How to Give a Man Oral Sex Like a Pro (2 page)

Chapter Two

Back to Basics: Blowjobs 101

Now it’s time for the good stuff: oral sex. Remember the first time you put your lips around a penis? Remember how bizarre it felt? The taste, the texture and how your man was shaken to his core all from just your mouth? When done the right way, oral sex can be truly powerful and give its receiver an orgasm that is out of this world. When done wrong, it can still feel amazing but it does lack that certain je ne sais quoi that makes it so delicious. When it’s done really wrong, well, oral sex plus blood equals not a pretty mix. Apologies for the mental image.

When it comes to oral sex on men, there are many terms for it such as blowjob, head and anything else you can find on Urban Dictionary. (Funniest oral sex term wins!)The formal term for it is fellatio but I will refer to it as blowjobs because well, it pairs well with handjobs and it is included in the title of my book, so blowjobs it is!

When you thought that you gave a guy all you could with just your two hands, you probably thought the next logical step was to go down on him and use your mouth. Blowjobs are a staple sex act that will never lose its steam. Men love them and some women truly love giving them. Some men even prefer them to sex. Yes, it’s true. You can’t really blame them though; as fantastic as sex is and how amazing it feels to connect with your partner on a deeper level and for both your bodies to become one, oral sex is self indulgent and you don’t have to worry about how the other person is feeling. Men can just lie back and enjoy the show. He doesn’t have to worry about getting you off or if his stamina is up to par. He gets to lie back while you do all of the work to help give him an orgasm. No wonder men love blowjobs, right? Plus, feeling your warm mouth wrapped around his manhood and to have your two hands tending to him the entire time has got to feel pretty amazing.

The only downside to oral sex is that it intimidates a lot of women and rightfully so. Having your man’s penis in your mouth would make a woman feel uncomfortable at times, especially if your man is well hung. You might feel like you are inadequate in your abilities. Not only that, but you don’t want to screw it up and you don’t want to be bad. A good set of oral sex skills can sometimes be hard to find in a mate and finding someone who truly loves giving oral might be even harder. You know that your man has had oral sex in the past given to him by other women so it can set you back a bit knowing that you have to compete with these women. Of course, your man will tell you otherwise, but deep down, you know that he will never tell you the truth in regards to how you measure up. How good a woman is at oral sex is definitely a big deal to her and you know this personally.

Rather than allowing your thoughts to stew and to worry, you are about to change all of that. No matter how perfect his previous lovers were at giving him oral, you are about to rock his world and the biggest step involved is confidence. A confident woman who knows what she wants and who isn’t afraid to get it, is one of the sexiest qualities a woman can have. Pair that with a woman who knows exactly what she is doing in the bedroom and you have someone who is unstoppable.

Oral sex doesn’t have to be scary and it doesn’t have to be gross. In fact, some women even get off giving their men oral sex. All you have to do is shift your mindset and you can see that there are so many great possibilities associated with it. You can feel so much closer to your man, feel so much sexier yourself and add a dash of spice to your sex life. It’s time to see the beauty in blowjobs and it’s time that you took your skill set from mediocre to mother of god. Let’s make it happen.

Chapter Three

How to Give a Handjob like a Pro

Now that we have the basics covered and your handjob knowledge is either back up to speed or on par with what it used to be, it’s time that we went a little deeper and explored a little more. Even though it doesn’t sound like that difficult of a task to stroke a man’s penis to get him to climax, you know better than just to take the typical route. You know that there are things that you can be doing that will seriously blow his mind in the bedroom and you know that you want to make that a reality. You want to be able to give him a handjob that you know he is always going to remember and you want to have him begging for you to put your hands on him the next time. You want to be the best that he has ever had or ever will have again and that is why you want to learn how to give a handjob like a pro.

The best thing about giving a handjob is that there is not a lot of effort involved and you can go for a long time. When you’re giving a blowjob, you have to be concerned about your jaw tightening up, your neck becoming sore and everything within your face feeling like it is being overworked. The beauty about giving an HJ is that if one hand gets tired, you have another waiting on the sidelines to be put into the game. If you feel like getting a little adventurous and really giving your man pleasure, then you even have the ability to use both hands to truly blow his mind. The possibilities that await you and your man are endless, but here are just a few to get you started.

If you want to give your man a handjob that he will never forget, then follow this chapter carefully and you’ll definitely make his head spin – both heads. (Apparently we’ve got a comedian in the house. I crack myself up.)

To get things started, you need to get your man rock hard before you dare to put your hands on him. No one wants to touch a flaccid penis and your man doesn’t want you to touch it either, despite what he may say. Your man feels at his best when his penis is hard and pointing straight up. He is not at his best when he is soft so it is up to you to change that. Foreplay is huge and not just for women. It used to be thought that only women needed foreplay because it takes them longer to get aroused. Women need that mental stimulation paired with some light physical stimulation so their bodies can become self-lubricated and ready for sex. Men are the same way but not the same, if you can follow my thought process here. Yes, they need foreplay too but not because it takes them long to get aroused nor does he need it to help him get in the mood mentally. You need to get him hard before you can give him your hands so here are some foreplay suggestions to get him going:

1. Wear some sexy lingerie
. Men are visual creatures and this is why they love watching porn and looking at women in scantily clad clothing. Women are hardwired differently; we are able to create fantasies in our mind based upon feelings of passion and love. If you want to get your man going, show him the goods but leave a little to the imagination. Mystery is sexy, but showing him a little really gets his heart racing too.

2. Dirty talk
. Dirty talking doesn’t always have to be saved for the sex. You can dirty talk your man whenever, wherever and however you want to. Telling him that you can’t wait to feel his big cock in between your hands will certainly set him off. Plus, this is a great way for you to feel a bit more confident as well. Setting the tone during foreplay and perhaps, coming out of your shell a bit, will help you when it comes down to stroking him and letting your inhibitions run wild.

3. Making out
. This is a no brainer -whenever you get hot and heavy with someone, the juices start flowing and the clothes start coming off. There is just something sexy about making out and it’s one of the best and most trusted forms of foreplay we can do. It’s hot, it’s fun and it almost always leads to pleasure. To get him hard, press him up against a wall and start going to town on him. Take off his shirt and get at the rest of his body, all but avoiding his penis. Take off some of your clothes and let him press his body against yours. The harder the make out, the harder your man.

4. Tease him
. Another tried, true and trusted way to get your man rock hard is to tease him. Of course, you are following up the teasing with some pleasure so don’t fret when you remember the phrase “Men don’t like teases”. In fact, men love teases so tease away. When making out, get close to his penis but never touch it or better yet, grab at him through his jeans. The closer you are to it without actually touching will get him so hard, he’ll be losing blood flow to his brain. Tease him until he can’t take it anymore and he is literally begging for you to give him release. That’s exactly where you want him to be.

Now that your man is hopefully ready to go and rock hard for you, now the fun can begin. Start off by slowing grabbing at the base of his penis and then stroke your hand all the way up. Do this a few times to get him going and then it’s time to add in a secret and special ingredient – lubricant. Lube will work wonders for your man and take this from a regular handjob to an extraordinary one. This is a step that most women forget or have never learned before. We are so accustomed to living in a world where if we want something, we want it now but sometimes, it’s good to slow things down. That is how you get far more enjoyment out of it all. Taking the extra few seconds it takes to slather lube all over your hands and all over him will be well worth it in the end. As a further tip, I recommend Eros as a great lubricant. It is silicone based and will pair deliciously well with your man’s body. The hotter the friction gets between the two of you, the wetter and better it will feel. You can use a water-based lubricant but those can tend to get a little sticky and wear off quickly. Eros is a lube designed specifically for gay men so you know that it is going to be well worth the money and last for as long as your man can.

Once your man is all lubed up and you are both ready to go, you can start picking up the pace and really getting into it. Don’t be afraid to stroke your man hard. Men are built tough so they can handle quite a bit in terms of stimulation. It is a tough obstacle for most women to overcome when they are stimulating a man because women are so used to such a gentle touch and caress. When we touch ourselves, and hopefully you do, you are used to being delicate within the gentle folds of skin. When your man touches you, you have to sometimes tell him to slow it down because if he gets too rough, it hurts a little and becomes uncomfortable. The opposite holds true for your man, within reason of course. He can take a beating so when it comes to stroking him, especially if you are using lubricant, you can go to town. Use a tight grip and don’t be afraid to really give it to him. This is also a tip that a lot of women don’t know about. They are so used to a gentle touch, they assume that men like the same thing. Blow his mind, grip him hard and show him what you know. The only thing to keep in mind is that the closer you get to the tip of his penis, the more sensitive it becomes. Keep your strokes near the base and just near the tip and this will be extremely pleasurable for him.

When you are giving your man a handjob, you can give him added stimulation and bring him closer to climax but adding in a simple step and that is to stimulate his testicles at the same time. With your strong hand stroking away on his shaft, use your other hand to stimulate his testicles. You can do this in a number of different ways; you can cup them, rub them or even tug at them. The only thing that you shouldn’t do is be rough with him. Unlike the penis, the testicles require a gentler touch so keep that in mind when you are playing. Adding in the stimulation of his testicles being toyed with will give him that added boost of pleasure that he probably hasn’t felt before. A lot of women are either afraid or grossed out to go near the testicles and others simply don’t know what to do with them. Go for the gold and he won’t know what hit him.

There are various stroking techniques that you can use when giving him a handjob that will get him even closer to climax. Although stroking up and down does feel amazing for him, especially paired with the lubricant, there are so many other things that you can do that will feel even more amazing. For example, using your hand in the opposite way, so that your thumb faces down and your pinky upwards, changes up the pressure of the stroke. Typically, your thumb and the surrounding area generate a tighter and stronger grip and it lessens throughout your hand to your pinky. Having that stronger sensation closer to the base of his penis and the lighter near the tip will change up the stimulation that he feels and might even feel better for him, remembering that the stronger the stimulation near the base, the more comfortable it is for him.

You can also really blow his mind by doing this special stimulation technique and that is called the twist. This move is the epitome of what a great handjob is all about and it takes it to a whole new level, ridding it of any elementary or juvenile stigma it may have previously had attached to it. The twist involves you using both hands on him, stacked one on the other and all you do is twist your one hand counterclockwise and your other hand clockwise. This gives your man three different forms of stimulation: one in one direction, one in the other and still with the up and down motion. All of these forms of stimulation give him a sensation that is unreal and unparallel to anything he has ever had in terms of a handjob. Plus, it gives him the illusion that he has two women stroking his penis, since there are various directions involved and we all know how much of a fantasy that is for most men. You can easily make this happen for him but just with yourself by using the twist.

Even though this book is all about handjobs and blowjobs, if you want to take things a step further and truly shed from that shy girl skin that you find so comfortable, if your man has a foot fetish or even if you think he would be game for it, try giving him a footjob. Lube up your feet and place them together, bottoms touching, and let him slide right in to the small space that is created from your arches. Men who have experienced this will agree that it surprisingly does feel amazing. The only problem is that you have a lack of control over your feet so you won’t be able to give him all sorts of various forms of stimulation. However, that doesn’t take away from the fact that it is rather kinky and definitely unique.

No matter what form of stimulation you decide to give to your man, just remember to constantly switch up your grip, the pressure and the speed at which you are stimulating him. Stroking him at a million miles a minute may seem like it is working to really get him going but it might be a bit much for him to take all at once. Try switching up the tempo to not only go easy on him to help him reach climax but to also keep him on his toes. You, my friend, are not a one trick pony so bulk up your handjob arsenal and try using a variety of techniques on him. All of this will compound on itself leading up to one of the best orgasms he has ever had or ever will have again, all because of your hands.