The Happiness Trap (27 page)
setting,
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vs values,
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going ‘off track’,
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grieving
expansion session transcript,
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initial feelings,
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power of breathing,
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recovery,
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grizzly bears, meeting,
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guilt trips,
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happiness
on hold,
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health
neglected,
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values,
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heart, follow your,
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hiding strategy,
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hostile neighbour analogy,
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human mind
as storyteller,
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evolution of,
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thought process,
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hyperventilation,
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ice cream experiment,
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‘I’m having the thought that...’,
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images
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explained,
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‘imposter syndrome’,
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incompetence, belief of,
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intimate relationships, values,
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James, Henry,
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judgements,
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‘learning history’,
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leisure, values,
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life
consider changes,
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looking back on,
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Life Values questionnaire,
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light bulb invention,
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listening,
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loneliness, defusing feeling,
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Man’s Search for Meaning (book),
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marriage, values,
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meditation,
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memories, painful,
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men, suppression of feelings,
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mental pictures
see images
mental suffering,
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mind
see human mind
mindfulness
breathing technique,
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effect on life,
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explained,
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practising,
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of world around,
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mindfulness meditation,
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‘misery zone’,
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mistakes,
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moods,
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morning routine, connecting with,
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motivational books,
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motivations
core values,
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examining,
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multiple sclerosis diagnosis,
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musical soundtrack,
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musical thoughts,
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myths about happiness,
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nature, values,
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Nazi death camps, survival in,
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negative feelings,
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negative thoughts
defusion techniques,
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demotivating,
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not the enemy,
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recurring,
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unjustified,
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newspaper stories,
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Nietzsche, Friedrich,
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Notice Five Things exercise,
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numbing strategy,
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OBSERVE acronym,
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observing
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process of,
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vs thinking,
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observing self, the
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connection,
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in everyday life,
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experiencing,
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function,
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qualities,
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weather analogy,
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obstacles
see difficulties
opportunities
often missed,
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vs difficulties,
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opposites, attraction of,
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optimism, attitude of,
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overweight,
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pain of living,
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panic disorder,
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Passion of the Christ, The (film),
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past, accepting,
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perfection,
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personal development, values,
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personal dislikes,
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personal growth, choice,
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physical exercise,
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positive thoughts radio analogy,
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present, being
see connection
problems
reaction to,
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sharing,
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vicious cycles,
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common,
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quicksand analogy,
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quotes, inspiring,
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radio analogy,
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reason-giving,
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recreation, values,
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reflex reactions,
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rejection, avoiding,
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Relational Frame Theory,
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relationships, values,
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riches
as goal,
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underlying values,
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Robert the Bruce,
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Roberts, Julia,
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running commentary,
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sadness,
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self
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dislikes about,
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identifying,
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self-acceptance,
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self-awareness,
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self-blame,
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self-bullying strategy,
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self-criticism,
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self-esteem
building,
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letting go of,
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low,
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questions and answers,
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self-help movement,
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self-talk,
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sensations, observing,
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Serenity Challenge,
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silly subtitles technique,
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silly voices technique,
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‘single and lonely’ story,
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social interaction avoiding,
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seeking,
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solutions become problems,
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sounds, awareness of,
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spirituality, values,
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stories
dirty dog wash,
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‘give up’,
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inspirational,
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naming,
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not the event,
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recurring,
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‘single and lonely’,
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thoughts as,
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unhelpful,
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struggle switch
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physical reactions,
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success
personal choices,
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redefining,
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suppression strategy,
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survival
strength for,
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techniques,
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taking charge strategy,
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television screen technique,
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Ten Deep Breaths,
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thanking your mind technique,
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thinking self, the
biased life documentary,
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causing disconnection,
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constantly working,
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distraction of,
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experiencing,
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judgemental,
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put to good use,
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stories about emotions,
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thinking vs observing,
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as stories,
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cognitive fusion,
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control questionnaire,
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controlling,
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distancing from,
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effect on behaviour,
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helpful,
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illusion of control,
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managing,
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musical,
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not taken seriously,
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practise noticing,
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process explained,
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unhelpful,
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see also negative thoughts; positive thoughts
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unhelpful,
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uncertainty, embracing,
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unhelpful thoughts
defusion,
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emotions,
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fusion,
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radio analogy,
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urge surfing,
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urges
awareness of,
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balancing act,
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push and pull,
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response to,
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‘Valued Living Questionnaire’,
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values
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as motivators,
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