How to Give a Man Oral Sex Like a Pro (3 page)

Chapter Four

How to Give a Blowjob like a Pornstar

It goes without saying but we are going to say it anyways – men love oral sex. Like really love oral sex. Like for some men they even prefer it to sex and who could blame them? How sexy is it to have a woman on her knees tonguing your manhood and swallowing up all of those juices? Of course, we may not know this personally but I digress. Oral makes a man feel in charge and it makes him feel like he is the king. Even though it is the woman with all of the control in this position, to have your mouth wrapped around him makes him feel something that no other sexual act can make him feel. Men love blowjobs so if you really want to get him going in the bedroom and to curl those toes of him, make him scream your name and to render him speechless, then you definitely need to learn how to give a blowjob like a pornstar. 

Now, giving a blowjob like a pornstar is not intended to demean women in any sense. It is actually to empower women and to make them feel sexier. If you have seen a porn where a woman is going down on a guy, then you know how much they absolutely rock it and how they are unafraid to do whatever it takes to make him orgasm. This is what you should do and how you should feel. You should forget about your inhibitions and just allow yourself to get lost in the moment. Your goal is to make him come and you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen. That’s what giving a blowjob like a pornstar is all about – no fear.

To get started, the basics are the same, as with a handjob – you have to get him going first. It’s one thing to stroke a flaccid penis but it is a whole other ballgame to put that in your mouth. There is nothing positive about giving head to a flaccid man so you need to do something about it. Again, this is where foreplay is imperative. Reference the previous chapter for some great foreplay techniques to get your man turned on but here are a few more just in case you are looking for something a little different:

5. Striptease
. Remember how we spoke about how much men are visual creatures and how they feed off of that kind of stimulation that goes right to their brain? You know, the brain in their head? (I kill myself sometimes.) Well, a striptease does all that for your man and so much more, plus it gets you in the mood as well. Turning the lights down low, tying your man to a chair, putting on a track that empowers you and taking off your clothes to tease him may very well be one of his greatest fantasies come true. Not only does this get him in the mood and will definitely get him hard fast, but it also adds some confidence to your spirit, making it much easier to go down on him.

6. Start early
. If you and your man are out for dinner with friends or at some sort of an engagement, get the fun going before you even get home. Stroke his thigh under the table at dinner or give him a small but sexy make out session when you two are passing each other in a hallway. Keep it discreet and it will make him feel like you two have something to hide, which is a huge turn on for him. Knowing that you want him bad but that you two can’t do anything about it will totally drive him wild and will build that anticipation in his body like never before. You won’t even have to worry about doing anything once you get him alone but wrapping those sexy lips around him.

7. The Tongue Trick
.  A great way to get your man going before you go down on him is to give him a bit of a prelude or a preview on what is about to come. As a foreplay technique, take one of his fingers during a hot make out session and play with it in your mouth. Use your teeth to rake against his skin, your tongue to make circles all around it and your mouth to suck hard on it. This will send his mind racing and once he clues in to exactly what you are doing, he will be begging for you to show off those skills elsewhere on his body.

Now that you have your man rock hard and ready to go, it’s time for the fun to begin. Again, you want to start slow so it’s best to start with just licking his penis. Take your tongue and start at the base, working your way all the way up to the tip, circle it and then all the way back down again. Not only does this increase the anticipation in his body, gets you all ready to go, but it creates a layer of lubrication that makes stimulation a lot easier. With a handjob, you had the leisure of using lubricant to help you make it a lot more enjoyable for him and easier for you to the point where you could just glide your hands on him. With a blowjob, you could use lubricant but your saliva works just as well and once you get going, the easier it will get. A lot of women are afraid to let their saliva flow and to saturate him with it but remember, you are giving a blowjob like a pornstar and you aren’t about to let your worries get in your way. You came here to learn how to give him the best he’s had so let the saliva flow baby, within reason of course. If you know that you aren’t comfortable with your saliva and that you would rather lubricate him in other ways, then feel free to use a flavored lubricant. This will not only feel great for him but it will change his taste, making oral sex that much more enjoyable for you.

Once he is a bit more lubricated from you licking him, you can start with more stimulation. Take him in your mouth and allow your mouth to go up and down on him a few times. Note: you do not have to try for a deep throat unless of course, you are capable of that. That is for later. Going down as far as you can, just to get him wet and acclimated to the temperature of your mouth will do just fine.

After you have created a rhythm with your mouth that you are comfortable with, you can start throwing some things into the mix. In between stroking him with your mouth, circle the tip of his penis with your tongue. This will send shivers down his spine and gives you a break from using those jaw muscles so much. You can also close your mouth on him and suck him all the way up until you reach the top. You can use your tongue to flick against the area where his head meets the shaft, or if he is uncircumcised, you can gently pull back on the skin and let your tongue explore him even more. The whole point about giving him an amazing blow job is to make it your own and to create your own style so the more you do to him, the better it will feel.

As an added bonus and a great alternative way to give him pleasure and one that would make any pornstar proud, use that mouth of yours on his balls. Just like you remembered to give them attention with that amazing handjob, give him an even stronger orgasm by using your tongue and mouth to stimulate his testicles. Feeling your tongue lick him all over and gently taking one of his balls in your mouth to lightly suck on will be a nice break from stimulation of the penis with your mouth and will also, again, give your jaw a break. It feels amazing for him and works wonders for you – bonus!

Remember to not be afraid to use your saliva and to put it to work. Change up the strokes that you give to him with your mouth and don’t forget to incorporate your tongue into the mix. The more variety you give to him, the better it will feel and this will all result in an orgasm that he will truly never forget.

Chapter Five

The Blended Stimulation Orgasm

Now that you have the ability to give your man pleasure both with your hands and with your mouth, it’s time to take it to the next level and to really WOW him in the bedroom. It’s time that you gave him something that he will always remember and something that he will be begging for more of. It’s time that you took the knowledge that you have for both handjobs and blowjobs and that you put them together. It’s time that the forces joined for something ultimate and something that will render your man speechless. It’s time for the blended stimulation orgasm.

The blended stimulation orgasm involves stimulation of both the hands and the mouth. This is similar to the blended stimulation orgasm in women, which involves stimulation of both the clitoris and the g-spot. Of course, this differs for men in that you are only stimulating one section of his body but you are using various techniques in order to make him climax. You could give a man a blended stimulation orgasm by using your fingers to stimulate the prostate gland, which of course, requires internal stimulation through means of the anus, but that is for another book and another time. We are focusing on handjobs and blowjobs here so apologies for my distraction. Sometimes a girl can’t contain herself when she is talking about blended orgasms. Let’s continue, shall we?

To give your man one of these holy grails of all orgasms, all you have to do is utilize the same skill sets that you learned previously and to put them together. Instead of just using your hand or just using your mouth, you are going to use both and use them individually and together to give him the kind of stimulation that he is yearning for. Also, it’s just natural for a woman to want to use her mouth when she is giving a handjob and for her to want to use her hand when she is giving a blowjob. Handjobs and blowjobs work together like milk and cereal, like sauce and pasta and like whatever other kinds of comparisons are cute and kitschy.

The reason we didn’t go into utilizing both before was because it is best to learn each separate before you learn how to combine them. Perfecting your skill set in learning how to properly stimulate the penis with just your hand to make him climax or just your mouth, forces you to perfect each form of stimulation so you don’t find yourself relying on one or the other. This, in turn, makes you more capable of giving him mind blowing pleasure and able to give him so much more. It would be easy to do things the way in which they have always been done or always been instructed but that’s not how you learn anything new or how you push yourself. You have to go outside of your comfort zone and learn how to reach your end goal without relying on your old tricks in order to really make the magic happen.

To make the blended stimulation orgasm a reality for your man, the same foreplay tactics must be used. Again, you want to get your man rock hard and practically begging you to touch him before you should even dare to give him stimulation. Once you have used one or more of the foreplay suggestions previously described in the two chapters prior to this one, then you are ready and raring to go.

The beauty about the blended stimulation orgasm is that there aren’t any rules associated with it and even if there were, you know that those rules should and will be broken. It is up to you to decide how and when you want to use stimulation of your hands and mouth to take him on a magic carpet ride straight to orgasm town. However, I know you are looking for a little guidance on just what to do and how to do it right, so allow me.

Just as you did before and so well, start off slow. Start by using your hand to stroke his shaft up and down and maybe linger on the cusp of his testicles. Then, allow your tongue to do the same; trace your tongue up and down the sides of his shaft, giving him the opportunity to feel the warmth of your mouth. These small tastes he gets of both your hand and your tongue will not only give him two different forms of stimulation to get used to, but it makes him look so much forward to what is going to come. (Puns!)

After you tease him a few times with licks and light touching, it’s time that you broke the ice even further and allowed him to plunge into the depths of that mouth. Use your strong hand to hold the penis at the base and then use your mouth to swallow him as far as you can go. Do this a few times to get him lubricated with your saliva. This is really going to come in handy later on. (Puns. So many puns.) Doing this a few times also allows him to ease into stimulation. Again, you don’t want to start off going too quickly because you don’t want to over stimulate him. Think of the penis as being an oversized clitoris. You know that right off the bat, you don’t want too much stimulation because that can be too sensitive and perhaps even translate into pain. Instead, you want it nice and slow and to gradually work up to a faster pace and rougher touch. Do the same for your man. Yes, he can take more than you but start slow and work up to it. This will serve you both well in the long run.

When he is getting antsy and is done with the light touching, now you can keep your mouth on the tip of his penis to about halfway down and keep up with the up and down motions or “bobbing”, allowing your mouth to suck him and your tongue to caress him, but now you can start getting a little rougher with your hand on the shaft. Using both your hands and your mouth, keep your mouth on the tip because that is the more delicate end of his penis and use your hand on the base to the middle where it may meet your mouth. The saliva that drips from your mouth will then transfer onto your hand, giving him a deliciously wet sensation during the duration of stimulation. Using this technique will stimulate his entire penis and you give him a balance of rough stimulation mixed with light caressing. Pairing both of these together gives him a variety of stimulation, which as you know, helps to bring him closer to orgasm that much faster. (How many times can a girl use stimulation in one paragraph? Maybe one more for good luck?)

Perhaps the best part about the blended stimulation orgasm is that when either your mouth or your hand start to get tired, you can rely on the other to continue the job until you are ready to go again. If your jaw starts to fatigue or lock itself from all of your hard work, then you have a hand to rely on to continue stimulation until you’re ready to go again. If your one hand tires, you have another one to come in to finish the job or to help you out. The beauty of the blended stimulation orgasm is that you get breaks when you need them but your man never feels a break from stimulation. It is always constant and always ever changing, which will keep him on his toes and keep him so interested in what surprise you may have in store for him next.

Keeping on the path of surprises, since you have so many options with the blended stimulation orgasm, you can try this little bad boy; with your mouth on the tip of his penis and your strong hand on the base, try giving him all the stimulation he can handle by using your other hand to lightly caress his testicles. Now he is getting pleasure from all possible angles and won’t be able to contain himself. This stimulation overload won’t last for long because he won’t be able to handle himself and won’t be able to fight off how good everything feels. He gets the lightness and wetness from your tongue and mouth, the rough from your strong hand stroking him senseless, and your other hand lightly tugging at his testicles is a recipe for orgasm central.

Feel free to put your own spin on this routine. You don’t always have to give him all 3 forms of pleasure at once so figure out what works best for you in the moment. Sometimes, you can’t predict what is going to work and what isn’t. You have to adapt in the moment and by knowing how to perform both handjobs and blowjobs separately, you will surely blow his mind when you combine them together – it will be a super orgasm! (Dammit, that’s what the chapter should have been called. Hindsight 20-20 and too lazy to use the backspace.)