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The frenulum is an area of the penis that can be pierced in order to pro- vide sexual pleasure to both partners.

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EXERCISE 5.2:
Total-Penis Stimulation

1. Using two fingers, press into his perineum. Gripping the penis with the other hand, caress the glans for about ten seconds before giving the shaft one quick up-and-down stroke.
   
2. Repeat, only this time give the penis two quick up-and-down strokes. Repeat, giving three quick strokes. Continue this process until he reaches climax.
   
3. If you don’t want for him to climax quickly, change the type of stimulation and “milk” him. Alternating hands, start at the base of the penis and work your way up to the tip, as though “milking” his shaft.
   
4. Gradually increase your speed.
   

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EXERCISE 5.3:
Doggie-Style Hand Job

1. Get into the rear-entry position, but without penetration.
   
2. The top partner (the one in back) is to reach around to stimulate the other partners’ penis in any way they desire.
   
3. Mimicking thrusting, pay attention to specifically bumping up against the bottom partner’s testicles as you continue to get him off.
   

This position allows the bottom partner to feel his partner’s chest pressing into his back. He can masturbate himself at the same time if his partner wants to get busy with other hot spots.

Oral Action for Penis Pleasure

Stimulating the penis with the mouth creates absolute erotic electricity, charging him and sedating him at the same time. It’s the ultimate form of

stimulation. There are several positions through which you can provide oral action:

• The man can sit up, with his partner lying on their side while fellat- ing (giving oral sex).
  
• He can lie down, with knees bent and pelvis propped on a pillow, while his partner lies between his legs on their stomach or sits or lies on top of him, feet pointing toward his face (this gives him a brilliant view of his lover’s groin, turning him on even more).
  
• He can be in a “crab” position (i.e., leaning back with his weight on his hands and feet and his buttocks 8–12 inches in the air, with the giver sitting under him on their buttocks with their face buried in his crotch.
  
• The man can straddle the giver’s chest, facing either way.
  
• He can be on all fours, with the giver lying under him.
  

Sexual-Health Considerations During Oral Stimulation

Several sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be spread during un- protected oral sex, primarily herpes, genital warts, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV. Fellatio (oral sex performed on a man) is considered a high-risk sexual behavior for HIV transmission. To protect yourself, observe the following precautions:

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Don’t brush or floss your teeth for at least two hours before giving head. Performing basic dental hygiene can create cuts or sores in your mouth, raising the risk of contracting an STI. Using a mild mouth- wash can help you if you’re worried about bad breath.

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Use a latex condom over the penis. This barrier method helps to reduce the risk of transmission. If you’re allergic to latex, polyurethane con- doms are also available, though they’re less effective since their break- age rate is almost four times that of latex (mostly because of reduced elasticity).

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EXERCISE 5.4:
Oral Action Worthy of “Ohhhhs”

1. Covering your teeth with your lips, take his penis into your mouth and move your mouth up and down the shaft, being careful not to graze the penis with your teeth.
   
2. Once both of you are feeling warmed up, and he’s nice and hard, ex- plore the hot spots on his penis, starting with the glans. Move your tongue in a circular motion around the head of the penis.
   
3. Taking your time, flick your tongue along the shaft.
   
4. Eventually, move to flick your tongue horizontally across the corona only.
   
5. Give the corona relief on occasion by licking and sucking the frenulum.
   
6. When it seems that his hot spots have received all the stimulation they can take (and if he hasn’t come yet), switch to licking the shaft in an up-and-down motion using long strokes.
   
7. Look for a blood vessel–like seam on the underside of his penis—his
   R-spot
   (raphe). Give it a long, firm lick, starting beneath his scro- tum and moving to the tip of the shaft.
   
8. In preparation for the grand finale, move back to the corona and feast on it—kissing and nibbling it before hardening your tongue into a point and flicking across it.
   
9. Flatten your tongue and massage this spot using circular motions, first moving clockwise and then counterclockwise.
   
10. Finish by taking the head into your mouth, sucking it gently, and running your tongue back and forth along the coronal ridge once more.
    
11. Tighten your lips as you move up and down his shaft.
    
12. Take his penis deeper and deeper into your mouth, increasing your speed of oral thrusting. His Mount St. Helen’s will soon erupt.
    

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TIPS FOR GREAT BLOW JOBS
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Build your speed.

Whatever your sucking rhythm and motion, begin gently at first and then gradu- ally increase your speed

Keep your throat muscles relaxed.

This will help to prevent you from choking on his prized possession. Be sure to breathe through your nose, which should also help you to avoid gagging.

Give yourself a break if you need to.

You can do this by slapping his erection against your lips and tongue, humming for low-maintenance stimulation, or arousing his penis with other enhancements, like a sex toy, warming lubricant, or locks of your hair.

Keep it tasty.

Try a mint or flavored lube. They not only offer a kick for your taste buds, but they also give him a different kind of stimulation.

Titty fuck.

If you can, squeeze your breasts around the shaft of his penis as he thrusts. You can lick the head of the penis as it emerges from your breasts, and you can simultane- ously stroke your own nipples.

What are your hands doing?

Don’t let either or both hands get lazy. Keep them busy by loosely encircling one around the base of his penis and moving your hand and mouth rhythmically up and down the shaft. You can use the other one to massage his scrotum or to stimu- late other erogenous hot spots, like the back of his knees or nipples.

Acupressure Points

There are a number of acupressure points that can be stimulated while a man is lost in penile pleasures. We have already hit on the Rushing Door and Mansion Cottage points (see Figure 5.2 on page 73).

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EXERCISE 5.5:
Powerful Points

Stimulation of the St. 30 acupressure points, located just beside his penis at the tip of each pubic bone (see Figure 5.3 on the next page), further in- creases sensitivity in his genitals and heightens his sexual pleasure. These points can be stimulated using the base of your thumb during oral sex, or they can be kissed and sucked during manual stimulation.

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EXERCISE 5.6:
Times Two Doubles the Fun

Two other acupressure points you can stimulate during oral or manual sex are the Crooked Bone point, in the center of the top edge of the pubic bone, and the Transverse Bone point, located on the upper border of the pubic bone, half a finger-width from the midline on either side (see Figure

5.3). As he lies on his back, kneel between his legs and place your fingers or mouth on these points. Alternatively, lie down on his entire body, gradu- ally thrusting your pelvis toward his to stimulate these points.

FIGURE 5.3: The St. 30, Crooked Bone, Transverse Bone, and Sea of Intimacy acupressure points