The Golden Condom (33 page)

Jeanne Safer
, Ph.D.,
a psychotherapist in New York City, is the author of five books, including
The Normal One
,
Cain's Legacy
, and
Beyond Motherhood
. Dr. Safer has appeared on
The Daily Show
and
Good Morning America
as well as numerous NPR broadcasts. Her work has been the subject of articles in
The New York Times
and
The Wall Street Journal
. She blogs for
The Huffington Post
and
Psychology Today
and is, most recently, a contributor to
Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed: Sixteen Writers on the Decision Not to Have Kids
(Picador, 2015). You can sign up for email updates
here
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ALSO BY
JEANNE SAFER

CAIN'S LEGACY:
   
Liberating Siblings from a Lifetime of Rage, Shame, Secrecy, and Regret

DEATH BENEFITS:
   
How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult's Life—for the Better

THE NORMAL ONE:
   
Life with a Difficult or Damaged Sibling

FORGIVING AND NOT FORGIVING:
   
Why Sometimes It's Better Not to Forgive

BEYOND MOTHERHOOD:
   
Choosing a Life Without Children

 

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CONTENTS

TITLE PAGE

COPYRIGHT NOTICE

DEDICATION

AUTHOR'S NOTE

INTRODUCTION

PART I: HOPELESS LOVE

1.   Leaving Unloving Lovers and Unfriendly Friends

2.   Of Human Bondage: Obsessive Love

3.   Vengeance Is Mine: The Dark Side of Rejected Love

4.   Betrayal

5.   Unrequited Love: My Golden One

PART II: DIFFICULT LOVE

6.   The Man Who Could Not Love

7.   The Tantalizing Mentor and the Passionate Protégé

8.   Traumatic Friendship

PART III: FULFILLED LOVE

9.   Late First Marriage: The Triumph of Hope over Resignation

10. Love Is Stronger Than the Grave

11. Love Him, Hate His Politics: How a Liberal and a Conservative Stay Married

12. Recovering the Good from a Love Gone Bad

NOTES

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

ALSO BY JEANNE SAFER

COPYRIGHT

 

THE GOLDEN CONDOM
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The Library of Congress has cataloged the print edition as follows:

 

Names: Safer, Jeanne, author.

Title: The golden condom: and other essays on love lost and found / Jeanne Safer.

Description: New York: Picador, 2016.

Identifiers: LCCN 2015037148 | ISBN 9781250055750 (hardcover) | ISBN 9781250055767 (e-book)

Subjects: LCSH: Love—Psychological aspects. | Sex (Psychology) | Interpersonal relations. | BISAC: PSYCHOLOGY / Interpersonal Relations. | PHILOSOPHY / Social.

Classification: LCC BF575.L8 S315 2016 | DDC 152.4/1—dc23

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First Edition: April 2016