Authors: Emily Nagoski
Dams,
219
De Botton, Alain,
209
Depression,
60
,
165
,
270
Desire,
4
,
223
–61.
See also
Responsive desire; Spontaneous desire
as arousal in context,
226
–29
arousal nonconcordance and,
221
–22
the chasing dynamic and,
89
,
226
,
238
,
245
,
251
–55,
318
cues for,
72
–73,
107
–8
cultural context and,
243
–44
as curiosity,
226
,
237
–38,
241
,
296
hormones and,
16
,
226
,
238
–39,
360
n
20
as an incentive motivation system,
230
–31,
232
key to managing,
237
the little monitor and,
234
–38,
240
,
257
maximizing, with science,
245
–55
missing from four-phase model,
45
monogamy and,
226
,
238
,
239
–42
research results on,
358
–59
n
2
testosterone-dependent,
16
,
360
n
20
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual,
45
Dickens, Charles,
145
–46
Disgust,
156
,
170
–77,
188
,
355
n
17
Dopamine,
135
Dual control model,
4
,
42
–69.
See also
Sexual accelerator; Sexual brake; Sexual excitation system; Sexual inhibition system
arousability and,
51
–53
changing the systems in,
66
–69
context and,
65
,
67
–68,
78
–79,
92
development of,
48
gender differences in,
47
,
60
–61,
64
–66
learned responses and,
61
–63
mechanism of action,
48
sexual difficulties and,
66
Eagerness,
84
–91,
94
,
351
n
19
arousal nonconcordance and,
205
,
211
body self-criticism and,
164
characteristics of,
86
context and,
87
–88
desire and,
240
–41,
252
love/attachment and,
86
,
132
,
133
,
135
,
137
stress and,
118
Eating disorders,
119
–20,
183
,
354
n
13
Effort, changing the kind of,
322
–23
Ejaculation
female,
30
–31
male,
30
Emotion I,
199
–200
Emotion II,
200
Emotion III,
200
Emotion coaching,
310
–12
Emotion dismissing,
310
–12,
318
–20
Emotional context,
111
–52.
See also
Love/attachment; Meta-emotions; Stress
Emotional One Ring,
76
,
84
–89,
177
,
234
,
282
,
300
,
351
n
18.
See also Eagerness; Enjoying; Expecting
arousal nonconcordance and,
196
arousing,
245
–47
disgust and,
172
love/attachment and,
112
,
113
,
145
stress and,
112
,
113
,
115
,
145
systems of,
84
–85
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy,
142
Enjoying,
84
–91,
94
,
351
n
19
arousal nonconcordance and,
196
,
205
,
206
–11,
218
,
222
characteristics of,
85
context and,
87
–88
desire and,
240
–41
love/attachment and,
132
,
133
,
137
stress and,
118
Enya,
292
Erectile dysfunction medication,
46
,
66
,
196
–97,
239
,
357
–58
n
29
development of new,
213
–15
placebo effect of,
47
,
197
Erection (male),
30
,
203
Escher girls,
33
,
162
Excitement (sexual response phase),
44
,
45
Exercise/physical activity,
122
,
124
,
290
Expecting,
84
–91,
94
,
351
n
19
arousal nonconcordance and,
196
,
204
,
205
,
207
,
211
,
218
,
222
characteristics of,
85
–86
context and,
87
–88
desire and,
252
love/attachment and,
132
Explicit/erotic cues,
72
Explicit learning,
85
–86
Feels,
119
,
128
,
179
,
253
–54,
319
,
328
cultural impact on,
121
defined,
116
stress and,
116
,
121
,
123
,
145
,
146
Fertility,
117
Fifty Shades of Grey
(James),
58
,
196
,
207
–8
Fight/flight/freeze stress responses,
111
,
114
–17.
See also
Stress response cycle
Fiji,
183
Flatliners,
52
,
89
Flock metaphor,
282
–85,
287
,
313
Flowers from the Storm
(Kinsale),
136
Fluids, bodily,
30
–32.
See also
Lubrication
Focus group research,
73
–74
Fordyce, James,
159
Foreskin (prepuce),
22
,
23
Fourchette,
23
Four-phase model of sexual response,
44
–45