Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women (10 page)

Waxing is a daring way to experience sex on that line between pleasure and pain. It consists of pouring hot wax,

with utmost care, on your bodies. One of the two is the “master.” The “slave” is tied up. The master alternates a couple of minutes of pouring wax with a couple of minutes of masturbation or oral sex: a combination of pain and pleasure.

In any event, with wax you must keep several things in mind. It is best to use paraffin wax, since it melts at a lower temperature than other waxes. The most manageable candles are two and a quarter inches in diameter (6 cm) and four and three quarter inches (12 cm) in length. Make a small notch at the edge of the candle so you can control pouring the wax on your lover’s skin. With this, the best thing to do would be to pour the wax on open areas of skin or hair.

To do it seductively, hold the candle over a small stretch of skin and tilt it a little at a time. Remember that the closer you hold the candle to the skin, the more heat will be delivered. Keep a bowl of cold water nearby so you can throw some on in a hurry if the wax is too hot. And finally, to remove the wax, the best way is to rub over it with an ice cube and take it off with a plastic scrapper.

ERRORS TO AVOID

There is a technique for everything. It’s not just a simple matter of giving him fellatio and then he melts in pleasure. There are certain things which, if done, can bring down his desire during fellatio.

Biting prohibited. All of a man’s genitals, especially the glans and frenum, are sensitive. Make sure that when you give him fellatio you have your teeth covered over with your lips at all times.

Enjoy it yourself. 50 percent of the success of good fellatio depends on the involvement and enjoyment of the one giving it. There are women who practice oral sex automatically, as if someone else were doing it. Resolve to show him, in every moment, how much you enjoy giving him pleasure. Don’t skimp on murmurs, sighs, or little grunts. Practice humming, which is nothing but the sound generated in your throat with the intent to provoke a pleasant, tingling sensation in the genital area of the person receiving oral sex.

Don’t be too rough. Avoid pulling the foreskin too hard, or gripping the penis too tightly, as if trying to uproot it. Remember, saliva is the best aid to good fellatio. Besides being a lot more exciting, it will help you make more smooth and fluid movements.

Semen is not poisonous. It’s up to you whether to swallow or not; just don’t wretch when the first drop of semen shows up, and don’t run off to the bathroom to gargle if some gets in your mouth.

The most important thing of all is to “listen” to your partner’s body, to be aware of what he likes or if he wants you to go faster or slower, or if he wants you to change the rhythm.

GET COMFORTABLE

There’s a certain tempo required for good fellatio, as well as a comfortable position for both partners which allows easy access to the man’s genitals. In addition, when the penis is erect, it works best that whoever is giving fellatio has their face perpendicular to the man’s penis. Men are very

susceptible to visual stimuli; therefore, a position which allows him to see you unhindered is advisable.

The usual position is for the man to lie back, face up, with his head slightly raised so he doesn’t miss any of the “show.” This way, the one giving fellatio has access to all parts of his penis and testicles. It is a position which allows the best angle for the penis to easily enter the mouth and is very comfortable for the man.

Another way is to have the man on his knees or standing. This can be uncomfortable for the one giving fellatio, but it leaves the giver completely free to use her hands to massage her partner. This is a really great way to do “the butterfly stroke.” This is a fellatio technique that is very stimulating and consists of lightly running the tongue along the length of the frenum or underneath the penis. The man can stroke his partner’s hair while this is going on, but he must be careful not to push or move her head, since this can cause her to gag.

A very interesting position is the one where the person giving fellatio stretches comfortably on the bed, facing up, with the head slightly elevated (you can put a cushion underneath). The man strides up to her on his knees so that his penis is at the same level as her mouth. She then has total access to the penis and testicles and can also stimulate the anus, perineum, as well as his crotch, using her hands. She can also indulge in some “self-stimulation” to boot. The man will be able to caress his partner’s body, this being a position which is very comfortable for both.

Oral Kama Sutra

Don’t be a boring lover. The golden rule of sex is to bring some imagination and fantasy to your sexual encounters. There is nothing more exciting than to surprise (or be surprised) with new positions, different places, new adventures . . . in short, to find that “kinky little something extra” that sets our desire on fire.

So, open up all your senses and get yourself ready to dive into the ancient text of the Kama Sutra. One can translate this title from the Sanskrit as “The Way of Love.” “Kama” means physical passion/desire (it is also the name of the minor Hindu god in charge of these matters) and “sutra” means “aphorism,” or the expression of an idea in the fewest words possible. This manual, compiled in the fourth century A.D. by the erudite Hindu Vatsyayana, encourages uninhibited exploration of sexual positions and techniques. The author presents sex as a human need, which we should not repress, but rather cultivate and enjoy. According to this book, the union of two people is both physically and spiritually significant. Eros is both necessary and advisable, but happiness, not orgasm, is the ultimate aim.

It wasn’t until 1883 that the Kama Sutra arrived in Europe by way of an English edition produced by Richard Burton and F.

F. Arbuthnot. In Victorian England, it was decided to publish only a few copies due to the fear the book would cause controversy in such an ultra-conservative society. The public at large did not enjoy the Kama Sutra until the ’60s, eighty years later.

Below we will share the secrets of this classic Hindu text, but in an updated form which is designed to surprise your lover with exciting positions for oral sex.

The Kama Sutra gives a special place to kissing and licking particular areas of the body, an essential part of sexual play. The basic idea is to delay, for as long as possible, contact with the genitals and use foreplay to maximize excitation for the most intense orgasm possible. To do this, the lover must pay attention to other parts of the body such as the inner part of the thighs, the back of the knees, the breasts and nipples, the nape of the neck, ears, and abdomen, all of which prove to be highly erotogenic areas.

To kiss and lick areas around the genitals, then suddenly move to other parts of the body, can serve as a very exciting strategy. It is also important to realize that each of these areas requires a different approach and, at times, the tongue’s special attention. Since everyone reacts differently to stimulation, it’s important to pay attention to the reactions of your partner—their movements and words which indicate, at any given moment, what they like or dislike.

The Kama Sutra, naturally, gives great importance to rubbing and caresses. To rub your partner’s skin or each other’s genitals can be very pleasurable. Sometimes, just to notice the feel of your partner’s erect nipples on your skin or, even better, to slide your own (covered with massage oil) over the pubic area of your partner is a sure-fire way to heat up the room. Pressure, also, is a very sensual tool. To press your bodies together, or press your partner against the wall with your hips joined can give rise to very erotic and satisfying

sensations (especially in public places or situations where sex becomes something quickly furtive).

POSITIONS FOR CUNNILINGUS

Classic. This is when the man lies between the woman’s legs, face down, or beside her, with his head level with her pelvis. In this position it is recommended that the woman have a pillow under her butt. This will make stimulating her clitoris easier and he can also avoid cramping his neck. This is the most comfortable position for cunnilingus and, to make it a bit more kinky, she can rest her head on a large pillow so she can “contemplate” the progress of her lover. To enjoy it better, she should keep her legs somewhat close, rather than fully open. This way, she’ll be able to have more control over any movements of her pelvic muscles.

The key to any position of oral sex is comfort, especially when it comes to cunnilingus. Oral stimulation, for her, takes some time, and that’s why it’s important for both to adopt a relaxed posture which permits maximum freedom of movement. Some women will squeeze their legs together when they reach the critical point of excitation. If, in this moment, the man puts too much pressure on her, he can stifle and interrupt her climax. To avoid this, she should keep her knees bent and he should put his arms under the arch formed by her legs.

Another variation of this position is when the man lies on his back with the woman sitting on top of him, her knees on the sides of his shoulders, so that her genitals are right up against his face. This helps the man to get at her clitoris, as well as masturbate or stimulate her vulva with his fingers.

Standing. Subdue your guy; there is nothing more exciting to a couple. Undress, stand in front of him with your back against the wall, and make him kneel before you. Move your genitals close to his face, open your legs, and grab him (gently) by the hair and have him sink his mouth into you. If you have not tied his hands (an attractive alternative), you can have him massage your butt and the inner part of your thighs. Or, you can have him stimulate your clitoris with his fingers as his tongue works feverishly below, up and down, and make sure he changes the rhythm to your liking. In this position you have all the power and he must obey you!

SITTING . . .

On his face, facing him. This position is a treat for both partners. On one hand, he is comfortably on his back with his mouth up and passive to you. On the other, you can control everything: speed, rhythm, and depth of stimulation. Sitting on him with your knees astride his shoulders, he can easily reach your “G” spot with his fingers, while you move at your own rhythm. He can also help by holding your waist to support your movements.

Your lover can also squeeze your butt or moisten his fingers with saliva and massage your nipples. The sight of your genital region in this position will be an added treat to your guy. This is possibly the most favorite position for men. Even so, it can be a bit tiring for the girl since she is taking all the initiative. For this approach, it is best for her to sit close to the headrest and use it to support her movements.

On his face, facing away from him. This position allows him easy access to your clitoris and anus. The man can reach your

butt cheeks and massage them, as well as stimulate your anus with his fingers.

On the edge of the bed. In this position she sits on the edge of the bed with one leg bent while she offers her genitals to her lover. He is positioned on his knees in front of her.

Doggie-style. In this posture she has her forearms and knees on the bed and lifts her pelvis, offering her rump to her lover. He gets on his knees, behind her, and is able to stimulate her clitoris and anus at will.

This position gives the man total freedom of movement; he can stimulate this zone with his tongue, kiss her rump, massage her vulva . . . while she moves rhythmically in search of the best angle for pleasure. Doggy-style can be a bit tiring for the man, since he must maintain a bent-over posture for some while. To avoid cramps, he can lie down, from time to time, with his mouth up and continue stimulating her with his back supported by the mattress.

Legs on his shoulders. In this position, the woman lies on her back with her legs open and puts them over the man’s shoulders, with her heels on his back. This provides very direct contact and allows the man to grab his partner’s butt and push whenever he wants.

There are many variations of this basic position, but all have the man placed between her legs. And as with all instances when the man is between the woman’s legs, he is able to provide great stimulation to the clitoris, or vagina, or the “G” spot with his fingers.

Remind your man at all times that your clitoris is very sensitive to direct stimulation and that he should go slowly, first caressing the hood which encircles it, kissing the inside of its folds, and always watching your reactions. If it is stimulated with too much pressure this can irritate or over-stimulate it, causing tension in the pelvic musculature and overloading the nerve endings, without giving any pleasure. And so it’s important to pay close attention to the movements, utterances, or instructions of our partner so that we become aware of what gives her the most pleasure.

Thoroughly. She lies back with her legs open and lets her shoulders rest against his knees (she is facing him, sitting on his lap). The man places his hands under her rump and lifts her gently, drawing her crotch to his mouth.

This way he can deeply stimulate her clitoris, as well as her anus and perineum. She can drape her legs over her partner’s shoulders and, inclined slightly forward, control the rhythm and depth of his cunnilingus.

All for me. This posture is one of the most exciting for a woman, in that she has total control over the movements and pressure and the man is totally at her command.

Here the woman sets herself upright on her knees on the mattress, legs apart. Her lover lies on his back with his mouth just underneath her vulva. This way, she can use a support (for example, the headrest of the bed) and control the movements of her pelvis so she gets maximum excitement. The man can grasp her waist and help her with the motion.

In this configuration, he can begin caressing the inner part of her thighs, and later continue by stimulating the perineum and anus, avoiding her vulva for the moment. This massage can be done with fingers, lips, or tip of the tongue. There is no need to hurry. He can use his hot breath all over her nether parts to make her melt.

This position is ideal for stimulating the anal sphincter and giving her a “black kiss” (more details later). With a finger in his lover’s anus, the man can begin gently licking his partner’s crotch and slowly approach the big lips of her vulva. He then opens his mouth and deeply kisses her Mount of Venus, with his tongue making its way to her clitoris.

In a chair. The truly exciting thing about oral sex is that you can practice it anywhere and make it as kinky as you want. Here is a way to enjoy it in the office, at home, on a solitary park bench, or in a hammock on the beach at dusk. With infinite possibilities, it is just a question of using a bit of imagination.

The woman should sit on the edge of a chair, easy chair, or hammock, etc., with legs open, offering herself to her lover. He should be on his knees between her legs and have one of her legs over his shoulder. This way, he has much deeper access with his mouth. He also has an exciting view of his partner’s genitals and his hands are completely free to place them wherever he pleases.

Seated this way, he can start licking, kissing, and nibbling the inner part of her thighs. As he gets closer to her vulva, she will feel the heat of his approaching breath. He can also masturbate himself in this position with one of his free hands,

further turning up the heat. Finally, the man brings his lips to her vulva and begins to kiss her voluptuously, brushing her clitoris, vibrating his tongue inside her, licking around her inner and outer lips. She can take her lover’s head and move it to apply more pressure or change the rhythm, bringing more excitement as she reaches climax.

Legs up. In this position, the woman lies back on the mattress and holds her thighs, drawing her legs to her chest and offering her lover her entire genital area. He lies, face down, and sinks his mouth into her sex. His hands are free and he can grab her butt cheeks, rub her from top to bottom, and explore every nook and cranny of her body. This is also an ideal position to stimulate her anus and perineum.

She can grab her lover’s head, stroke his hair, and draw him to her sexual part, as well as determine what pressure or rhythm excites her the most.

ADVICE FOR GUYS

The majority of men enjoy fellatio best of all. As soon as their lover brings her lips close to their genitals, they melt with pleasure. But when it comes time to return the favor, they often bail out.

Here are some tips for your guy to help him become a master of cunnilingus. Let him study these at length, so he can pay you back!