Authors: Emily Nagoski
emotional One Ring and,
87
factors influencing,
61
–63
gender differences in perception of,
64
–66
Shaft of penis,
19
,
21
,
22
,
26
Shame,
17
,
31
,
205
Shower analogy,
71
–72,
92
,
93
Sideways approach to coping with trauma,
128
,
129
–31
Silicone lubricants,
220
Silver, Nan,
320
SIS.
See
Sexual inhibition system
Skene’s glands,
30
–31
Skin conductance,
194
,
199
,
200
Slate.com
,
206
Sleep,
122
,
203
“Sleepy hedgehog” model of emotion management,
143
–44,
237
,
290
,
291
,
319
Slings & Arrows
(television program),
245
–46
Socks and orgasm,
282
,
290
Solace sex,
135
,
137
,
141
Somatic Experiencing (SE),
129
Spectatoring,
265
,
268
Spontaneous desire,
3
,
227
,
229
,
231
,
296
,
297
,
307
changing one’s attitude toward,
322
,
324
the chasing dynamic and,
245
cultural context and,
243
gender differences in,
225
the little monitor and,
236
percentage of women experiencing,
225
,
257
Stage approach to sex therapy,
253
Steinem, Gloria,
250
Stepmom
(film),
194
Stopes, Marie,
160
“Story of Us” (relationship narrative),
201
Strain gauge,
193
Stress,
6
,
89
–90,
94
,
111
–31,
137
–38,
180
–81,
283
body self-criticism and,
165
desire and,
237
disgust distinguished from,
172
dual control system and,
52
,
60
eagerness and,
86
love/attachment and,
144
–49
separating stressors from,
114
,
123
sex and,
117
–20
worksheet on coping strategies,
151
–52
Stressors,
114
,
120
–21,
123
Stress response cycle,
113
,
250
completing,
112
,
121
–24,
145
–46,
147
,
149
,
179
,
290
,
329
culture impact on,
120
–21,
146
described,
114
–17
Subtractive integration,
283
,
284
Sympathetic nervous system,
48
Symposium
(Plato),
131
Tai chi,
122
Teasdale, John,
130
“Tend and befriend” dynamic,
133
,
144
–46
Testes (testicles),
17
,
20
,
22
Testosterone,
15
,
214
Testosterone-dependent desire,
16
,
360
n
20
Therapeutic masturbation,
339
–41
Therapy,
127
,
128
,
251
–52
Thermostat metaphor,
229
–30
This American Life
(radio program),
135
Threats, potential,
47
,
49
,
52
,
61
–63,
69
,
75
,
79
Tickling,
77
–78,
79
,
270
,
302
tl;dr lists,
7
anatomy,
40
–41
arousal nonconcordance,
222
context,
94
cultural context,
187
desire,
257
dual control model,
69
emotional context,
149
–50
meta-emotions,
330
orgasm,
292
Top-down approach to coping with trauma,
128
Trans* sexual functioning,
8
Trauma,
124
–31,
150
.
See also
Sexual assault/rape
arousal nonconcordance and,
214
,
215
bottom-up approach to coping with,
128
–29
experience and consequences of,
124
–26
healing with nonjudging,
316
–17
sideways approach to coping with,
128
,
129
–31
survivorship and,
127
–31
top-down approach to coping with,
128
Tremblay, Tom,
125
Triphasic model of sexual response,
45
–46,
230
Trust in one’s body,
83
,
111
–12,
129
arousal nonconcordance and,
201
–2,
207
learning,
172
–74
Tuiten, Adriaan,
213
Tunnel metaphor,
123
,
143
,
308
,
310
,
311
,
312
,
319
Turning off the offs,
48
–51,
285
,
287
,
289
,
290
–92,
323
with science,
247
–51
worksheet,
258
–61
Turning on the ons,
48
–51,
285
,
287
,
289
,
323
University of Connecticut,
199
Urethra,
16
,
21
,
22
,
28
,
30
,
274
Urethral groove,
19
Urethral opening,
22
,
27
Urethral orifice,
19
Urethral sponge,
274
Urination,
30
Urogenital sinus,
19
Vagal brake,
352
n
6
Vagina
defined,
29
orgasm through penetration of,
2
–3,
16
,
272
,
274
–76,
292
,
322