Authors: Emily Nagoski
Romney, Mitt,
210
Rumi,
148
Sacks, Oliver,
295
,
299
Safe haven,
133
,
135
Same parts/different organization,
5
,
40
,
154
,
325
arousal nonconcordance and,
197
–99
dual control model and,
64
–66
female-male,
16
,
18
,
19
importance of concept,
34
–37
intersex,
32
orgasm and,
271
–72
Sanctity/degradation moral foundation,
171
,
288
Sanders, Stephanie,
73
Science,
8
,
40
,
66
on cognitive dissonance,
182
desire maximization with,
245
–55
of falling in love,
132
–34
on media literacy,
183
–84
on self-compassion,
177
–80
Science of Trust, The
(Gottman),
75
,
240
,
241
Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships
(Nagoski),
142
–43
Scrotal raphe,
19
,
20
Scrotum,
17
,
19
,
20
Sealed-off sex,
137
Secure attachment style,
139
–41
Secure base,
133
–34
Seeger, Pete,
292
Segal, Zindel,
130
Self-assertion,
253
Self-compassion,
156
,
177
–80,
317
exercise to increase,
180
key elements of,
178
Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind
(Neff),
178
Self Compassion Scale (SCS),
178
Self-criticism.
See
Body self-criticism
Self-esteem,
179
Self-indulgence,
179
Self-judgment,
178
.
See also
Nonjudging
Self-kindness,
123
,
165
,
178
,
290
–91,
317
Self-paced termination,
116
Self-protection,
253
Seminal colliculus,
28
Seminal ducts,
28
Seminal fluid,
30
Sensation in context,
77
–83,
94
Sensorimotor therapy,
129
,
310
Separation distress,
136
,
139
,
283
Sermons to Young Women
(Fordyce),
159
SES.
See
Sexual excitation system
Sex
as “dirty,”
170
–72
forgoing to increase desire,
153
–54,
252
stress and,
117
–20
that advances the plot,
136
–37,
150
,
242
,
247
the true story of,
2
–5
Sex and the City
(television program),
46
Sex drive myth,
6
,
229
–36,
257
consequences of believing,
231
–33
feelings apparently validating,
233
–36
true drives compared with,
229
–31
Sex flush,
44
Sexual accelerator,
4
,
46
–47,
48
–51,
247
,
283
.
See also
Dual control model; Sexual excitation system
in arousal process,
51
–53
cultural context and,
244
expecting
and,
86
gender differences in,
60
–61,
294
mechanism of action,
48
stress and,
118
,
147
Sexual assault/rape,
125
,
126
–27,
147
–48.
See also
Trauma
Akin’s remarks on,
210
,
357
n
20
arousal nonconcordance and,
204
–5
estimated incidence of,
124
intact hymen following,
29
male sexual entitlement and,
232
orgasm during,
270
Project Unbreakable on,
209
Sexual Attitude Reassessment,
176
Sexual brake,
4
,
46
–47,
48
–51,
247
,
283
.
See also
Dual control model; Sexual inhibition system
arousal nonconcordance and,
212
–13
in arousal process,
51
–53
body self-criticism and,
165
context and,
79
cultural context and,
243
,
244
disgust and,
172
,
175
focus group findings on,
73
–74
gender differences in,
60
–61,
294
mechanism of action,
48
medicating away,
213
–15
orgasm difficulty and,
280
,
291
as predictor of sexual problems,
53
stress and,
118
,
147
Sexual excitation system (SES),
63
,
154
.
See also
Dual control model; Sexual accelerator
changing,
66
–69
explained,
48
–49
gender differences in,
60
–61
as a trait,
51
–52,
67
Sexual Healing Journey, The: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
(Maltz),
128
Sexual inhibition system (SIS),
63
,
154
,
280
.
See also
Dual control model; Sexual brake
changing,
66
–69
explained,
49
gender differences in,
60
–61
genetic factors in,
349
n
9
as a trait,
51
–52,
67
two components of,
49
,
349
n
9
Sexual maps,
297
,
300
–308
Sexual orientation,
349
–50
n
13
Sexual scripts,
300
,
303
Sexual Temperament Questionnaire,
54
–58
Sexually appealing stimuli,
21
,
195
–96,
198
–99,
207
,
208
,
222
Sexually relevant stimuli,
47
,
67
,
78
–79
arousal nonconcordance and,
195
–96,
198
–99,
205
,
207
,
208
,
211
,
222