I'm Down: A Memoir (4 page)

“Well,” Dad said, signing a clipboard and cementing that we were, in fact, in the right place. “Looks like you guys are good to go.” I guess by “good to go,” he meant that we weren’t standing on broken glass. But I smiled weakly, and I think he sensed my apprehension, because he got down on one knee, straightened my overalls, looked me right in the eye, and said, “Just, don’t take any shit,” before walking out the door.

We were then led into the playroom, and other than the counselor who had checked us in, there was not an adult in sight. I quickly got out of the way as two bigger kids threw the red rubber balls at a younger kid’s head—some sort of two-on-one dodgeball. In the far corner there was a group of girls who were probably around nine, but looked like they were about sixteen. They laughed as they looked at a boy four feet away who was sitting on the ground crying. I decided to avoid eye contact and found a pole near the far side of the room to lean against. That’s when I realized—everyone was staring at me.

I heard a wail from across the room that was directed at me, but loud enough to grab everyone’s attention: “W’sup, marsh-mallow turd!”

I turned and saw it was coming from Caprice, a girl whose mother had braided half her head and then, I guess, moved on to something else.

“Nothing,” I said, and went to grab my little sister’s hand and lead her out of harm’s way—thinking of my allowance. That’s when I realized Anora was gone. Probably looking for
something dirty or poisonous to put in her mouth. I was all alone and being surrounded. The boys with the kick balls, the girls from the corner—everyone closed in on me as Caprice walked over and got in my face.

“Nothing? Is that what you said, Wonder Bread?” Caprice put a hand on her hip. “You look like your mama’s on welfare!” I desperately wanted to point out that that was like the pot calling the kettle white, but my lips had sealed themselves together with some sort of pussy glue.

Then a nine-year-old boy with an earring chimed in, “She’s so white, we got to wear shades inside.” And the group of kids that had been gathering started laughing like it was the funniest thing anyone had ever said. That’s when I found my sister. She was next to another girl her age, laughing herself to death. It was around this time I began to seriously question my father’s wisdom in sending us to this particular child-care facility.

At around noon, lunch arrived, which brought the promise of some order to the day. I took my government-issued sack lunch out of the cardboard box and took stock. The brown bag contained: a bologna-and-American-cheese sandwich that was smushed into a weird shape in transport, a fruit that was mutantly small—but big enough to smush a bologna-and-American-cheese sandwich—a bag of chips, and a milk—condiments on the side. It didn’t seem so bad, but I didn’t realize at the time that I would be eating it almost every summer for the rest of my life.

My sister sat with a girl her age, and as much as I wanted the company, I wasn’t up for begging my little sister to let me hang with her. So I sat down in a corner behind a pole and began to eat my sandwich. I had just started on my sandwich when I got hit with what can only be described as an “arcing
rope” of mayonnaise. I looked up and the boy with the earring was doubled over—pointing to my goo-covered face and shirt. And as I wiped mayonnaise off my cheek with a napkin, the boy with the earring threw the empty packet at me and said, “There you go, mayonnaise!” Then he proceeded to bend over and take my chips—the only part of the lunch that didn’t taste like refrigerator.

Over the course of our first day at GSCC, my sister made two friends, and I managed to crawl into my skin, the way one does when experiencing third-degree burns. And when my father came to pick us up, I could no longer use words. I grunted hello to him, and got in his pickup. It didn’t help that he was an hour and a half late, which meant that we were stuck waiting with the impatient counselor—and Darnell, the kid who smelled like pee.

On the ride home, my sister and I shared the passenger-side safety belt, which meant that I couldn’t ignore her as she excitedly recapped the day’s events to our dad.

“I have two new friends, Dad!” Anora said proudly. “Gitana and Rene. Rene and I made Chinese jacks and Gitana wants to do my hair.”

“That’s great, baby,” Dad said. “What about you, Mishna? You meet some folks?” But before I could say, “No, Dad. People hate me. Why would you send me to that evil lair of cruelty and injustice?” my sister was chiming in.

“Mishna met some people.” Then she laughed. “She got roasted.” Dad looked at me disappointed, and he could see it in my face—I did get roasted.

“Mishna,” Dad said. “You can’t let people disrespect you. Get in people’s face. Be like, ‘Don’t mess with me!’ Remember, you’re my daughter. Throw an elbow if you have to.”

“Okay, Dad,” I said. But what I was thinking was,
I know what he’s telling me to do, but how come it’s so hard for me to do it?

I had to admit to myself that I wasn’t the most articulate kid. In fact, if I needed to express myself, I had learned that my best bet was to break something and hurt myself to get my point across. Hurting myself was like my sign language. For example: Breaking glass and getting cut meant, “I strongly disagree.” And hitting the wall until I broke a knuckle meant, “You have a point, but you aren’t seeing the whole picture.” And curling up into a ball in the fetal position and crying meant, “This isn’t over.”

But none of these devices seemed to work at GSCC. When I hit the wall with my fist because someone said my mother was so bucktoothed that she could eat corn on the cob through a fence—everyone just laughed at me more. Plus, the counselors got pissed at me for making them find the first-aid kit. So, I was defenseless and mute the rest of the week at Government Subsidized Charity Club.

And that week was hell. My whiteness was the butt of every joke. And with every public humiliation I became more sensitive, not less. So, as a last resort, I tried to avoid everyone. If someone looked at me, I moved out of their field of vision as quickly as possible. If someone looked like they were about to talk to me, I walked away. And at every opportunity, I found nooks to crawl into and places to hide. After a day or so of avoiding all human contact, I started to think of myself as stealthness itself, like a phantom lurking through the shadows—or better yet, like a ninja.

I had just settled into a broom closet with,
Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret
when one of the counselors flung the closet door open and stood angrily above me, tapping her foot.

“What’s wrong? What are you doing reading in here all by yourself?”

“I’m really comfortable in here, if you just want to close the door.”

But instead she said, “No! What you need to do, is you need to go join the rest of the kids!” I popped my head out of the closet and looked across the room. Rodney, an obese child, was setting his friend’s jeans on fire. While Jamal, the boy with the earring, pointed out that a younger boy had a crooked dick.

“Please can I stay here?” I asked.

The counselor said without hesitation, “I can’t watch you in no closet!”

But I just sat there unable to move, hoping she would change her mind and let me stay. I put on my most imploring face, but she just started looking at her nails. I tried opening my book again, and she cleared her throat and rolled her eyes. And while she looked at me impatiently, I slinked out of the closet and joined the rest of the kids.

Jamal welcomed me with a “skitch” to the back of the head. That’s basically like hitting someone in the back of the head, but you graze it. So to the untrained adult eye, it looks playful.

Then Caprice belted out, “Her ass is so flat, it looks like two saltine crackers that done lost they box!” Kids cackled and pointed and grabbed their chins and said, “Cap” and “Roast.”

“What are they doing?” I asked Darnell, because his pee smell made him accessible to me.

“Well,” Darnell said. “You just got capped on. That roast is ’cause you’re roasted.”

“Capped on?” I asked. But I was too low on the totem pole for even the pee-kid to talk to me for very long.

He just said, “Yeah,” as he walked away.

And so, I found out that day that what was happening to me was called, “getting capped on.” And it wasn’t about the intelligence of the insult. Caprice and Jamal were not particularly clever, but they had confidence and could work a crowd like Marc Antony. The one who needed to borrow some ears.

I became immediately fascinated with Caprice and Jamal’s fearlessness. When I looked at capping as a skill, it was completely foreign and exciting to me. In fact, half the time, the caps didn’t even make sense. Caprice came up to me on the side porch that day and said, “You look like a broke-down Teddy Ruxpin.” And even though I didn’t get it, people laughed. I wanted that kind of confidence. And later that day when Jamal said I was “a powdered dooky doughnut,” a voice rang out clear as a bell in my head:
Hey, I’m funnier than this guy!

I had no idea where the voice had come from, since I had never even told a joke. But the voice was uncanny, and for whatever reason, I believed it.

So for that next week at GSCC, I got taken down over and over again by their caps. But at night, I practiced capping like an upstart fighter training for a championship. I had seen that movie
Rocky
and I fancied myself kind of like Rocky, if he could talk. I practiced in the mirror, trying to place my hand on my hip just so, while rolling my neck for emphasis. I tried snapping in a
Z
. I tried closing my eyes and waving my hand in the air. And I tried every possible ending for a sentence that starts out: “Your mama.”

The next Monday morning, as my sister joined her friends Gitana and Rene jumping rope. I walked into the playroom with my usual apprehension and took a seat on the floor with my copy of
Highlights
, Jamal, the earring-wearing terror, saw me from across the room and headed toward me with a self-satisfied look on his face. Caprice and posse followed closely
behind him, as Jamal swaggered up to me and said with a smirk, “Morning, Mush-na.”

The other kids laughed and said, “Ooooh,” which hardly seemed called for. But it baited Caprice to one-up him.

“Look at her,” Caprice said. “She’s such a cracker, if she has a bowl of soup she dunks herself.”

The crowd ate it up, and in an attempt to soak up some of Caprice’s laughs, Jamal repeated her punch line as though he had come up with it. “She dunks herself!” The desired result was achieved—the attention returned to Jamal.

What happened next was one of the most magical moments of my entire life. I remember turning to Jamal and the words coming out of my mouth as if in slow motion: “
Am I being talked to by a burnt chocolate chip cookie?
” I had the neck roll and everything.

The cap came out of my mouth before I thought it through and was an amalgamation of things I had heard around, so it surprised me when a girl named Myvette shouted, “It’s true! He dark!” And I realized I had just told a “He’s-so-black joke.”

The crowd was surprised and started roaring, and so I decided to push my luck. I took a second to regroup before striking again—this time at Caprice. I put my hand on my hip and said, “Your mama’s so lazy, Jesus will come back before she finishes your hair!”

The laughs of the excited kids washed over me like manna. They grabbed their chins and cried “Cap!” and “Roast!” They pointed at Jamal and Caprice. Then something happened that I hadn’t expected—something wonderful. Rodney slapped me five! Even with a messed-up knuckle it felt good.

That summer I learned Uno, and Chinese jump rope, and Chinese checkers, and Chinese jacks and double Dutch. I
learned hand-slapping chants that had the N-word in them—I had no idea what I was saying. Like “Downtown Baby,” which was totally inappropriate for me to be chanting, but none of us knew that. I went through the various hand slaps and acted out gestures with Caprice and Gitana chanting along with them:

Downtown baby—down by the roller coaster
(roller coaster with your hand)

Sweet sweet baby—I’ll never let you go
(hugging yourself)

Just because I kiss you—don’t mean I love you so

I like coffee—I like tea

I like the colored boy—and he likes me

I say, Hey, white boy!—if you ain’t shy

Call me a n***** and I’ll beat your behind!

I also learned that if I wanted friends, picking up bugs was a no-no. And I got better at capping every day. I was pretty good for a white girl. But there were other cappers who were better than me, for sure. At night I would lie in the top bunk of my room and fantasize.

Maybe if I come back every summer and really practice capping . . . maybe one day, I could be the best.
Then it hit me,
Maybe I could even find a way to cap for a living?
That seemed too good to be true, so I second-guessed my own fantasy.
Nah . . . I’ll just stick with being an anesthesiologist,
I thought as I lay in bed sniffing my Mr. Sketch markers.
Or a
Solid Gold
Dancer. Yeah, like the pretty white one with the crimped hair
. I threw my head against my pillow as I contemplated my preferred order of things I wanted to be when I grew up:

Solid Gold
Dancer

Capper

Anesthesiologist

Governor (presidents have a tendency to get shot)

Assassin (someone needs to do all that shooting)

About halfway through the summer we started to have visits with our mother. I saw this down time as an opportunity to take my capping to the next level. Mom had moved into the top floor of the house of a solar architect and his family, and she was a Buddhist now—it was “part of her process.”

So when we got to her house and checked out our room, I told her, “You ain’t no Buddhist, you’re a booty-ist.”

“What did you say?” she asked.