Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad

“Unbelievably heartwarming and hysterically funny. Dan Bucatinsky’s stories are beautiful, capturing the ways children challenge and teach their parents about living.”


n 2005, Dan Bucatinsky and his partner, Don Roos, found themselves in an L.A. delivery room, decked out in disposable scrubs from shower cap to booties, to welcome their adopted baby girl—launching their frantic yet memorable adventures into fatherhood. Two and a half years later, the same birth mother—a heroically generous, pack-a-day teen with a passion for
marathons and Mountain Dew—delivered a son into the couple’s arms. In
Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?
Bucatinsky moves deftly from sidesplitting stories about where kids put their fingers to the realization that his athletic son might just grow up to be straight and finally to a reflection on losing his own father just as he’s becoming one. Bucatinsky’s soul-baring and honest stories tap into that all-encompassing, and very human, hunger to be a parent—and the life-changing and often ridiculous road to getting there.


Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?
Dan Bucatinsky captures the joys, terrors, and absurdities of being a gay parent. But this funny, touching book is for all parents—gay or straight.”

—DAN SAVAGE, author of
The Kid

“This book will make you laugh, cry, cringe in sympathy, and delight along with Dan, his husband, and his two adorable kids.”

—AYELET WALDMAN, author of
Bad Mother

“Oh my GOD, I LOVE this book. It’s a hilarious account of Dan’s journey through life, love, Hollywood, and fatherhood. It’s brilliant and SO funny.”


is an actor, writer, and producer. His credits include the indie comedy film
All Over the Guy
and with producing partner, Lisa Kudrow, the Emmy-nominated HBO series
The Comeback
, the Showtime series
Web Therapy
, and NBC’s
Who Do You Think You Are?
He lives in Los Angeles with his husband and their two kids.






Praise for
Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?

“I read Dan’s compelling and ‘modern’ book in almost one sitting, and when my face wasn’t in my hands laughing myself silly, I was touched and moved by Dan’s ability to stay in his heart.”

—Jane Lynch

“Okay. I know Dan. We’ve worked together for almost ten years. I’ve never seen him naked. But after reading his book, I feel like I’ve seen him without a stitch, no cover, completely bare. I also saw myself in this as a parent and thought, ‘Oh, I’m not alone with my thoughts.’ It’s good not to be all alone with these feelings and as is usual for me, Dan is the perfect company to keep.”

—Lisa Kudrow

“Few people make me laugh as much as Dan Bucatinsky, but I was not prepared this time to be crying between the guffaws. This is a book I will return to again and again for its humor—that’s a no-brainer—but for its sly wisdom as well.”

—Terrence McNally, Tony Award–winning playwright

“I had every intention of simply enjoying this book on the toilet, but after reading the first page it went to my night-stand and from there to the family room, where I read paragraphs out loud to friends. This book is hysterically funny and beyond bold. Dan Bucatinsky just goes for it and says the things you didn’t realize you were thinking.

—Max Mutchnick, creator of
Will and Grace

“Loved how Dan bounced from crazy silly to gut-wrenching and heartwarming. His humor was the sugar that made the crystal meth of his life go down. I will be a better parent because he went places and made some mistakes so I don’t have to. Adoption is so difficult and just being in a relationship is hard enough, but as he made clear in the book, so frickin’ worth it.”

—Tom Arnold

“This is a smart, funny, relatable, and altogether human book. How are families made? With love, and courage, and laughter, and grace—all abundantly present in this terrific story. I wish Dan Bucatinsky lived next door to me so we could kvell and kvetch together about our beautiful kids and the complexities of modern parenthood.”

—Dani Shapiro, author of the bestselling memoir
Slow Motion

“Once I put my kid to bed, this book made me laugh out loud late into the night. The perils of parenting as told by Dan are hilarious and heartbreaking and utterly recognizable to anyone who has a child. Brilliant.”

—Shonda Rhimes, creator of
Grey’s Anatomy

“I devoured this book. I love Dan’s story, his kids, and his writing.”

—Jennifer Garner

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