Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You'll Barely Keep From Dating Yourself! (19 page)

You can't. Unless you fully invest in the relationship you've got right now, you'll never know. There's an adage that says, "The grass is always greener where you water it." Until you start giving your current relationship the attention it deserves, you'll remain in a painful space of secondguessing,
thinking about what you should or shouldn't do. Stop holding back and start being completely honest, compassionate, and loving toward the person you're with. The relationship will either move ahead or it won't. You can't figure this out in your mind—you need to fully engage with your heart. Only then will you discover your truth.

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Congratulations, Miss Irresistible! You have now discovered the secrets to making every man want you and have the tools to enjoy healthy and satisfying relationships with men.

In
Part 1
, you passed Irresistibility 101 and discovered not only why you need to be irresistible but also what a powerful impact you are meant to have in the world. You also discovered that relationships are spiritual opportunities, and while they can be glorious, having a relationship will not save or complete you. You also learned that now is all you've got, men are "as-is" merchandise, and, despite what our minds fight for, love cannot be guaranteed.

In
Part 2
, you discovered how to ditch the rules and trash your perfect man checklist. You learned how to disengage from the treacherous gender war and how to let go
of stories from the past that you are somehow defective or damaged. You discovered that dropping your complaints will help you meet more men instantly and why getting a life and keeping it are key to staying centered and irresistible in any relationship. Finally, you explored the idea of perfect packaging and discovered easy ways to make your outer appearance an irresistible extension of your inner goddess. Remember, you can be spiritually, emotionally, and sexually self-expressive right now. In fact, this is the real secret to authentic and lasting irresistibility. You must recognize that you are whole and complete in this moment. Live as though this is it. While it's exciting to unleash your aliveness, it's also a tremendous gift to the world. By letting your own irresistibility shine, you give others permission to do the same.

Now that you have this wisdom, don't keep it a secret. Tell every woman you know that there's another possibility. Tell them they don't have to manipulate or play games to get what they want with men. Tell them they don't have to be fake or strategic to experience all the love, attention, and satisfaction they desire. When you come across a woman who is lost and searching for a better way, speak up and share the insight from
Make Every Man Want You
.

You may be wondering what happened with that fantastic man Josh I told you about. Remember, the guy who pretty much scored a zero on my perfect man checklist? Well, not so long ago we were having dinner at our beach house in Sag Harbor, New York. It was late summer; the
orange light of sunset danced on our wine glasses while the trees softly rustled in the warm breeze. It was a typical evening for us; we sat cross-legged on our couch, eating a home-cooked meal and watching a movie. This night, however, turned out to be very special. Just a few minutes into the movie, Josh quietly set aside his plate, put down his wine glass, and got down on one knee. He smiled, took my hand, and asked me to marry him.

In that instant, I knew he wasn't asking a woman who had "followed the rules" and manipulated him into a proposal. I knew he wasn't asking a woman who had skillfully pressured him into marriage. I knew he wasn't asking a figment of his imagination or some manufactured perfect-wife persona. He was asking me—the real, flawed, sometimes crazy, and often irresistible me. The woman who laughs, cries, makes mistakes, loves cheese, is obsessed with tweezing stray hairs, and cooks one heck of a crab cake.

When I could finally speak, I squeezed his hand, looked him directly in the eye, and said, "Yes, I'll marry you!" It was one of the sweetest and most lovely moments in my life.

Does this mean we'll blissfully ride off into happily-ever-after land? Who knows. My only job is to stay here and tell the truth, in this moment, and the future will take care of itself. What I do know is this: being as honest, compassionate, and loving as I can be is the secret to my true irresistibility. My life works when my heart is open. It keeps me sane and on track. When I'm vulnerable, I'm beautiful.
When I'm expressive and real about who I am right now, I feel alive down to the very core of my being. I'm connected, both to myself and to the people around me.

Whatever you do, don't hold back your heart. Your capacity to love is greater than you could ever imagine. Your irresistibility is a gift. And your willingness to love and be irresistible is a miracle that touches us all.

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Don't forget to download your complimentary Irresistible Action Guide that includes all the exercises in this book as well as a four-week audio coaching program to keep you inspired and on track with the Make Every Man Want You approach. Visit
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/actionguide now to access these free bonus resources and more.

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Action Guide, Irresistible

Age difference

Aikman, Leo

Andrews, Kathleen Tierney

Angelou, Maya

Anger, repressed

Answers to dating dilemmas

   age issues

   asking a man out

   calling a guy

   changing a guy

   cheating

   communicating about sex

   distrust of men

   ex-boyfriends

   ex-girlfriends

   first move

   hard-to-get gals

   letting go of ex

   love language

   meeting parents

   needing space

   relationship readiness

   right-guy doubts

   sex on first date

   sexual exploration

   skinny women

   uninterested men

Anthropological approach

Appearance

   fitness and exercise

   hair and makeup

   Heather's story

   important details

   information gleaned from

   irresistible action challenge

   sloppy look

   wardrobe updating

As-is merchandise, men as

Asking a man out

Attitude

   bitter

   "this is it,"

Authentic irresistibility.
See also
Eight secrets to magnetizing men

   being present

   claiming

   five truths for

   humor, fun, and

   inaccurate ideas and

   irresistible action challenge

   irresistible insight questions

   is-ness and

   as lifestyle

   living a full life and

   manipulations or tricks versus

   paradox of

   personal responsibility for

   thinking problems and

   truth telling for

   victimhood versus

Automatic behavior

Automatic responses

Awareness, judgment-free

Bach, David

Bad-mouthing attractive women

Battle of the sexes

   Ali's story

   defined

   irresistible action challenge

   male bashing

   thoughts about men

Beauty, physical

   caring about

   fitness and exercise

   hair and makeup

   Heather's story

   important details for

   irresistible action challenge

   sloppy look versus

   wardrobe updating

Bitter attitude

Boring sex

Breakups, resisting

Buddhist proverb

Calling a guy

Catty remarks

Changing a guy

Cheating men

Checklist, perfect man

   as barrier

   irresistible action challenge

   mythical Mr. Right

Childhood, dysfunctional

   irresistible action challenge

   irresistible insight questions

   letting go of

   memories of

   "poor me" stories

Chödrön, Pema

Chopra, Deepak

Clothing

   Heather's story

   important details

   irresistible action challenge

   lingerie

   sloppy look

   wardrobe updating

   
What Not to Wear

Communication mistakes

Complaining

   engaging instead of

   irresistible action challenge

   irresistible insight questions

   as man repellant

   as "not available" vibe

   stress created by

Constantine, Susannah

Cortisol

Cruise, Tom

Dating dilemmas

   age issues

   asking a man out

   asking about

   calling a guy

   changing a guy

   cheating

   communicating about sex

   distrust of men

   ex-boyfriends

   ex-girlfriends

   first move

   hard-to-get gals

   letting go of ex

   love language

   meeting parents

   needing space

   relationship readiness

   right-guy doubts

   sex on first date

   sexual exploration

   skinny women

   uninterested men

Dating rules

   authenticity versus

   examples of

   irresistible action challenge

   as manipulative games

De Mello, Anthony

Deida, David

Distrust of men

Dropping your story

   examples of stories we tell