College Sex - Philosophy for Everyone: Philosophers With Benefits

Edited by Michael Bruce and Robert M
.
Stewart

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVERYONE

Series Editor: Fritz Allhoff

VOLUME EDITORS

MICHAEL BRUCE
currently works in the non-profit sector with at-risk youth. Previously, he was a teaching assistant at California State University, Chico, and received his Master’s degree from San Diego State University, specializing in continental philosophy.

He has published articles in the pop culture and philosophy genre and is currently editing Just the Arguments: 100 of the Most Important Arguments in Western Philosophy for Wiley-Blackwell.

ROBERT M. STEWART
is Professor of Philosophy at California State University, Chico. He is the author

of
Moral Philosophy: A Comprehensive Introduction
(1994), and editor of
Philosophical Perspectives on Sex and Love
(1995). He has published numerous journal articles.

SERIES EDITOR

FRITZ ALLHOFF
is an Assistant Professor in the Philosophy Department at Western Michigan University, as well as a Senior Research Fellow at the Australian National University’s Centre

for Applied Philosophy and Public Ethics. In addition to editing the
Philosophy for Everyone
series, Allhoff is the volume editor or co-editor for several titles, including
Wine & Philosophy
(Wiley-Blackwell, 2007),
Whiskey & Philosophy
(with Marcus P. Adams, Wiley, 2009), and

Food & Philosophy
(with Dave Monroe, Wiley-Blackwell, 2007).

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVE RYONE

Series editor: Fritz Allhoff

Not so much a subject matter, philosophy is a way of thinking.Thinking not just about the Big Questions, but about little ones too.This series invites everyone to ponder things they care about, big or small, significant, serious … or just curious.

Running & Philosophy:
A Marathon for the Mind

Edited by Michael W. Austin

Wine & Philosophy:
A Symposium on Thinking and Drinking

Edited by Fritz Allhoff

Food & Philosophy: Eat,Think and Be Merry

Edited by Fritz Allhoff and Dave Monroe

Beer & Philosophy:
The Unexamined Beer Isn’t Worth Drinking

Edited by Steven D. Hales

Whiskey & Philosophy:
A Small Batch of Spirited Ideas

Edited by Fritz Allhoff and Marcus P. Adams

College Sex – Philosophy for Everyone: Philosophers With Benefits
Edited by Michael Bruce

and Robert M. Stewart

Cycling – Philosophy for Everyone: A Philosophical Tour de Force
Edited by Jesús Ilundáin-Agurruza and Michael W. Austin
Climbing – Philosophy for Everyone: Because It’s There

Edited by Stephen E. Schmid

Hunting – Philosophy for Everyone: In Search of the Wild Life

Edited by Nathan Kowalsky

Christmas – Philosophy for Everyone: Better Than a Lump of Coal

Edited by Scott C. Lowe

Cannabis – Philosophy for Everyone: What Were We Just Talking About?

Edited by Dale Jacquette

Porn – Philosophy for Everyone: How to Think With Kink

Edited by Dave Monroe

Serial Killers – Philosophy for Everyone: Being and Killing
Edited by S. Waller
Dating – Philosophy for Everyone: Flirting With Big Ideas

Edited by Kristie Miller and Marlene Clark

Gardening – Philosophy for Everyone: Cultivating Wisdom

Edited by Dan O’Brien

Motherhood – Philosophy for Everyone:The Birth of Wisdom
Edited by Sheila Lintott
Fatherhood – Philosophy for Everyone:The Dao of Daddy
Edited by Lon S. Nease

and Michael W. Austin

Forthcoming books in the series:
Fashion – Philosophy for Everyone

Edited by Jessica Wolfendale and Jeanette Kennett

Coffee – Philosophy for Everyone

Edited by Scott Parker and Michael W. Austin

Blues – Philosophy for Everyone

Edited by Abrol Fairweather and Jesse Steinberg

Edited by Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

COLLEGE SEX

PHILOSOPHY FOR EVERYONE

Philosophers With Benefits

Foreword by Heather Corinna

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This edition first published 2010

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College sex – Philosophy for Everyone: philosophers with benefits / Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart (eds.); with a foreword by Heather Corinna.

p. cm. — (Philosophy for everyone) Includes bibliographical references.

ISBN 978-1-4443-3294-0 (pbk.: alk. paper) 1. College students—Sexual behavior. 2. Sexual ethics. I. Bruce, Michael. II. Stewart, Robert Michael, 1952– III. Title: College sex – philosophy for everyone.

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Set in 10/12.5pt Plantin by SPi Publisher Services, Pondicherry, India Printed in Malaysia

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CONTENTS

Foreword viii

Heather Corinna

Acknowledgments xiii

Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

Campus Orientation:
An Introduction to

College Sex – Philosophy for Everyone 1

Michael Bruce and Robert M. Stewart

PART I FRESHMAN YEAR: Hook-Up Culture
15

  1. Sex and Socratic Experimentation 17

    Sisi Chen and George T. Hole

  2. The Straight Sex Experiment 28

    Bassam Romaya

  3. The Virtual Bra Clasp:
    Navigating Technology in

    College Courtship
    40

    Michael Bruce

  4. Smeared Makeup and Stiletto Heels:
    Clothing, Sexuality,

    and theWalk of Shame
    51

    Brett Lunceford

  5. Relations at a Distance 61

    Bill Puka

    PART II SOPHOMORE YEAR: Friends With Benefits
    75

  6. What’s Love Got to Do with It? Epicureanism

    and Friends with Benefits 77

    William O. Stephens

  7. Friends with Benefits:
    A Precarious Negotiation
    91

    Timothy R. Levine and Paul A. Mongeau

  8. The Philosophy of Friends with Benefits:
    What College

    Students Think They Know
    103

    Kelli Jean K. Smith and Kelly Morrison

    PART III JUNIOR YEAR: Ethics of College Sex
    115

  9. A Horny Dilemma:
    Sex and Friendship between

    Students and Professors
    117

    Andrew Kania

  10. Philosophers and the Not So Platonic Student-Teacher Relationship 131

    Danielle A. Layne

  11. Thinking About Thinking About Sex 145

    Ashley McDowell

  12. Exploring the Association Between Love and Sex 158

    Guy Pinku

  13. Sex for a College Education 169

    Matthew Brophy

    PART IV SENIOR YEAR: Sex and Self-Respect
    185

  14. Meaningful Sex and Moral Respect 187

    Robert M. Stewart

  15. Can Girls Go Wild With Self-Respect? 198

    John Draeger

  16. Mutual Respect and Sexual Morality:

    How to Have College SexWell
    209

    Yolanda Estes

    vi
    CONTENTS

  17. Bad Faith or True Desire? A Sartrean View on College Sex 220

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