The Art of Empathy (55 page)

Six Essential Aspects of Empathy and,
164–167

Gardner, Howard,
49–52
,
54
,
56
,
58
,
294

gay.
See
GLBTAQ.

Gem (
Star Trek
),
294

gender stereotyping (valencing),
19–22
,
228–230
,
277
,
290

Getting Grounded,
103–108

GLBTAQ (gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, asexual, questioning),
12
,
229–230
,
298
,
313

gloating,
78

Goldfish crackers and broccoli study,
39–40
,
294

Gopnik, Alison,
39–40
,
290
,
294

gossip,
256–262
,
264
,
266
,
298

envy and,
258–259
,
260
,
265

jealousy and,
258–259
,
260
,
265

Green, James,
234
,
297

grief,
14
,
283

empathic definition of,
62
,
65
,
87

in emotion play,
233

in empathic communication,
197

weasel words for,
201

grounding practices,
103–108
,
119
,
120–123
,
155–157

for children,
224

sadness and,
103–105

groupishness,
275

toxic,
276–278

see also
in-group, out-group

guilt,
226
,
275
,
285
,
295–296

Burning Contracts and,
74
,
194

difference between shame and,
295–296

empathic definition of,
73
,
85

in emotion play (as shame),
232

in empathic communication,
193

lack of,
60

weasel words for,
201

see also
shame

happiness,
32–33
,
74
,
80
,
200
,
202
,
284
,
296
,
300

emotion work and,
252
,
264

empathic definition of,
65–66
,
87–88

in emotion play,
233

in empathic communication,
197–198

Outlook dimension and,
168

hatred,
32
,
88
,
283

empathic definition of,
85
,

in emotion play,
232

in empathic communication,
194–195

shadow work for,
85
,
130
,
195
,
260–261
,
301–302

highly sensitive person,
53

Hochschild, Arlie,
171
,
248
,
250
,
299

homophobia,
12
,
229–230
,
291
,
298

How Emotions Work
(Katz),
94

How Much Emotion is Too Much?,
88–93

HR.
See
human resource administrators.

Hubbard, Billie Karyl Lucy Rogers,
10–11
,
43–45
,
144
,
184
,
202
,
207–209

human resource administrators (HR),
250
,
253–256
,
258
,
264–265
,
298

hyperawareness, sensory,
223–224
,
236
,
296

hyperempathy,
6
,
12
,
30
,
37
,
46
,
95
,
110
,
114
,

autism and,
22
,
163
,
221–224
,
290
,
293

Emotion Regulation and,
37
,
95
,
98–99
,
166
,
236

orthorexia and,
152–155

self-soothing and,
219–224

Social Intuition dimension and,
169

identity-first usage,
22
,
290–291

Ignoramusky,
237

in-group,
273–275
,
277
,
298

intelligence, multiple,
49–50
,
54
,
56
,
58
,
294

Intentional Tantrums,
224–225
,
232
,
235–236

International Association for Suicide Prevention,
285–286

intimacy zones,
173–174

introverts,
53

Iris and Joseph,
6–9
,
42
,
45
,
55–56
,
160

jealousy,
32
,
65
,
284
,
299

empathic definition of,
75
,
86
,
173–174
,
177

gossip and,
258–259
,
260
,
265

in emotion play,
234

in empathic communication,
196

necessity in healthy child development,
238–239

sibling and peer rivalry and,
238–239

weasel words for,
202

Joseph and Iris,
6–9
,
42
,
45
,
55–56
,
160

joy,
32
,
38
,
78
,
168
,
202
,
221
,
284

depression and 88,
198

empathic definition of,
88

in emotion play,
233

in empathic communication,
198

Rejuvenating Yourself and,
125–127

Katz, Jack,
94

kinetic sculptures,
57–58

Kitten vs. a Scary Thing
(Ignoramusky),
237

Knowles, Beyoncé,
160

Kony, Joseph,
271–272
,
273

Kony2012
(Russell),
271–272

Krasny, Michael,
132

Lamia, Mary,
132
,
299

The Language of Emotions
(McLaren),
46
,
59
,
103
,
226
,
285
,
289
,
294–296
,
300

Learning People Intentionally,
188–190

LeDoux, Joseph,
94

lesbian.
See
GLBTAQ.

Levine, Peter,
87
,
155
,
297
,
300–301

Lieberman, Matthew,
95

Looking for Spinoza: Joy, Sorrow, and the Feeling Brain
(Damasio),
94
,
295
,
299

love,
3
,
123
,
141
,
152
,
153
,
163–181

swashbucklers of,
173–176

see also
self-love

Loving Lampposts
(Drezner),
25

The Managed Heart: Commercialization of Human Feeling
(Hochschild),
171
,
248
,
299

McWilliams, Nancy,
291

men and empathy,
19–22
,
24
,
183–186
,
228–230
,
281
,
290

meritocracy, shadow,
253–260
,
264–265
,
298

mirroring,
28
,
184
,
193
,
215–216
,
218

mirror-neuron hypothesis,
18
,
28
,
290

Mom's Magical Three-Step Communication Skill,
202–205

movement practices and exercise,
25–26
,
107
,
145–148
,
152–153
,
163
,
180

for children,
220–222
,
243
,
296

multiple emotions,
13
,
77
,
197

multiple intelligence,
49–50
,
54
,
56
,
58
,
294

narcissism,
22
,
37
,
291

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline,
285–286

negative emotions,
6
,
32
,
54
,
60–65
,
70–71
,
77
,
102
,
121
,
130
,
134

Nirvana,
23

NoBully.com
,
240
,
241

nostalgia,
78

nuance, problem of,
71–77

obsessive-compulsive behavior,
153

On Being Certain
(Burton),
94
,
301

online emotional dysregulation,
148
,
181

orthorexia nervosa,
152–156
,
222
,
297

othering,
273
,
274
,
276
,
282
,
293

out-group,
51
,
273–279

Outlook (emotional style dimension),
54–55

compatibility with loved ones and,
168–169
,
172

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
11
,
116
,
121
,
126

therapeutic suggestions for,
287–288

overqualified employees,
264–265

oxytocin,
18
,
275–277
,
298

panic,
32
,
57
,
88
,
284

empathic definition of,
86–87

in emotion play,
232

in empathic communication,
196

peer rivalry,
238–239

Perceptive Engagement,
27
,
38–40
,
93
,
164
,
207
,
267

compatibility with loved ones and,
167

development in babies and children,
214
,
216–217
,
233

empathic mindfulness skills and,
106
,
111
,
116
,
125

peripersonal space,
109–110
,
112–114
,
117–119
,
126
,
128
,
188

Perry, Bruce,
214
,
300

personality typing,
53–54

Perspective Taking,
27
,
35–37
,
83
,
164
,
171
,
187
,
276
,
293

artistic expression and,
144–147
,
243–244

compatibility with loved ones and,
166–167

development in babies and children,
214
,
216–217
,
230
,
233
,
240

empathic mindfulness skills and,
103
,
106
,
109
,
111
,
116

Sensitivity to Context dimension and,
170

Social Intuition dimension and,
55
,
169

phobias and shyness,
236–238

Pink Brain, Blue Brain
(Eliot),
20–21
,
228
,
301

Plank, Tino,
5
,
6
,
9
,
255
,
281
,
313

positive affirmations,
123–125

positive emotions,
6
,
32
,
34
,
54
,
61
,
63–65
,
72
,
78
,
192

positive thinking,
123–124

post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD),
87–89

panic and,
86–87
,
196

trauma healing therapies for,
155
,
300–301

problem of nuance,
71–77

problem of quantity,
77–81

problem with expression and repression,
66–71

problem with valencing,
64–66

procrastination and anxiety,
75
,
85–86
,
132–136
,
195
,
252

The Promise of Sleep
(Dement),
149–150
,
300

proprioceptors,
109–110
,
114
,
119
,
129

prosocial emotions,
64–65
,
70–71

pseudoempathy,
184

psychopathy,
22–23
,
37–38
,
167
,
291–293

PTSD.
See
post-traumatic stress disorder.

quantity, problem of,
77–81

quiz, emotion,
72–75
,
295

Randall, David K.,
150
,
300

reactive attachment disorder (RAD),
291–292

receptivity, empathic (and Einfühlung),
92–93
,
139–140
,
154
,
159
,
221
,
246–248
,
262–263
,
280

reflective listening,
184–185
,
202
,
204

Rejuvenating Yourself,
125–127
,
252
,
262

for children,
224

repression of emotions,
91
,
94
,
102
,
118–125
,
130
,
135–136
,
192
,
225
,
238
,
258–260