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Authors: Jennifer Finney Boylan

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Stuck in the Middle With You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders

ALSO BY JENNIFER FINNEY BOYLAN
STORIES
Remind Me to Murder You Later
NOVELS
The Planets
The Constellations
Getting In
MEMOIR
She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders
I’m Looking Through You: Growing Up Haunted
YOUNG ADULT
Falcon Quinn and the Black Mirror
Falcon Quinn and the Crimson Vapor
ANTHOLOGIES
It Gets Better
(D
AN
S
AVAGE &
T
ERRY
M
ILLER
,
EDS
.)
The Book of Dads
(B
EN
G
EORGE
,
ED
.)
Love Is a Four-Letter Word
(M
ICHAEL
T
AECKENS
,
ED
.)
How Beautiful the Ordinary: Twelve Stories of Identity
(M
ICHAEL
C
ART
,
ED
.)
Kings and Queens: Queers at the Prom
(D
AVID
B
OYER
,
ED
.)
Sexual Metamorphosis
(J
ONATHAN
A
MES
,
ED
.)
Truth and Dare: Love, Life, and Falling on Your Face
(L
IZ
M
ILES
,
ED
.)
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Copyright © 2013 by Jennifer Finney Boylan

All rights reserved.
Published in the United States by Crown Publishers, an imprint of the Crown Publishing Group, a division of Random House, Inc., New York.
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Portions of this book first appeared, in different form, in the
New York Times
and on
Slate.com
. Portions of “Jupiter” were commissioned by the Richard Hugo House and were first performed at Town Hall in Seattle.

Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Boylan, Jennifer Finney, 1958–
Stuck in the middle with you : parenthood in three genders a memoir / by Jennifer Finney Boylan; and featuring conversations with Richard Russo, Trey Ellis, Augusten Burroughs, Edward Albee, Timothy Kreider, Ann Beattie, Susan Minot & other parents and former children; with an afterword by Anna Quindlen.
1. Boylan, Jennifer Finney, 1958—Family.   2. Novelists, American—20th century—Biography.   3. English teachers—United States—Biography.   4. Male-to-female transsexuals—Family relationships—United States.   5. Parents—United States—Interviews.   6. Children—United States—Interviews.   7. Gender identity—United States. 8. Families—United States.   I. Title.
PS3552.O914Z478 20013
818′.5403—dc23           2012025579

eISBN: 978-0-307-95284-4

Jacket design by Christopher Brand
Frontispiece photograph: © Heather Perry
Photograph,
this page
: Courtesy of the author

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FOR DEIRDRE
[
BRIGHT STAR
]
AND
ZACH AND SEAN
[
SONS FOR THE HOUSE OF FRANKENSTEIN
]
The Boylans in Maine, summer 2012
.

Cover

Other Books by This Author

Title Page

Copyright

Dedication

C
AVEAT
E
MPTOR

Epigraph

I.    DADDY

R
ED
C
ARD
T
HE
P
LOVER

S
E
GG
I’
M
A
WAKE
. I’
M
A
WAKE
.
TIME OUT I: CONVERSATIONS
WITH
FATHERS
AND
SONS
R
ICHARD
R
USSO
R
ALPH
J
AMES
S
AVARESE
T
REY
E
LLIS
A
UGUSTEN
B
URROUGHS

II.   MADDY

T
HAT

LL
T
EACH

EM A
L
ESSON
T
HE
O
RPHAN
G
IRL
T
HE
G
RIFFIN
TIME OUT II: CONVERSATIONS
WITH
WAIFS
AND
ANGELS
E
DWARD
A
LBEE
B
ARBARA
S
PIEGEL
T
IMOTHY
K
REIDER

III.  MOMMY

T
HE
J
UMBLE
T
HE
M
UFFLE
V
OICE
I’
LL
G
IVE
Y
OU
S
OMETHING TO
C
RY
A
BOUT
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N THE
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ALL OF THE
M
OUNTAIN
K
ING
TIME OUT III: CONVERSATIONS
WITH
MOTHERS
AND
DAUGHTERS
C
HRISTINE
M
C
G
INN
A
NN
B
EATTIE
V
ERONICA
G
ERHARDF
S
USAN
M
INOT

POSTLUDE: A
NTI
-V
ENOM

AFTERWORD: S
AME
M
ONKEYS
, D
IFFERENT
B
ARREL

A CONVERSATION
WITH
JENNIFER
AND
DEIRDRE BOYLAN
BY
A
NNA
Q
UINDLEN

R
ESOURCES

A
CKNOWLEDGMENTS

About the Author

I
T IS NOW
customary for literary memoirs to begin with a little note in which the author analyzes the egregiousness of her various fabrications. While I hope my sins are venial, a full disclaimer for this book, along with a realm of other entertaining material, may be found at
www.jenniferboylan.net
. There’s a contact tab there as well, for readers who want to write.

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