Read The Secrets Of Female Sexuality Online
Authors: David Shade
How many women can say they have experienced what it’s like to have a cock?
Do it to your woman, and she will be in total amazement, and she will KNOW that you are her MASTER!
It was at that point in my learning that I knew that I was going to devote my energies to teaching men how they can give their women wild screaming orgasms.
Again, this information only pertains to mentally healthy women. In fact, it best fits women who are intelligent, high self-esteem, and highly sexual.
And when I say, “women this” and “women that,” I mean MOST women. Certainly there are exceptions to everything.
And this only applies to women who you intend to see on a continuing basis. It does not apply to one night stands. The most important reason for this is because only women who take you seriously are going to respond to this.
Remember, when you lead a woman, you are responsible for her.
You must be a responsible leader.
And all of this is absolutely in the context of enhancing a relationship that is based on trust and intimacy. It is all for the enhancement of the relationship.
Basically, this stuff only works on “the really worthy ones.” As it should.
And this is not about having power over women. This is about “being powerful” and about “empowering her.”
Most importantly, you want to get your woman to a point of total abandonment.
Always know that women actually like sex. A lot. They like it often, and they like it good. If a woman does not want sex often, it is because it is not good. Follow this general rule:
Once they do have it, they become addicted to it. Nothing else ever compares. You can ruin it for all the other guys.
If the woman has been with a truly exciting lover before, that's actually a good thing, because she has to have it again. She will always long for it. Once she meets you, and she begins to recognize that you can make her feel all those things again, she will powerfully respond.
Men need to understand that there is a massive amount of untapped sexual potential in women. It is there in a woman. Everything you need to fulfill a woman is already within her. You simply need to tap into that. And only a man can do that for her. And thus, men have a tremendous amount of power. More than they know.
Many men complain that women have all the power. They argue that a woman can simply walk into a night club and say to a man, “Let's go and have sex,” and it's a done deal. But those men do not understand where the real power is.
What she really wants is a personally powerful man who will lead her through all those experiences that bring out the natural woman in her. Women may not know this, and they certainly are unable to articulate it, but it is exactly what they respond to. And such a man is an extremely rare thing to find. Such a man has a tremendous amount of power, because she has to have that, and she reacts so very powerfully to it.
Ultimately, all of us men want to feel like a man. We have various ways of experiencing that. For some of us we look for it in sexual conquests. For some of us it is conquests of power or money. But for most men, I have found that he really feels like a man when his woman believes in him completely and does all those naughty taboo things with him.
Napoleon Hill wrote that, “Man's greatest motivating force is to please woman.”
If a man is with a woman he can't please, he will go on to the next one. And women need to understand that it is very important to him to please her. If she doesn't give him that opportunity, he will go find a woman who will.
The underlying basis of all social interaction between a man and a woman who just met is sexual, plain and simple. It is not articulated, it happens subconsciously. It is what is on both people's minds.
You are the masculine complement to her femininity. She is the feminine complement to your masculinity. There is nothing more natural than a man and a woman getting together.
Don't think about getting sex. Instead, think about giving her really good sex. And there is certainly opportunity out there. That is the correct motivation.
The correct intent is to bring out the decadent, primal, carnal, insatiably hungry, ruthlessly expressive natural sexual woman in her. That will drive all the rest.
Many guys see women as the obstacle to get around to get to the sex. Wrong!
Many men are angry with women. They blame all women for the few women who dumped them or shunned them. Wrong! There is not a grand scheme among women against you. Quite the contrary. Women are actually rooting for men. Women honestly and truly want men to fulfill women. However, women usually cannot articulate how men can fulfill women.
Instead, believe in women. Have empathy and compassion for women. Be fascinated by women. Genuinely get to know and understand women. The more you do, the more fun it becomes.
Demand that you be treated with respect. Treat others with respect. Associate only with those who treat you with respect. Treat yourself with respect. A woman can only have respect for you if you treat yourself with respect.
To command respect, you are self-reliant and a responsible person.
You must command respect in order for her to take what you say seriously. She must take what you say seriously in order for her to become responsive to you.
And at the same time respect the fact that she wants to be slutty!
In order for her to surrender to you completely, she must trust you completely. You must earn her trust. You do this by demonstrating that you are trust-worthy.
This is very simple. Do not violate her trust. Do what you say you are going to do. Do not do what you say you are not going to do. And rise to the occasions in all the little opportunities that make themselves available for you to demonstrate that you are trust-worthy.
Stand tall, tell the truth, live a life of integrity, and live up to your responsibilities.
Many men are afraid to be a man. As you look back, you can probably find that most of your bad decisions and failures can be
directly attributed to the fact that you were afraid to be a man. I know I can certainly say that.
Those men who get told by women, “Let's just be friends,” are men who are afraid to be men. They are afraid to assert their masculinity in order to not risk the friendship they have with the woman. They think that if they voice their attraction for her, that she will dismiss them. In some cases it may happen, but certainly not in most. Such men are left in a drought.
All of the men who are successful at bringing out the natural sexual creature in their woman are men who are passionate about it.
You must do this with absolute conviction, absolute determination. There can be no crack in your armor, there can be no crack in your voice, or it won't be believable. Only when it is believable is it going to work. You are leading, and she will only follow if she sees you as believable.
When you bring your woman out on a date, know what you are going to do. Know what time it is going to happen. Know where you are going to take her for dinner. Know where you are going to take her dancing.
Of course, you are flexible too. If she suggests something else, you can do that.
In our modern world, women are busy during the week with their lives, such as working, getting an education, and so forth. Women want to be respected for their intellect and accomplishments, as they should. That's all good. But on Saturday night, she doesn't want to have the responsibilities of the date. She wants to feel like a woman. She wants to enjoy the classic role of being a woman. She wants the man to be the man.
That sets the basis for everything. It is a context in which the man leads and the woman follows.
Romance is the socially acceptable term for sexuality. In the context of romance, sexuality is acceptable.
There is a lot of symbolism in romance. Take advantage of those symbols. Learn how to fold an ordinary paper napkin into a paper rose.
In the context of romance, she can begin to feel all those things that women want to feel. It's just like the romance novel.
And you don't have to be in love to have romance. And you don't have to be in a classic dating situation to have romance. And being romantic does not mean that you are in a classic dating situation.
Romance elicits all the wonderful dreams she had as a little girl.
And that is the context in which sexuality can emerge.
Emotional connection is the lubricant to sexuality.
Women are emotional creatures, and they want to feel connected to their man.
Establish that emotional connection. Allow her to emote. But don't let it go so far such that you end up being her emotional pin cushion.
Do not try to fix her problems. Women loathe that. Instead, have empathy for her and support her. Women love that.
Show your vulnerability to her. Allow yourself to emote to her, slightly, not in a needy way, but in a way to convey connection and to slightly reveal your vulnerabilities.
How can you be an emotionally connected person but still be the man and command respect? Being emotionally connected is a manly thing. It is not contradictory.
It is only a wimpy thing when it is with lack of sexual threat. It is only wimpy when the man is sexually harmless.
The truly skillful lover simply knows when his woman is ready. You should know when she is ready to be kissed. You should know when she is ready to be entered.
There are many tests out there that tell you how to know if she is ready to be kissed. You can run them, but you need to get to the point where you simply know.
The problem with running tests is that you are not as believable. You no longer come across as being in the lead. You are not as much of a sexual threat if you are testing. Instead, you should be calibrating and leading.
And you will if you get out of your own head. Pay attention to her.
Enjoy the process. Enjoy watching the changes in her.
Everything you do must be in the context that she can simply say, “It just happened.”
Do not articulate what is going to happen. Instead, simply lead her.
What is going to happen should never be articulated, or else for her to comply is for her to articulate what is going to happen. And to do so would define her as easy, or a slut, or being in the lead. And that is not the woman's role.
Instead, simply move things along slowly but surely using body language. Let her get lost in the passion.
She should always be able to justify it later by simply saying, “It just happened.” Monday morning she can go into work and tell her girlfriends all about it, and then say, “It just happened.” And they'll all swoon, because they know exactly what she's talking about; two people got swept away in passion.
There will be times later in the relationship when you can, and should, articulate what is going to happen, for effect.
Too many men are in a big hurry to get to the sex. That is a huge mistake.
Do not push against last minute resistance. You will be like all the other guys who objectify women and do not respect her as a real person. And it will reek of desperation.
Instead, defer your own gratification for the big goal. The big goal is to bring out that ruthlessly expressive sexual creature in her. It's going to take a little time before she becomes your very naughty horny little cum slut fuck bitch.
In fact, move things along just slightly slower than she'd like it. Make her wait. It builds that sexual tension, and it makes her think. When she is away from you, she is going to think about it a lot. Because it is that time away from you that she becomes close to you.
That is early in the relationship. Later in the relationship, there will be times when you will initiate sex when she least expects it.
Most women are sexually submissive creatures. They respond to a dominant man. Be comfortable in that role.
Here's a good example. If she is wearing a T-shirt or a sweatshirt, pull the shirt over her head, but keep it on her arms. This lightly restrains her arms. It's called “The Hockey shirt trick.”
While laying down and making out with her, hold her hands above her head.
While standing and making out with her, hold one hand behind her head, and the other behind the small of her back. Then move her backwards until your elbows smash into the wall. She will not be hurt, your elbows will take all the blow.
It is all symbolism. Many of these light restraints she could easily get out of, but it's the symbolism that is powerful.
This is an egg shaped vibrator that is turned on and off by radio remote control. You hold the remote! A totally awesome way to demonstrate your dominance.
Makes dining out most interesting.
This is the magic dust of instant turn-on for her.
Tell her how much she turns you on. Demonstrate to her how much she turns you on. Tell her how you think of her when you masturbate.
During intercourse, especially at the climax, be expressive.
Women love to know that their man is excited about them.
Do all these things. It works like magic.
Naughty is the enabling context for taboos.
Everything taboo that you bring her through will be done in the context of naughty. She's doing it because it's naughty. And that will get her through all those taboo things that she would never do.