With this kind of inspiration in mind, you two might start to see your house in a whole new way. You’re really only limited by your imagination! Remember, make it quick and dirty.
And ladies, you can give your man a little nudge in this direction. Walk up those steps in a short skirt with no panties on. Lean over seductively to get the dishes out of the dishwasher. Hop up on the kitchen counter with your legs spread while you’re having a chat. He’ll get the message soon enough!
Anal Sex
Anal sex really is the “final frontier” for beginner alpha male sex. It’s really not something you want to tackle for the first time while experimenting with sexual assertiveness. It needs to be introduced slowly, not only in a gradual way into your sexual repertoire, but also physically slowly when you’re actually doing it. Once you get the hang of it, you might be able to fit it into a “quick and dirty” moment, but don’t rush it!
There are some non-negotiable rules about anal:
Like I said, take it slowly. First you’re going to start by caressing lightly with your fingers (one at a time) in the crack of her ass. Keep moving back to fingering her vaginal area (with the other hand!) and lightly rubbing her outer sphincter. Slowly begin to massage her ass using a bit more pressure. Don’t push! Probe very gently and when she is ready, she will open up for you. If she doesn’t open up this time, just go as far as you can and come back again later. There are a few rules to follow when it comes to penetration:
Gradually increase the pressure of your finger a tiny bit at a time. After you get past the first sphincter, you will find another one just inside. While relaxation techniques will work on the outer sphincter, the inner one is completely controlled by the preconscious brain. Repeatedly probe gently against this inner sphincter and like before, wait for it to open. When you are inside this second sphincter, you can begin to move slowly in and out, being sure to add more lube if necessary.
If she is enjoying one-finger play, you can move up to entering with two fingers. Don’t get one in there and then try to squeeze the other one in; you run the risk of tearing sensitive skin. While keeping an ever-steady rhythm, move your body lengthwise alongside hers, with yourself partly on top of her, and using your rhythmic movements, get both of your bodies into the rhythm of lovemaking.
The amount of “warm up” that you’ll need to do will depend entirely on how big you are – this is one case where small and average really make it work! Let the tip of your well-lubed penis push against her anus for several rounds of rhythmic movements, and slowly ease it in. Slow rhythm, slow penetration. It will take you a while to get fully inside her, and let yourself just kind of be in there a while before you start going for the gold. Continue adding lube as you go and work up to a rhythmic thrust, guided by her sounds. Hold her hips and play with her nipples or clit to really get her going!
And don’t forget, no matter how flaccid you become after orgasm, come out just as slowly as you went in. Don’t forget to hold onto any condom you might be wearing at the base, so it comes out with you.
The very act of anal sex is so dominant on the part of the male, that there really is no reason to cowboy it up while you’re back there. However, again, this is something that should be discussed between the two of you. If she winds up loving it and is totally into it, he can feel free to experiment with roughing anal up a bit. If you can manage two things at once, you can always slap her ass cheeks a bit, or bend over and pinch her nipples. There are always options!
“Rough” Techniques
We’ve talked about several positions so far, and now we’re going to delve a bit deeper into the techniques that can make them become all about the alpha male. We’ve gone over some of them before, but in this section I’ll explain them in a bit more detail, so it’s clear to both of you what is involved. Get ready guys!
Physical Assertion
Slapping and spanking are not the same thing. Spanking is harder, for one, and is only done on her ass. Slapping is a bit lighter, and depending on the agreement you both come to, can be done on the ass, the outer thighs, and for the more advanced the face (try slapping with your cock during oral).
Try incorporating slapping and caressing together, first smacking an area lightly then rubbing it gently with your palm. Many women enjoy having their pubic mound and clit slapped with a gentle touch and find it very arousing.
Hair pulling should not be done from the ends of the hair – that HURTS, and not in a good way. We don’t want to feel like we’re being attacked by a toddler! Instead, work your hand into her hair, as if you were going to cradle her head, and pull from the roots. This gives you greater control over her head movements, and will not hurt nearly as much. Go for the base of the skull or the place where she would tie a ponytail and try not to catch any of the little wisps on the edge of her hairline.
Grabbing and clutching are excellent assertive actions to take, and they can help you communicate your passion and your level of excitement. As we’ve already learned, grabbing her hips or torso can help you control rhythm and movement. But sometimes, it’s just great to hang on for the ride!
You can also clutch her thighs, her upper arms, her shoulders, or any part of her that offers something substantial to hold. How much force with which you do this, again, is entirely up to the both of you. You don’t need to cause pain to show some dominant energy, so allow her to communicate to you if she wants you to show more force.
Pinching and tweaking her breasts, nipples or ass can be extremely titillating for her. There is a bit of the pleasure/pain principle involved here, and if your girl is into it, go for it. Nibbling and biting can be a fun, primal way to show you’re the alpha male. Just be careful about breaking skin and leaving marks in obvious places! Hickeys can be sexy on less obvious places, like the inner thighs.
Tossing her onto the bed is fun, dominant and oh-so-caveman. Just lift her up, extend your arms and let go. She’ll bounce around once or twice, and then it’s time for you to get on top, Baby! Just don’t throw her too hard.
We’ve talked about pushing her up against a wall, but let me tell you that this is something you should seriously consider. Women who are into alpha males absolutely
love
this. Your best bet is to start kissing her away from the wall – strongly, passionately. Then run your hands down from her shoulders to her upper arms, grab a hold of her and using your body, push her against the wall and press up against her. Don’t throw her into the wall! Pin her against the wall with your body. For an added thrill, you can continue to run your hands down to her wrists, then move her hands up the wall and hold her there.
Which leads me to pinning her down. When she lacks the ability to grab at you, you’ve gained total control. Just remember to do it for short bursts; you don’t want her to panic and you definitely don’t want to leave bruises!
Assertion Through Ejaculation
Anytime you do something unexpected with your own orgasm, you are demonstrating your control over the situation. Here are some ways to dominate her with semen.
While you’re in the doggie-style position, pull out and come onto her back, either by masturbating or pushing against her ass. For an added touch, massage your semen into her skin.
While in the missionary position, you can pull out and masturbate to orgasm, coming on her pubic hair, her torso, her breasts or even her face. Or, you can straddle her and masturbate to the same effect.
These are two pretty intense examples of male dominance; they really should be tried only after you’ve been experimenting for a bit. Also, once the sex is over you can reinforce the fact that you know it’s a fantasy by helping her clean up, maybe even taking a romantic shower together and washing each other. Make sure to do this very gently, and give her a little cuddle afterward.
Whatever you do, don’t just leave her there with your semen all over her unless she has explicitly stated that’s what she wants you to do. Some women like their alpha male fantasy to extend to the moments after the sex has finished as well, and that’s totally fine. But otherwise, leaving her there takes you from alpha male to asshole in one giant step.