Read Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences Online
Authors: Laura Carpenter
with vaginal sex,
44–45,
68, 83,
162; generational differences,
45–46,
52–53,
55; and hymen, 47,
233n.
8; influence of personal bi- ography,
44,
49,
50–55,
245n. 53;
male experience privileged,
6; moral/spiritual criteria,
19–20, 24,
30,
47,
54; and oral sex,
4, 44–45,
50,
54–55; and orgasm,
6; and
revised over lifetime,
54–55; with same-sex partners,
4–7,
20, 35,
and sexual identity,
44–48,
50,
54; social/psychological criteria,
51–53, 55
Denzin, Norman,
209,
220n.
35 Desire, physical: awareness of, 77–79;
distinguished from love,
184; and gender,
19,
119; after rape,
135; as motive/precondition for virginity loss,
19,
76–77,
126; unimpor-
Disappointment with virginity loss: ability to overcome,
169–170,
173–174,
196–197; entire en-
counter,
90,
134–135; physical as-
149,
158,
186; among women,
53.
See also
Satisfaction, with virginity losss experiences
Dishonesty, as stigma,
107.
See also
Concealment
Diversity: of American sexual culture,
1–2,
10–11,
16–17,
37–38, 40,
58–59,
204; of approaches to vir-
ginity, exposure to,
98,
105, 139,
within family,
116,
131; among
Divorce, and sexual attitudes,
3, 62,
Double standard: gift and stigma metaphors,
60–61,
103; evolution,
Latinos,
170; process metaphor as alternative,
141,
176; women bene- fiting from,
129.
See also
Gender; Single sexual standard
Dungeons and Dragons,
132 Dworkin, Andrea, 42
Economic opportunities: and women’s sexuality,
22,
26–27; and transition
to marriage/adulthood,
35, 38–39.
See also
Social class
Education: expansion of, and dating,
33,
39; and exposure to process
metaphor,
31–32,
141,
175; and timing of sex/pregnancy,
40; and women’s independence,
29,
31.
See also
Social class
Eisenhower, Dwight,
231n.
154 Ejaculation, rapid,
66,
121,
134, 169.
See also
Orgasm Elders, Jocelyn, 200
Emotional intimacy: created by virgin- ity loss,
62,
66,
81; facilitating
safer sex,
67,
158; and physical pleasure,
129; motivating virginity loss,
65,
77,
172; not created by
virginity loss,
86,
93.
See
Affection; Commitment; Love
Emotional pleasure, from virginity loss,
66–67,
72,
89,
97–98, 149,
Empowerment.
See
Agency; Power England, sexual culture,
20–22 Enlightenment, sexual culture during,
Equality, between virgin and partner,
165,
168,
171,
175,
195.
See also
Power
Erik Dorn
(novel),
34 Ethnicity.
See
Race/ethnicity Europe, compared with U.S.,
“Exceptional” cases, usefulness,
8 Exchange.
See
Gift giving; Gifts Expectations for virginity loss: awk-
high/low,
72,
109,
137 Experimentation, sexual, desirability
Experimentation (
Continued
)
See also
Multiple partners; Sexual activity
Extended self, virginity as, 62
Fast Times at Ridgemont High
Fauset, Jessie,
228–229n.
121 Federal Marriage Amendment,
43
Felicity
(series), 201
Feminine Mystique, The
(book), 38
Feminism, feminist movement: and approaches to virginity loss,
3, 5,
138,
177,
207; conflict within,
42; research methods,
210–211; under- standings of rape,
52–53, 55
First times, significance of,
128
,
151 Fitzgerald, F. Scott, 29
Foreplay: changing patterns,
28; de- fined by heterosexuals,
48–49; to maintain virginity,
20–21, 223n.
34.
See also
Petting; Sexual activ- ity;
and specific activities
Forever
(novel),
125,
139,
166, 207,
Foucault, Michel,
218n.
15,
225n. 52,
Frames, metaphors as,
220n.
39 Free speech.
See
Censorship Freud, Sigmund, 31–32
Friends: advice among,
64,
67, 169;
face-saving among,
107,
132–133; honesty with,
111–112; influence on virginity loss,
61,
76,
78, 82,
to virginity loss,
79,
87; similarity
among,
80,
99,
125; telling about
virginity loss,
104,
107,
114, 135,
150; virginity loss with,
78, 89,
also
Peers
Gay rights movement: and approaches to virginity loss,
161,
177; and def- initions of virginity loss,
46, 55;
history of,
3,
35,
41–43 Gays/Lesbians/Bisexuals: assumptions
about,
6–7; crimes against,
43; di- versity among,
47–48; friends as partners,
156–157; generational
differences,
41,
207; heterosexual
155–157,
163; initiation patterns,
37,
41; irrelevance of virginity to,
45–46,
204,
220n.
36; sexual pref-
erences,
48,
157; visibility,
5, 35,
37,
41,
207.
See also
Coming out; Homosexuality; Same-sex partners; Sexual identity
Gender: and age at virginity loss,
43,
51,
58; analytic approach,
11–12; assumptions about,
6–7; and be- liefs about regaining virginity,
53–54; and concealing virginity,
100,
129–130; constructed through virginity loss,
99–100,
130,
138–139,
144,
176,
246n. 5;
39–40,
103,
137–138; differences within race,
109–111; generational differences,
130,
137–138; and gift
nontraditional approaches to vir- ginity loss,
12–13,
16–17,
38, 43,
174; omnirelevance,
247n.
13; and pain at virginity loss,
169; physical desire,
19,
77–78,
119; and power,
61; and premarital virginity loss,
26–27,
29,
34,
37,
43; and process
metaphor,
141,
144,
170,
176; and religious approaches to virginity,
189; in sex education, 178–179,
181,
201; and sexual identity, 161,
207; similarities,
73,
124, 129,
137; and stigma,
103,
116,
127,
137–138; traditional approaches to virginity loss,
16–17,
68,
84,
90,
96; visibility of sexual inexperience by,
129–130.
See also
Double stan- dard; Masculinity; Men; Women
Generalizability.
See
Research meth- ods
Generation: and beliefs about premar- ital virginity,
75,
83; confounded with aging,
219n.
25; and defini- tions of virginity loss,
45–46,
52–55; differentiating by,
39,
33; and gendered approaches to virgin- ity,
1–2,
61,
99–100, 130,
sampling by,
8–9; and sexual iden- tity,
43,
161,
248n.
28.
See also
Aging, confounded with generation
Geographical variation: in lesbigay community availability,
157; in sex education,
219n.
31,
240n.
78,
250n.
18; in sexual culture/prac- tices,
8,
10,
33,
75–76,
80, 233n.
7; transcended through technology, 201
Gift giving: as obligatory,
59,
85, 88;
occasions,
59; risks,
59–60, 238n.
57; social bonds fostered by, 60,
80,
95; as voluntary,
59,
88, 95.
See also
Reciprocation
Gift metaphor: as alternative to stigma metaphor,
178; and born- again virginity,
90–91; distin- guished from act-of-worship metaphor,
182–183,
189, 251n.
29; gender differences,
68,
88, 91,
96–97; and mental health,
195; and power at virginity loss,
195–196; and premarital virginity,
61–61,
75,
83,
181; and safer sex,
66–67; in sex education,
70, 181,
191; and sexual identity,
68, 100,
Gifts: assessing value,
58,
235n.
7; continence as God’s,
222n.
15; identical frowned on,
63; over/un- derpayment,
235n.
17; reflecting recipient’s worth,
58,
85–86, 243n.
32; sacrificial,
235n.
7; women’s
virginity as,
31,
36,
110,
142 Girlfriend/Boyfriend: desire virginity-
loss partner to become,
107,
128; ideal but unnecessary for virginity loss,
113,
126,
163; virginity loss
185.
See also
Partners
Glaeser, Andreas,
221n.
45,
247n. 23
Glaser, Barney,
220n.
37,
245n.
2 GLBT.
See
Gays/Lesbians/Bisexuals;
Homosexuality; Same-sex partners