Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More (21 page)

True Story: Colin and the Sex Club

 

Colin, a graphic designer from New Jersey, recently made his first visit to a swing club in Las Vegas with his bi-curious girlfriend who lives in Nevada. A handsome African American male in his early thirties who is proud of his self-professed metrosexuality, Colin says he and his sexy Asian American lady friend, a medical salesperson, have been able to continue this bi-coastal relationship for the past two years with lots of phone sex. It was during his last stay in Sin City that they visited a swing club.

“There were a lot more women than men in the club, and it was very clean and pleasant,” Colin says. “Couples pay fifty bucks to get in, and single women pay twenty-five. There was no alcohol, which was fine by me because I don’t drink, but we did hit a bar before we got there because my girlfriend wanted a drink or two to loosen up.” Once inside and wandering around, they caught the eye of an attractive older blonde, possibly in her early forties, whom they both found appetizing.

“She was built the way we both like women, fit but thick with large breasts. So we sort of parked it near her and started fooling around in front of her. We didn’t know how to get it going, and we might have been a little too shy to talk to her, so we figured actions speak louder than words.”

It must have worked, because while the attractive couple began to shed clothing and become entwined, Colin’s girlfriend felt her dainty, manicured foot being sensually massaged by someone who was not her man—his hands were busy pulling down her top and kneading her ample chest. She looked over Colin’s bare shoulder and saw the older, sexy blonde on her knees in front of them and playing with her feet. Their eyes locked, there was a smile and a nod between them, and slowly the woman seduced Colin’s girlfriend. Her feet happened to be one of her erogenous zones, and when she began taking her toes one by one into her mouth, it was instant ecstasy.

“She let out this huge sigh—I knew that sigh, but I also knew it wasn’t entirely for me!” says Colin. “I saw we had a visitor, and I was very happy it was her. I watched her suck my girlfriend’s toes and I started pulling my girl’s skirt down—she usually doesn’t wear a bra and tonight she didn’t wear panties either—and I ate her out while this woman was basically making love to her feet. It was very erotic.”

Like good couples should, Colin and his girlfriend did discuss what would be okay and not okay before arriving at this club. Colin’s girlfriend only had two rules: She didn’t want them to be with another man, and Colin was not to kiss any women they might get involved with. Both rules were perfectly fine with him, as he wasn’t comfortable with the idea of being naked with another man and had no desire to kiss any lips but his own lady’s luscious full ones.

The ample blonde eventually joined the couple on the couch, and Colin and his girlfriend enjoyed feasting on her big nipples. “It was nice to share this woman together. We both enjoy all the good things in life: good food, good wine. And now we were sharing this fine sexy woman. It was great—it was amazing actually,” Colin says.

He was also pleasantly surprised at how assertive and generous his girlfriend became about sharing him. “At one point she was stroking my dick and fingering her own pussy at the same time and asking this woman, ‘Do you like my man’s big black dick? Do you want this big black dick? Do you want it inside you, fucking your brains out?’ “

Once taboos are initially broken, the fear is gone, and things begin to work out well, so wonderful in fact, that things can go farther. Colin says for him it had to be all about his girlfriend and her pleasure. “If I felt she was apprehensive and nervous, I wouldn’t have even gone with her, even if it was her idea to go. So as we went along I wanted her fully relaxed, fully turned on, with the knowledge that nothing would happen that she didn’t want to happen and at the same time anything was possible.”

Her wish was his command, and so were the wishes of their eager new playmate, who indeed did want that big black dick. Colin said this woman rode him like a bucking bronco while his girlfriend sat on his face and licking their new friend’s breasts. “It’s an amazing feeling when you’re with two women and they’re both coming at the same time. Imagine making two people come at the same time? Wow.” He himself held back, and when the blonde got off him he turned his girlfriend over and ravaged her from behind while she orally serviced the blonde, and this time they all orgasmed at the same time. Wow, indeed.

Although Colin and his girlfriend don’t use condoms with each other, they did use a condom with this woman and wouldn’t have had it any other way. “You have to be safe, to feel you can let go and have fun,” he says. The woman was the only encounter they had that evening. Afterward, they drank juice together and made small talk. The woman worked at a nearby casino as a poker dealer, but they learned little else. Once they politely wandered away, they mainly enjoyed playing dirty voyeurs and enjoyed other couples watching them. “There was also the odd guy who kept looking at us while he was jerking off—that was more funny than anything else,” says Colin. When asked whether he would ever do this again, Colin laughed and said, “We did, the next night on my way to the airport. It was a good way to sleep through my red eye flight.”

True Story: Tony and Tina

 

Tony and Tina, two Italian-Americans in their late twenties from Brooklyn, met through mutual friends who set them up on a blind date. Tina, an adorable, petite brunette with large dark eyes, had recently left a painfully bad relationship in which her boyfriend had repeatedly cheated on her. She wanted to go to a party where she needed a date, and her friends who were also going knew a nice single young man, Tony, an equally cute, dark-haired guy who worked in computer programming on Wall Street.

It was an instant love connection, and their evening ended with a heavy duty makeout and fool-around session in the hot tub of his apartment complex. They have now been together six months, and are inseparable. When you sit with them, you can see their genuine friendship, affection, and attraction, and they can barely be near each other without touching or kissing. They currently live apart because Tina feels she needs some space living alone between her last experience and this one, but she also says she’s sure a year from now she and Tony will be living together. And Tony says he’s sure in no time they will be making plans for the most raucous wedding party in Brooklyn.

“A wedding where after the party 30 people or so will be watching us get it on together!” he proclaims. Tina playfully elbows him and says, “No, no. That night it will be just us.” And Tony nods and says, “Yes, just us with 30 people watching!”

Come again?

Let’s fill in some holes, so to speak.

Here’s the deal.

Tina is a swinger. She got into the swinging life with her ex-boyfriend, who, despite being able to share Tina with dozens of sexy women at private parties, still found it necessary to cheat on her compulsively. Tina, who enjoyed the life very much, mainly indulging in threesomes with her boyfriend and another woman, wasn’t going to let a broken heart stop her from having fun. There was a swinger bikini party coming up, but she needed to bring a date in order to attend. A swinger couple who knew Tony as a nice, good-looking, upstanding, and easy-going guy set up the date. But as is the practice in swinger parties, you must be a couple of sorts; you cannot bring a blind date to one of these sexy exclusive affairs. So they went out on an initial date, during which they hit it off to the degree that they spent a passionate night together and then had breakfast together, followed by a day of shopping at a nearby outlet mall.

Tony had been told about Tina’s proclivity to swing and have sex with a third female party. It didn’t shock him in the least bit, as he had enjoyed many similar experiences in college. “All of my experience were those college party experiences where people were drunk and wild things happened. And those were great, but it’s not the same thing as this of course. I’ve always been a very sexual person, and I couldn’t believe my luck that this sexy, wonderful girl was so open and confident like that. I was ready to give it a try,” he explains. So Tony and Tina went off to the bikini party, where his main concern was running into Tina’s ex. Once they realized he was not there, however, Tina taught Tony some swinger lingo and rules.

This bikini party was an “off premises” party where people meet, party, and lightly fool around, but the main action happens at a block of hotel rooms that have been reserved by the people who own and operate these soirées. Tina explained that she only enjoyed what is called a “soft swap,” which is sex engaged with only a third party, a woman, as opposed to a “hard swap” which consists of male couples exchanging women for full-on penetration sex. Tony also learned that these parties were just as much about socializing as they were about having sex.

“People are there to have fun. They just come up to you and say hi. You have some drinks together, you talk, and everyone is really polite. I would probably worry about going to a regular club or party with Tina more than to any of these swinger parties. When I
leave her to go to the bathroom, I know no one is going to use the opportunity to hit on her. You’ll find more respectful people in the swing scene than you’ll ever find anywhere.”

They ended up having a wonderful time, with Tina introducing Tony to all her friends and eventually joining them at the designated hotel floor where Tony and Tina got it on with her ex-boyfriend’s sister. “Okay, okay, that part might sound strange,” says Tina laughing and blushing. “I was glad he wasn’t there, but I was really glad she was. I always found her attractive, but obviously a three-way with her before was out of the question. But now I could, and we did, and it was fantastic.”

The session was mainly about the pleasures of oral sex. The two women went down on Tony together, then the ex’s sister went down on Tina while she alone sucked off Tony to completion. Tony then had sex with Tina while the ex’s sister played with his balls. “It’s a great spooning sex position,” says Tony, “I get off so intensely that way, fucking Tina while another girl plays with me from behind, there’s nothing like it—I came like a rocket that night.”

Tony also saw how much pleasure it gave Tina to have another woman in the mix, although Tina says she has never and would never be with a woman one-on-one. “When another girl is involved, I know Tina will be fully satisfied, and that’s what it’s all about for me,” says Tony. “I love her and I want her getting off to the highest level. I’m happy to do it for her, and besides, what guy in his right mind will say no to that?”

But again, like any other couple involved in such practices, they too have rules that they adhere to. Tony is not allowed to kiss other women or penetrate other women, and Tina is also not allowed to kiss or full-on bang other men who may be watching.

They also have to pick the woman together. It must be a mutual decision, which they admit does come into conflict every so often because, as it turns out, their tastes are different. “Tony likes small brunettes like me, and Asian girls. I know he’s got
his Asian fixation, but I’m not into them. I enjoy being with women who are the total physical opposite of me: blondes with big tits, fake or natural, it doesn’t matter to me.”

Tina, while enjoying kissing, suckling, fondling, and receiving oral from a woman, will not rub clits together. When pressed for why, she just laughs and blushes some more, “I think it’s just gross, I don’t know. Who knows why some things are okay and others are not, but that skeeves me out!” On the other hand, their swing/three-way practices have made Tony one of the most true-blue mates one could have, an absolute dream for women, in fact. He turns down his friends’ invitations to strip clubs unless he can bring Tina and they can enjoy a lap dance together, and he swears his eyes never linger on other girls when Tina isn’t around. “We check out girls together. It’s so much more fun! So when I’m not with her I don’t feel the need. It’s like I walk around with blinders on.”

On more than one occasion, Tina has been chatted up and seduced by a woman who Tony did not at all find to his taste. Case in point was at a swinger Halloween party where a she-devil approached Tina and charmed her into disrobing. “I thought she was gross actually, but Tina was like, ‘Oh she’s so sweet and nice, c’mon, c’mon.’ So although I didn’t really participate like I usually do, I did get off on stepping back and watching her get off. She’s so confident and sexual, it’s very hot to me.”

If Tony and Tina do have arguments as a result of their sexual three-way recreation, it’s usually over Tony bragging about it to friends or showing photos from a party of Tina and another woman getting it on. “You’re allowed to have cameras, but of course you have to ask permission first,” says Tony. “But yeah, I mean I’m a guy and I’m doing this crazy, sexy thing, but it’s only as great as it is if you can tell your buddies about it and make them jealous! I admit it, that’s part of it for me, absolutely. Besides, my girl is gorgeous and sexy and so open-minded, I’m proud of that and I want the world to see that I’m the luckiest motherfucker in the world, okay?”

Tina, who works as a nurse in a Manhattan hospital, half-smiles and shakes her head. “It’s private to me! I don’t mind that he takes the photos; we can both look at them when we’re alone together and it gets us horny, so that’s fine. But I don’t want my business out on the street and he knows it, but he can’t help himself.”

That issue aside, the relationship continues to thrive, and Tony and Tina go to private swing parties at least twice a month. When they both see a woman they like, they either kiss and hug in front of her and see how she reacts or just introduce themselves and talk and mingle, enjoy company on an intellectual level first and then see where it goes from there. Many times Tony says the real action between them doesn’t happen until they get home. “The car ride home is always quiet. We’re both going over what happened in our heads, and then the minute we get home we just tear each other’s clothes off and fuck our brains out for hours. It’s very intense.”

Tina also says it’s long after the parties when she enjoys the experience the most. She says sometimes when she’s with a patient, an image will pop into her head and it will be hard for her to get the image out. All she can do is be patient, do her job, call Tony, and race back to his place as soon as possible so they can have more wild one-on-one sex fueled by their threesome memories.

“I was born with no shame, and it’s great to finally meet a girl who not only understands that but likes it,” says Tony with a big smile. “She’s the sexiest woman I’ve ever met. She’s so open about it and it gets me so hot. In fact, I’ll bet you anything she’s probably sopping wet right now just talking about it.” Tina shyly leans into his neck, looking very pretty, and feels close to him because what he is saying about her is completely true. “He’s very into me and he opens himself up to me,” she says. “He’s not afraid to love.”