Two Kisses for Maddy: A Memoir of Loss & Love (24 page)
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Authors: Matthew Logelin
Tags: #General, #Marriage, #United States, #Family & Relationships, #Personal Memoirs, #Biography & Autobiography, #Biography, #Death, #Grief, #Case Studies, #Spouses, #Mothers, #Single Fathers, #Matthew - Family, #Logelin; Matthew, #Single fathers - United States, #Logelin; Matthew - Marriage, #Matthew, #Loss (Psychology), #Matthew - Marriage, #Mothers - Death - Psychological aspects, #Single Parent, #Widowers - United States, #Bereavement, #Parenting, #Life Stages, #Logelin, #Infants & Toddlers, #Infants, #Infants - Care - United States, #Widowers, #Logelin; Matthew - Family, #Spouses - Death - Psychological aspects, #Psychological Aspects
Any omissions are unintentional.
Without the help of the following people, this book would not be possible: Rachel Sussman, Eve Bridburg, and the folks at Zachary Shuster Harmsworth. Special thanks to Sandra Bark for getting me to where I needed to be. Extra special thanks to my editor Amanda Englander for pushing me to get this done and for not giving up on me when I missed each and every deadline.
I’d like to thank all of my friends in Kathmandu and Bangalore, especially the Bista family, Anish Divakaran, Karthik Ramachandran, Vidushi Lath, Vinod Sankar, Shreyas Pandit, Srikant Suvvaru, Eshwari Shunmuganathan, and Scattle.
These people have been wonderful to us over the past three years: the nurses at Huntington Hospital, Dr. Sharon Nelson, Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, my blog readers and the Creeps, especially Rachel Engebretson, Kris Stutz, Darcie Gust, Nancy Reins, Laurie Henry, Gina Brown, Chris Tuttle, Kate Siegel, Christa Rokita, Michelle Moore, Ali Smith, Cara Ulm, Katie Jackson, Becky Peterson, Leigh Acevedo, Kelly McElligott, Marissa Colvin, Maureen Casey, Teal Fyrberg, Sol in Argentina, Meggin Juraska, Marcy, Piper and Bailey, Kim Barth, Tricia Madden, Katy Epler, Danielle Ireland, and Kate Sowa, Jackie Chandler, Kim Lucio, Kay and Mae at Cribsheet, Kristine Lazar, Pat Pheifer, Jana Shortal, Bea Chang, Gina Lee, Briana McDonnell, Tom and Cass, Michele Neff Hernandez, the employees, HR, and management teams at CAST, Disney, and Yahoo!, and the volunteers and donors of the Liz Logelin Foundation.
I am grateful for the support of my friends, especially the Ash, Keen, Caufield, Dumper, Nuruki, Sowers, Spohr, Gay-Rose, and Jensen families, Lindsay Lewis, Chrissy Coppa, Alaina Shearer, Ken Basart, Peter Miriani, Eileen Scahill, Ben and Dana Parks, John Sherwood, Heather Stanley, Jason and Allie Beecher, Amy and Greg Cohn, Christia Vickers, Jon Wu, Melanie Larsen, Rhonda Hicks, Bob Okeefe, Anna Harris, Mark Heaney, Anthony Downs, Mark Musgjerd, Richard Peterson, Steve and Emily Broback, Biraj and Anjali Bista, Nathan and Stacey Meath, John and Andrea Kannas, Jamie and Cara Thompson, Alex and Heather Dowlin, and especially A.J. and Sonja Colianni for being there whenever I needed you.
Endless appreciation to Jeanette and Jennifer, Jasmine Payne, Aislinn Butler-Hetterman, the Valdivia family, Diane Baek, Chandra Locke-Bradley, Kathy Dixon, and especially Anya Kitashima, Maleeda Wagner-Holmes, Annie Birnie, and Ari Mayer for being the best friends a girl could have, and for promising that Madeline will know
everything
about her mother.
Thanks to Rachel Monas for not questioning my sanity and for keeping my baby girl safe from pinching fingers, sadistic children, camels, horses, and elephants.
Thanks to Kate Coyne for her psychic abilities and the Bob Ross painting.
Thanks to Wesley Siemers for the morning greetings and for keeping her updated.
Extra thanks to Brooke Gullikson for patience, love, and understanding.
For inspiration while I was writing: Derek and Kurt (for the Derek Tape), Jeff Mangum and Neutral Milk Hotel, J. Tillman, PJ Harvey, Liz Phair, The National, Ariel Pink, Bon Iver, WHY?, Silver Jews, Sun Kil Moon, Pavement, Broken Social Scene, Arcade Fire, Swearing at Motorists, Vic Chesnutt, Paul Westerberg and the Replacements, Eazy-E, Will Oldham, Jeff Tweedy and Wilco, Gil Scott-Heron, Ryan Adams, Glen Campbell, Richard Buckner, Iron & Wine, the Hold Steady, John Coltrane, Minneapolis, Los Angeles, Akumal, Kathmandu, Pashupatinath, the Bagmati River, Fatehpur Sikri, Jaipur, Agra, Paris, Robert Bingham, Charles Bukowski, John Fante, Philip Levine, Robert Lowell, John Berryman, and especially Mark Kozelek, Yoni Wolf, and David Berman for your kindness and generosity in letting me use your words.
Limitless gratitude and love to the Logelin, Shoberg, Werner, Hedstrom, Bensman, Lee, and Goodman families, Becky Werner, Ray and Pauline Logelin, Adam, Holly, and Ava Shoberg, Tina, Travis, and Trevor Metz, Heather McKinley, Alex, Taylor, and David Logelin, Nick and Molly Logelin, Josh, Jane, and Isla McKinley, Tom and Bev Logelin, Sara and Rodney Shoberg, and Tom, Candee, and Deb Goodman.
Most important, I want to thank Elizabeth Goodman-Logelin and Madeline Elizabeth Logelin for making me who I am today.
Liz and me at a concert in Minneapolis the summer after we graduated from high school. July 16, 1996.
The two of us on a hike outside of Whistler, Canada. June 25, 2003.
Liz and me celebrating New Year’s Eve in downtown Los Angeles. December 31, 2003.
Liz on a street corner in New York City. April 3, 2004.
Liz in front of the temple where I proposed at Durbar Square, Kathmandu, Nepal. June 19, 2004.
Maddy and me in front of the temple where I proposed at Durbar Square, Kathmandu, Nepal. November 9, 2009.
The two of us at our wedding rehearsal at the Calhoun Beach Club in Minneapolis, Minnesota. August 12, 2005.
Liz at a market in Greece during our honeymoon. August 20, 2005.
Liz and me at the Taj Mahal, Agra, India. May 13, 2006.
