if I didn't leave soon, I might not survive. I was losing weight, emotionally drained, emptied of energy and joy. The night with Colin had changed something for sure. He had reminded me what it was like to be alive, not just living, not just going through the motions.

But the notion of abandoning someone who was doomed now loomed over every choice I made. I knew if I left David in this state he wouldn't make it. I'd held on ten years. Surely, I could wait a few more weeks until he was stronger.

David returned from Canada more distant than ever before. He ignored me when I spoke to him about the details of the funeral, of Sophie's life, of his grief. He paced the house at all hours of the night. He refused to eat anything I'd cook.

After David's mother settled Lew's affairs, she agreed to come to Portland to help take care of David. I rushed from work to pick her up from the 6:10 train. Alice was a willow of a woman made even frailer by the death of her husband. As I drove up, I could see the tan slacks that bagged around her and the red scarf around her head that covered thinning, stressed hair. She was standing on the corner by the train station in the red coat I'd bought her eight years earlier for her birthday. She was in her early seventies now. She was still gorgeous, with the bone structure of a movie star and a mind that was lightning fast.

She was also English, no nonsense, brisk about her business and the order of life. “Hello, dear.” She kissed me on the side of the cheek. “Thank you for picking me up.” She folded her scarf into neat triangles before placing it in a plastic bag inside her purse.

As we drove, the wiper blades thumped against the windshield. I tried to give her the most direct version of what had happened. “It's been really bad the last year, Alice. David refused to get help.”

She blinked when I told her this.

“I think he's been sick a long time.”

“Well, it would seem to me losing your father and your marriage all in one month might send any of us a little crazy.” She sighed. “Psychiatrists, all just a bunch of nonsense, if you ask me. Suggesting you look at your navel for the answers to problems. I understand David's resistance completely.”

Psychiatrists, nonsense? Alice had just dismissed Adele's field of expertise and given me far more understanding into David's refusal to get help.

She looked out the window at the homeless people lining up outside the soup kitchen. “What a shame,” she said absentmindedly. There was an order Alice expected from the world, and it occurred to me that the world often disappointed her. We drove the rest of the way home in silence. I clutched the steering wheel until my knuckles were white.

We drove past the Pearl district, where I'd met Colin for the first time. How odd it must have been for her to learn the details of our crumbling marriage now. Ten years she'd missed. David never really shared his life with anyone. As she straightened her back in her seat, Alice's way in the world reminded me of my marital obligations.