Playing Well With Others (46 page)

Ownership Icons

Designed by Tanos in 2006, the Ownership Icons flag the identities of individuals who have power exchange dynamics or desires. The shield represents a master or head of household. On the inside a simplified gender symbol can be placed, or a head of household might place their own household or personal icon instead.

For slaves, submissives and property, there are two types of symbols. The thick, closed circle is for owned slaves, submissives or property, representing the closed or locked collar. The second, a broken square consisting of four corners and four gaps, is for unowned slaves, submissives or property. This second symbol represents the unlocked or open cage, which suggests that the bearer, seeking enslavement, may seem free, but is already in a cage waiting to find connections that will fulfill their needs or desires.

Barcode - Slave registry: Created by the Slave registry website, it is a user specific UPC geared and designed for slaves to register themselves.

Items/Clothing/Props

The following items can be used to flag an interest or involvement in kink:

Other items that might be used for flagging are:

Cock ring
worn on a leather jacket (worn on the left to represent sexual top, right to represent sexual bottom)

Diaper pin
(worn on a shirt to represent interest in adult baby or diaper lover interactions)

Gorean Slave Silks
(specific colors of attire that denote a slave’s function, rank, house affiliation or calling).

Appendix 3

Negotiation Tools

On the following pages you will find three different versions of a negotiation questionnaire, known as the “Playcard,” “Questionnaire” and “Checklist and Extended Questionnaire.” These can be used in a variety of different ways, including:

• Self-examination
  

• Flirtation
  

• Filling out and sharing with a partner
  

• Negotiating with others once each partner has done the form independently
  

• Working through the form with your partner
  

• Conversation starter Daydreaming
  

• Being inspired by the wide variety of human desire out there!
  

You can do them with a specific partner in mind, or thinking in general about your desires. You can do them once, or reassess your desires periodically as a way to examine how your desires shift. And of course, you can use it to play kinky “never have I ever” or “truth or dare.”

Before We Play Questionnaire

This questionnaire is intended to generate discussion and facilitate negotiation with a particular individual, or individuals. It is most useful when you think of what your desires are for this particular interaction rather than encompassing the full spectrum of your desires. Feel free to choose multiple responses, or to write in your own answers!

Name/Scene Name:

Safeword (or plain language only):

Check all that apply:

Top
     Bottom
     Switch
     Dominant
     Submissive
    

Other Orientations/Identities:

Are bruises/marks acceptable?

Medical, Physical or Emotional Concerns to be Aware Of (allergies, injuries, asthma, diabetes, phobias):

Medical, Physical or Emotional Limits and Boundaries (no go zones):

Is sexual play OK? If yes, what are your safer sex practices?

Pain/Sensation Play I Enjoy Receiving
     Giving
     :