A Parent's Guide for Suicidal and Depressed Teens (45 page)

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Authors: Kate Williams

Tags: #Family & Relationships, #Life Stages, #Teenagers, #Self-Help, #Depression, #test

 
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APPENDIX C:
HOW TO TELL WHEN DRINKING IS BECOMING A PROBLEM
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Alcoholism is a rough word to deal with. Yet nobody is too young (or too old) to have trouble with booze.
That's because alcoholism is an illness. It can hit anyone. Young, old. Rich, poor. Black, white.
And it doesn't matter how long you've been drinking or what you've been drinking. It's what drinking
does to you
that counts.
To help you decide whether you might have a problem with your own drinking, we've prepared these 12 questions. The answers are nobody's business but your own.
If you can answer yes to any
one
of these questions, maybe it's time you took a serious look at what your drinking might be doing to you.
And, if you do need help or if you'd just like to talk to someone about drinking, call us. We're in the phone book under Alcoholics Anonymous.
*
How to Tell When Drinking Is Becoming a Problem
is taken from
A Message to Teenagers ... How to tell when drinking is becoming a problem,
published by AA World Services, Inc. New York, N.Y. Reprinted with permission of AA World Services, Inc. (See editor's note on copyright page.)
 
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A Simple 12-Question Quiz Designed to Help You Decide
1. Do you drink because you have problems? To relax?
2. Do you drink when you get mad at other people, your friends or parents?
3. Do you prefer to drink alone, rather than with others?
4. Are your grades starting to slip? Are you goofing off on your job?
5. Did you ever try to stop drinking or drink lessand fail?
6. Have you begun to drink in the morning, before school or work?
7. Do you gulp your drinks?
8. Do you ever have loss of memory due to your drinking?
9. Do you lie about your drinking?
10. Do you ever get into trouble when you're drinking?
11. Do you get drunk when you drink, even when you don't mean to?
12. Do you think it's cool to be able to hold your liquor?
 
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ENDNOTES
Introduction
1
. USA Today,
5 December 1988, 22.
2. Brent Q. Hafen and Kathryn J. Frandsen,
Youth Suicide: Depression and Loneliness
(Boulder, Colo.: Cordillera Press, 1986), 11.
Chapter 1
1. Adapted from Ann Landers, Minneapolis
Star Tribune,
24 September 1988, and
Help During a Fragile Time,
a flyer from the Extension Service of the University of Minnesota, 4H-FS3081, 1986.
Chapter 3
1. Paul G. Quinnett,
Suicide: The Forever Decision
(New York: Continuum, 1987), 1. I recommend reading the whole book in order to learn how to talk about suicide calmly. It is the best book I've found.
Chapter 8
1. Arthur Applebee,
A Study of Book-Length Works Taught in High School English Courses
(Albany, N.Y.: Center for the Study of Teaching and Learning of Literature, 1989).
Chapter 10
1. Ellen Bass and Laura Davis,
The Courage to Heal
(New York: HarperCollins, 1988), 202.
 
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Chapter 11
1. NIAAA Research Monograph 4,
Services for Children of Alcoholics,
DHHS Pub. No. ADM 81-1007 (Washington, D.C.: GPO, 1981).
2. The National Woman Abuse Prevention Project,
Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Domestic Violence Fact Sheet,
Washington, D.C.: The National Woman Abuse Prevention Project.
3. Brent Q. Hafen and Kathryn J. Frandsen,
Youth Suicide: Depression and Loneliness
(Boulder, Colo.: Cordillera Press, 1986), 67.
4. Stephen Farmer, M.A., M.F.C.C.,
Adult Children of Abusive Parents
(New York: Ballantine, 1990).
5. Meister Eckhart, quoted in Matthew Fox,
Original Blessing
(Santa Fe: Bear & Co., 1983), 277.
Chapter 12
1. Tony A. and Dan F.,
The Laundry List. The ACOA Experience
(Deerfield Beach, Fla.: Health Communications, 1991).
Chapter 15
1. Patricia Hersche, ''The Resounding Silence,''
Networker,
July/August 1990.
Chapter 16
1. Richard Obershaw, "Grief Counseling/Therapy,"
The Phoenix,
December 1989, 8.
2. John W James and Frank Cherry,
The Grief Recovery Handbook
(New York: Harper & Row, 1988).
Chapter 17
1. David Elkind,
The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon
(Redding, Mass: Addison-Wesley, 1981).

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