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Appendix 4

Further Resources

4A: Non-Fiction Books

The following list is a selection of available texts on SM, kink, power exchange, sexuality, leather, polyamory, relationships and more. It is not a comprehensive list; such an undertaking would be maddening, as new books come out all the time.

Some of these have stood the test of time, while others are included to feature authors who have shaped the face of public kink. They range from books in the 1980s to the 2010s, to also provide a snapshot of our cultural history and evolution. We have not included any kink technique books, as there are so many and they are beyond the range of this book. Included are sexuality and relationship awareness books beyond the scope of kink, because we believe they present skills that help facilitate communication of our physical and emotional needs, wants and desires.

SM, kink, power exchange and leather

Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves,
by david stein. Perfectbound Press, 2009.

Coming to Power: Writing and Graphics on Lesbian S/M,
by Samois. Alyson Books, 2nd revised edition, 1982.

Deviations: A Gayle Rubin Reader,
by Gayle Rubin. Duke University Press, 2011.

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission,
by Gloria and William Brame. Villard Books, 1996.

Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus,
by Christina Abernathy. Greenery Press, 2007.

How to be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM,
by Morpheous. Green Candy Press, 2008.

Leatherfolk: Radical Sex, People, Politics, and Practice,
by Mark Thompson. Daedalus Publishing, 2004.

Leatherman’sHandbookII,
by Larry Townsend. BookSurge Publishing, 2007.

Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player,
by Joseph Bean. Daedalus Publishing, 1994.

The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance,
by Mistress Lorelei. Greenery Press, 2000.

The New Bottoming Book,
by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. Greenery Press, 2001.

The New Topping Book,
by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. Greenery Press, 2003.

Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths Of BDSM And Beyond
by Lee Harrington. Mystic Productions Press, 2009.

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
, by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon. Mystic Rose Books, 1995.

The Second Coming: A Leatherdyke Reader,
by Pat Califia and Robin Sweeney. Alyson Books, 2000.

Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/Mfor Adventurous Couples,
by Patrick Califia. Cleis Press, 2nd edition. 2002.

The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners,
by Lady Green. Greenery Press, 1998.

SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude — Principles, Skills and Tools,
by Guy Baldwin. Daedalus Publishing, 2002.

SM101: A Realistic Approach,
by Jay Wiseman. Greenery Press, 1998.

Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice,
by Guy Baldwin. Daedalus Publishing, 2nd edition,1993.

The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo,
by Mollena Williams. Greenery Press, 2010.

To Love, to Obey, to Serve: Diary of an Old Guard Slave,
by V.M.Johnson. Mystic Rose Books, 1999.

Urban Aboriginals,
by Geoff Mains. Daedalus Publishing, 20
^th
anniversary edition, 2002.

When Someone You Love is Kinky,
by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. Greenery Press, 2000.

Sex, Relationships, and Polyamory

Big Big Love, Revised: A Sex and Relationships Guide for People of Size (and Those Who Love Them),
by Hanne Blank. Celestial Arts, Revised edition, 2011.

(While this book is geared towards teens, we believe it has pertinent information for adults as well.)
Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: Expanded Third Edition:

A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships,
by Ruth Bell. Three Rivers Press, 3rd edition, 1998.

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures,
by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy. Celestial Arts, 2009.

Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot!,
by Carol Queen. Down There Press, Revised edition, 2009.

(While this book is geared towards teens, we believe it has pertinent information for adults as well.)
The Guy Book: An Owner’s Manual (Maintenance, Safety, and Operating Instructions for Teens)
by Mavis Jukes. Crown Books, 2002.

Health Care Without Shame: A Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers,
by Dr. Charles Moser. Greenery Press, 1999.

Intellectual Foreplay: A Book of Questions for Lovers and Lovers-to-Be,
by Eve and Steve Eschner Hogan. Hunter House, 2000.

The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know,
by Mantak Chia, et al. HarperOne, 2002.

My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely,
by Kate Bornstein. Routledge, 1997.