4. THE BABY'S DOMINION
1
From the end of the 1970s right up to the latest edition in 2008,
J'élève mon enfant
lays out both feeding choices with their respective advantages. Even though we can deduce the author has a preference for breast-feeding, bottle-feeding is in no way stigmatized.
2
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
, 2nd ed. (Franklin Park, IL: La Leche League International, 1963).
3
Some of these fathers said they felt swindled if and when they divorced and their wives would not even hear of giving them custody of the child(ren), or of joint custody when it was introduced in 2002.
4
Marie Thirion,
L'allaitement: de la naissance au sevrage
(Paris: Albin Michel, 1994). Edwige Antier,
Attendre mon enfant aujourd'hui
(Paris: Robert Laffont, 2007).
5
Edwige Antier,
Ãloge des mères
(Paris: Robert Laffont, 2001), p. 119, my italics.
6
Edwige Antier,
Vive l'éducation!
(Paris: Robert Laffont, 2003), pp. 44â45.
7
Edwige Antier,
Confidences de parents
(Paris: Robert Laffont, 2002), p. 55.
9
Denmark and Norway are equally generous. In Denmark, parental leave is for one year, and some fathers can take up to ten and a half weeks of paid leave. Norway offers almost three years of parental leave to couples, forty-four weeks of which are reimbursed at 100 percent salary.
10
Anita Haataja, “Fathers' Use of Paternity and Parental Leave
in Nordic Countries,” Kelafpa, Online working papers 2 (2009): 8, 16.
11
Claude-Suzanne Didierjean-Jouveau,
Partager le sommeil de son enfant
(Saint-Julien-en-Genevois, France: Ãditions Jouvence, 2005), p. 49.
12
Ibid., preface by Edwige Antier, pp. 8 and 9.
15
Elle
, August, 13, 2009, interviews with Marcel Rufo and Claude Halmos on co-sleeping.
16
Antier,
Confidences de parents
, pp. 51, 52â53.
17
Ãliette Abécassis,
Un heureux événement
(Paris: Albin Michel, 2005), pp. 78â79.
19
According to a study by psychologists at the University of Denver (USA) covering 218 households, an overwhelming majority of young parents noticed a deterioration in their relationship with their partner after the birth of their first baby.
20
Moi d'abord
(Me First), the title of Katherine Pancol's book (Paris: Seuil, 1979).
21
Elisabeth Badinter,
Mother Love: Myth and RealityâMotherhood in Modern History
(New York: Macmillan, 1981), pp. 335â60. See also Les Chimères,
Maternité esclave
, vols. 10â18 (Paris: Union General d'Edition, 1975).
22
Lyliane Nemet-Pier,
Mon enfant me dévore
(Paris: Albin Michel, 2003).
23
The APE remunerated (at half the minimum wage) the parent who stopped work in order to look after a child up to the age of three. In 98 percent of cases the parent was the mother.
24
Liza Belkin, “The Opt-Out Revolution,”
New York Times Magazine
, October 26, 2003. See also “Quand superwoman rentre à la maison,”
Elle
, October 20, 2008.
25
In total, 22 percent of mothers with university degrees; 33 percent of those with MBAs worked part-time; and 26 percent approaching top management did not want to be promoted. The article also indicated that 57 percent of mothers who graduated from Stanford in 1981 stayed at home for at least a year.
26
They can reduce their work time by two hours per day (their salary is then paid pro rata).
27
Many breast-fed children do not go into child care before they are one year old.
28
Courrier cadres
, no. 28 (March 2009). In “Emploi des mères et garde des jeunes enfants en Europe,”
OFCE Review
(July 2004), Hélène Périvier points out that Swedish women do continue to work (albeit with long maternity leaves), but they reduce their average working hours (in their working life) by seventeen hours a week.
29
Catherine Hakim,
Key Issues in Women's Work: Female Diversity and the Polarisation of Women's Employment
(London: Glass House Press, 2004).
32
Australian Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs website:
www.fahcsia.gov.au
.