Get In Her Mind, Get In Her Bed (17 page)

Brunch on Sunday Mornings

If you are a bit older, and/or don't mind divorced women this is perfect for you. Older (late 20's to 40's) divorced women, or friends of, meet for brunch on the weekends. These groups can be tough to open, but if you can get through their outward bitter facade, you are in. Or if you wait for them to finish that third mimosa. You can also run into large families coming from church that just happen to have a very attractive twenty something member of the family. Even though she just came from church, looks can be deceiving and she could be fantasizing of a rendezvous in the bathroom with you. Go to a place like this and try your luck.

Singles Group

Join a singles group. Usually older people join singles groups for a variety of reasons. Most are divorcees or people who were never very good at interacting with the opposite sex. If you are older this could be perfect for you. If you are having trouble doing the things we talk about in this book, try it out. It will be a non threatening way for you to have an interaction and work on building sexual chemistry. It may be just what you need to get to the next step and be comfortable approaching women at the bar. Even if you are a master pick up, you might want to try it just because it will be a target rich environment. There are cute younger girls that join these things. Some join with their parents to help them, some join because they are tired of meeting dick heads at the bar, and some join just because they actually go on some pretty cool outings. Singles groups go rafting, camping, all kinds of good shit. Don't tell me it wouldn't be cool to shack up with someone out in the woods on a singles rafting excursion.

3-Day Game

When most guys envision themselves as being good with women, they think of the bar scene and being able to pull the hottest girls home from the bars and clubs. They don’t realize what a huge obstacle they are up against, from the loud music, paying cover charges, stealing a girl away from her own group of girls, or even dealing with your own drunken friends. We are at the bars maybe only one or two nights a week for four or five hours at a time. What about the rest of the week and all those other hours we waste by not actively picking up women. Day game opens us up to all the other beautiful women out there that do not go out to the bars or club every weekend. Some people just aren’t into the bar scene, you may not be into that either, so it is even more important to be able to pick up a woman in an everyday situation.

Day game is a whole different realm of pick up. Women in the bar are in a social mood. They go out wanting to meet that certain someone, or talk to guys, get drunk, and have a good time. When we see them out during the day, they are locked into their routine. They aren’t thinking, “That guy by the bus stop is cute, I hope he comes talk to me.” No they are thinking about whatever is going on in their lives at that time. When you do stop to chat her up, as you should never let an opportunity pass, chances are she has some place to be, and as much as she wants to stay there and talk with you, she has other priorities.

With day game, we are not looking to hook up at the particular moment, we are trying to create a future date. A number close is your ultimate goal. You can get a kiss close from time to time, but how many girls want to kiss a guy they just met on the street or super market.

Depending on where you are at the time, girls are surprised that someone is actually talking to them. It can feel uncomfortable at the beginning. Once they realize you are just being playful, they will start to notice what a great guy you are and start opening up to you. With day game, time isn’t normally on our side, so it is best to be as direct as possible. If you see a girl on the street, go up to her and ask her an indirect question such as, “Excuse me have you seen, or do you know where…” Stop yourself and say, “Wow, you’re really cute, I definitely need to get your number, my name is…” And go into your routine from here. You want to keep this short, maybe five minutes tops. Tell her you have some place to be but it was great meeting her and that you will be calling her to setup a later date. On the off chance that she is free, you can start the date right there.

If you are at the beach or lake, walk up to a group of girls and ask them to watch your stuff while you go take a swim, if you have a good body it’s a good way to show it off. Go for your swim and when you come back say, “Thank god my stuff is still here, I thought you might hock it,” with a smile. From there introduce yourself and go into your normal conversation, role play, and start flirting.

Meeting a girl just out and about during the day fits in with a girl’s fantasy of meeting their dream guy. It was almost like it was meant to be. It creates a story the girl can take back to her friends, something she can make them jealous about, which raises your value as a great and interesting guy, and not some random guy that she met at the bar. In addition it just makes her feel good. If you go up to a girl walking on the street or working in a store, and tell her how cute she is, regardless of what happens next you just made her feel good. That is a good thing.

Day game is about being able to adapt to your environment. You must be able to play off your current location, what the girl says, be able to read her body language to see if she is in a hurry or not. You see some girl sitting on the park bench it’s as easy as taking a seat next to her. If you are in a store and you see a cute girl walking by, grab her and ask her opinion on what to buy. “Hey you think this would look good on me? Really you think so, ok you’re now my personal assistant and today’s task is to help pick out a new wardrobe.” You see a girl at the supermarket, grab an item off the shelf and say, “Hey have you ever made…I have a special occasion coming up and I need it to go well.” When she asks what that special occasion is tell her, “I have a dinner date with you of course. Hi I’m…” It’s all about being able to adapt and use the items you have around you. If you are at the park playing Frisbee with a buddy, toss it in the girl’s direction, “Sorry about that, give it a throw, let’s see what you’ve got,” and now she’s engaging in an activity with you. The most important thing to remember with day game is to be direct and honest.

As with any successful day game pick up you must be able to do these three things.  

1. Interrupt her routine 

2. Get her talking

3. Create sexual chemistry

If you can accomplish these three things, you will be successful and will be able to get the girl’s number and setup a later date.

4-Date Warp

It’s only a matter of time before a woman decides to take things further and sleep with you. The only thing we are concerned about is, how much time will this take and what can we do to speed things up? Well we already know tricks to build sexual chemistry, moving through the different zones, breaking the touch barrier, and using body language in our favor. But ultimately every woman has her own individual idea of how much time she needs to have known someone before she decides to let you take it to the next level. To make things more difficult this is not the standard time we think of as in hours and days, but some internal clock she has in her head.

There are many different factors that can affect this. A very religious girl can be hard to break because you up against her religion and its views on sex. If you are not of the same religion you do not fit the mold of her potential mate and partner, and she will be reluctant to sleep with you. A girl, who is a virgin, can be hard to open because of her feelings of insecurity of her own body and her lack of experience and she can still be waiting for that perfect Hollywood moment of losing her virginity to the “one”. On the opposite end, we have the girls that everyone has slept with but you, that is until we start applying the basic principles of the book. This girl will be ready to sleep with you at a moments notice. It has nothing to do with having all the qualities of being the perfect mate, it’s just a matter of just being next to her when she decides she wants to go home and fuck. Then we have the girls on vacation, out of towners, or summer flings. This can be when we go on a trip and meet local girls, when we meet girls on vacation, any situation where both parties know that no long term relationship can develop because you will only be around for a few days. These girls are also quick to have sex because time is short, and there are no expectations of a relationship. She can have guilt free sex because there is no time to invest her emotions. She is willing to drop all her barriers in the sake of having a good time.

Let’s go back and see how a woman comes up with this idea of time and how we can exploit that. The easiest way to think of it, is not by minutes, but as to specific instances. Lets take the following scenario that we are all to familiar with. We are out at the bar find a girl we like, we get her number, call her up and make plans for the weekend. We take her out to the park, maybe go out for ice cream, have some interesting conversation, but that’s about it. On date two, we initiate some contact, playful touching, go out for dinner. If things go well we get a hug. On date three we go bowling, walk around the park, the sexual chemistry is there and we create the moment and get our much deserved kiss. Things slowly progress further and further, until three months later, she finally lets us in and we get to sleep with her. Sound all too familiar? Well that’s a nice story to tell the grandchildren, but we’re not reading this book to follow the norm. We want instant results. We want to achieve in two or three dates what takes three months to accomplish. How do we do this? Time distortion. You see, when a woman thinks about a man she is dating, she doesn’t remember specific dates, she recalls distinct situations. If you took a girl out to the coffee shop, the park, and then out for some ice cream, she doesn’t remember just one date, but three separate and distinct experiences. Coffee is one experience, the park is a second experience, and ice cream is a third experience. To her they might as well be three separate dates.

So how does this apply to us? By taking the girl to different locations she will start to break down her barriers. One date will feel like three. Two dates will feel like six. After a week it will be as though she has known you for over a month. From my experience using this technique, the average girl will sleep with you after one week. Now you may be thinking, this would work, but three dates in one can be expensive. Not every date has to cost money, look at the list below to see some potential free or low cost dates. More often, it’s the cheap dates that have the most impact because of the thought you put into creating such a great date for her.

1. Happy Hour, restaurants and bars offer half priced food and drink specials. 

2. Get in touch with nature, search online for local trails to walk.  

3. Spend the day at the beach or lake. Bring some firewood along to build a fire. 

4. Explore the city. Visit downtown and eat at one of the local mom and pop restaurants. 

5. Plan a picnic. Visit the local park, drive out to the country, or set up a blanket in your backyard. 

6. Build a bonfire. All you need is some firewood. 

7. Go nostalgic, visit popular hang outs you went to as a kid such as a roller rink or a pizza joint. 

8. Go camping, park fees are less then $20. 

9. Go swimming at your local pool, lake, or beach. Bonus: check her out in a bikini. 

10. Movie marathon, rent your favorite trilogy. 

11. Write her a “remember when” note. Try to recreate a fond memory by recreating the date or experience. 

12. Take a scenic drive out in the country, pick a direction and go. Stop and eat at the local Mom And Pop restaraunts. 

13. Go wine tasting. Most wineries charge a small fee for tasting a select number of wines. As a bonus you can take a walk through the vineyard. 

14. Visit a local art gallery. Most galleries have at least one day a week where admission is free. 

15. Go see a play at your local high school or college. Admission is cheap. 

16. Paint a mural. Designate one wall in your bedroom to paint together.  

17. Go undercover. Pick one person at random to follow. See where they take you. Once you can no longer follow them, pick another target. 

18. Ride the bus and people watch. 

5-Style

Need to make a statement? Clothes matter. Your personal image and the way you carry yourself through body language and the Alpha Male attitude determine whether people take you serious or not. Whether you are trying to pick up women or go to a job interview, the first impression you make matters. If they say clothes make the man, then make the man you want to be.

What to Wear

Not everyone looks good in everything. Your body type will determine what clothes you should wear.

Skinny Guys

If you are really skinny you don’t want to wear something that makes you look even smaller. Vertical stripes are slimming, stay away from vertical stripes. I personally wouldn't wear horizontal stripes and would not recommend that, but if you are going to wear stripes wear horizontal. I would go with solid colored shirts.