Toygasms! (7 page)

If you’re more comfortable without penetration, there’s a wealth of vibrators today for you to use topically. Choose the one that will accommodate any new sensitivities you’re feeling during pregnancy. If your desire for sex has declined during this time, a vibrator may be just the ticket for you and your lover.

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f you’ve never tried sexual lubricants (“lube”), or haven’t used the slippery stuff in a while, you’re in for a treat. Lubricants help you enhance your sexual ecstasy without any risk—and they cost next to nothing.

Whether you’re self-pleasuring, using a toy, or engaging in passionate intercourse, lubrication increases your sensitivity by creating smoother, slipperier surfaces wherever you choose to apply it. Slathered on sex toys, they become safer and easier to use. On your lover, you’ll discover a new level of ecstasy. And on your own erogenous zones, you’ll find yourself on the ceiling!

Sex lubricants come in two main varieties: water- or silicone-based. Here are the advantages of each:

Similar to the feel of natural vaginal fluids, you can find water-based lubes in a variety of consistencies, from liquid to jelly. Liquid varieties are ideal for all-around play, while jellies tend to have more lasting power for extended encounters. However, they may not last long enough for anal pleasure. Water-based lubes are ideal to use with condoms. There are also flavored varieties for use during oral sex. Water-based lubes rarely irritate, and wash easily out of sheets, bedspreads and auto upholstery! Toy clean-up is easy, too. And as for you, it’s an easy wash-off with a wet wash cloth.

A super-slippery lube, silicone lasts and lasts for longer friction-free fun. This makes it ideal for in-the-water sex or anal play. It’s also compatible with safer-sex practices, such as condoms or latex gloves. Because it doesn’t break down in water, though, your shower or tub surfaces could become slippery. Be sure to use cautiously and clean up thoroughly.

Warning!
Never use household products as lubricant! Petroleum jelly, massage oil, hand lotion and cooking oil are awful choices for lube, because they aren’t made to go inside your body, can cause infections and will also break down latex condoms.

Sadie Sez:

You can never use too much lube. The slipperier, the merrier!

Here are a few tips to help you get the most out of your friction-free fun.

Variety.
Lubes vary widely in viscosity, texture and taste from brand to brand. Lucky for you, many manufacturers offer trial sizes and freebies so you can find the lube that works best for you.

Sadie Sez:

A little saliva or a few drops of water can quickly reactivate previously applied lubrication during playtime!

Anal pleasure.
Lubrication is absolutely necessary during anal play. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication. So lube it up and slide it in!

Individual sensitivities.
Certain lubes contain ingredients that may not agree with you. Glycerin can promote the growth of yeast cultures in women who are prone to infections. Nonoxynol-9 (N-9), can be highly irritating to some women (and its HIV-fighting abilities are now in dispute). Flavoring agents, while fun, can sometimes cause irritation.

Natural massage oils.
Some swear by natural food-grade oils found in health food stores. Just be sure to avoid oils that have sugar—they can cause yeast infections.

Toy don’ts.
Silicone lube can damage silicone toys. Use water-based lube, or simply apply a condom to your toy.

D
ildos: non-vibrating toys, made in many different shapes and sizes, used for vaginal and anal penetration as well as clitoral stroking.

How long have dildos been around? 100 years? 200 years? A millennium? Think again, because they’ve been in use as long as women have had a sex drive. You’ll see dildos depicted in ancient art, and history shows they were created and adored by women in many cultures, from Greece to China, India and beyond.

A dildo (or dong) describes any toy designed to be inserted vaginally or anally. Dildos don’t vibrate, so if it takes a battery, it’s not a dildo (although some vibrators look phallic and are designed for insertion). Today, they come in a variety of lengths, shapes, diameters and colors—a far cry from the one large Caucasian replica that dominated dildo sales for years. Heck, you can even get a dildo today that glows in the dark!

For solo ecstasy, dildos are fun, simple and safe—offering you the greatest amount of control, for you and only you determine the degree and angle of penetration, thrusting speed and all other creative uses. And with the added pressure and sexual fullness they provide, they’re the best for earth-shaking vaginal orgasms. As you’ll see later in this book, you can also use one in tandem with a vibrator, creating nearly unlimited possibilities for orgasms.

Dildos open up many exciting options for partner sex, too. And since penetration isn’t a dildo’s only purpose, you can enjoy intense pleasure when your lover positions it for friction across your clitoris, down between the labia and just inside the vaginal opening. With an added dab of lube, you’ll quickly be in
toygasm
heaven!