Read Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women Online
Authors: Tina Robbins
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The majority of women like stimulation of their clitoris to begin slowly and gently, progressing gradually and adding pressure bit by bit.
All movements should always be done carefully but firmly.
Stroke delicately from top to bottom when caressing the big and little lips of the vulva. Some women are mesmerized by rapidly moving the tongue over the vagina and then to the clitoris.
Give her a little massage with licks or sucking; make sure to use different strokes. This will prevent the experience from becoming too monotonous.
Play, using your nose, mouth, and chin so that you give her some variety.
Keep your beard well shaved. Beard stubble irritates the vagina and is quite unpleasant.
Give her gentle, tender kisses on her pubic hair until you arrive at her vagina’s inner parts.
Nibble her vaginal lips with great care.
With your tongue in her vagina, use your fingers and introduce them, one by one, into the opening, penetrating gently and using a pulsing motion once inside. Remember to caress her breasts, too!
Breathe through your nose carefully while inside her vagina as you massage its lips with your tongue.
When a woman has an orgasm, her clitoris becomes a lot more sensitive, so don’t go back on it immediately for oral sex, since this might hurt her.
Important Information. Extreme sensitivity of the clitoris is a tip-off that orgasm has occurred. If you think it’s a false alarm, however, touch her clitoris and watch her reaction. If she remains still, like nothing happened, you can be sure she hasn’t climaxed yet.
The most important thing is to be sympathetic, affectionate, and sensitive. Cater to your lady’s preferences; discover what turns her on.
THE 8 TECHNIQUES OF CUNNILINGUS, ACCORDING TO VATSYAYANA*
“ADHARA-SPHURITAM” (THE QUIVERING KISS). With the tips of your fingers, gently pinch together the arched lips of her “house of love” very slowly, and kiss them as if you were kissing her lower lip.
“JIHVA-bHRAMANAKA” (THE CIRCLING TONGUE). Spread apart the “vault” of her love nest with your nose. Let your tongue gently probe her yoni. Move your nose, lips, and chin, in circles.
“JIHVA-MARDITA” (THE TONGUE MASSAGE). Let your tongue rest for a moment in the archway to the flower-adorned “Lord’s temple” before entering to worship vigorously, causing her juices to flow.
“CHUSHITA” (SUCKED). Press your lips firmly on her vulva and suck hard on her clitoris.
“UCHCHUSHITA” (SUCKED UP). Cup and lift up her buttocks. Let your tongue-tip probe her navel. Slither down to
enter the archway of the love-god’s dwelling and lap up her love-water.
“KSHOBAKA” (STIRRING). Stirring the root of her thighs, which she keeps widely separated, your tongue drinks at her sacred spring.
“BAHUCHUSHITA” (SUCKED HARD). With her feet on your shoulders, clasp her waist, suck hard, and let your tongue stir her overflowing love-temple.
“KAKILA” (THE CROW). With both of you lying on your side, facing opposite ways, kiss each other’s secret parts.
*Wise man and Hindu philosopher, author of the Kama Sutra WHAT TYPE OF WOMAN ARE YOU?
Based on the depth of your yoni (vagina), the Kama Sutra tells us there are three types of women:
DEER WOMAN. This type of woman has a yoni six fingers deep. Her body is delicate, almost infantile in appearance, smooth and tender. Her head is small and well-formed, her bust is erect, her belly is slender, and her thighs are fleshy. Her arms are long and rounded. She has thick, curly hair, black eyes, large cheeks, and big ears. She has an affectionate temperament with a quick mind, though, on occasion, she can be jealous.
MARE WOMAN. This woman has a yoni nine fingers deep. Her body is delicate, but with sturdy arms. Her breasts are large and her hips are wide. Her gait is graceful. She loves to
sleep, and keeps her house neat. She is very affectionate with her partner.
ELEPHANT WOMAN. The yoni of this type is twelve fingers deep. She has very big breasts. Her nose and ears are large and thick. She has very fleshy cheeks and lips. She has vigorous, black hair. Her feet, hands, and arms are short and rounded. It is more difficult to bring this woman to orgasm and one must make sure that coitus with her is long and slow.
POSITIONS FOR FELLATIO
Classic. This is the most comfortable and passive position for him. The man lies on his back with his legs open and knees slightly bent. The woman either reclines or kneels before him where she can have total control of the situation. She can kiss him over all his body, caress him, or masturbate him, going down seductively towards his genitals and “torturing” him, all the while delaying contact of her lips on them. If the man lies with pillows under his head, he will have an exciting “field of vision” for observing her.
Another variation of classic fellatio consists of tying (gently, with a handkerchief) the man’s hands to the headrest of the bed and completely blindfolding him. In this submissive posture, she has complete control, with the man totally defenseless and at the mercy of every whim and desire of his partner. This is a very exciting situation for both partners who, later on, can exchange roles.
To obtain full erection, sucking and stimulation by the tongue must be continual. To bring him to orgasm, it is important to pace your rhythm with your partner’s breathing, utterances,
and involuntary movements. You can take his ejaculation in your mouth or anywhere else you desire. This always depends on the situation and desires of both partners.
Be aware that every man is different and responds in his own way to stimulation of his penis: to stroking, to pressure and to rhythm. You must pay attention to his face and other responses; you can also discuss it with him either before or afterwards. Ask him what he likes and how to give him the most stimulation.
You needn’t follow everything you read in this book too literally. Let your imagination go and be spontaneous. Remember that your mental attitude is the most important factor when it comes to pleasure and mutual excitement.
Submissive lover. This is the favorite of most men since it allows them freedom of movement and an incomparable point of view with their lover at their feet. The man sits up with his legs apart and arms open to receive his lover. She begins to massage, to kiss, to lick his neck, chest, nipples . . . working her way down to his abdomen and navel. Her hands caress his thighs, his rump, etc. The man then gets on his feet, waiting for his lover to bring her hot lips to him and give him mind-altering fellatio.
After these preliminaries, she gets on her knees with her face level with his pubis. She then breathes on him seductively and plays with his testicles, not ceasing to stroke her guy’s butt and thighs. This is when she takes the shaft of his penis and introduces it gently into her mouth. She begins to move, imitating coitus with her mouth, while her tongue stimulates his glans. She forms an “O” with her lips and circles the
crown of his glans and the frenum, making circular movements.
She keeps his penis well-moistened with her saliva and makes sure he is constantly aware of her hot breath. Not forgetting the other senses, she looks up at him with eyes full of desire and gives seductive moans of pleasure.
This is a very active position for both partners. He can grab his lover’s head and guide it to make her movements more pleasurable. Just be careful with this. Men get really excited in this position and are liable, when standing, to move as if they were having full-on coitus with their partner’s mouth. Not being able to control the depth of his penetration, the man can easily gag his lover.
Another variety of this position is with the man standing as well, but supporting his butt on the edge of a table, bed, or easy-chair, while she sits on the floor (or better yet, on a pillow or cushion), half tilted, resting on one of her butt cheeks, with her knees bent. In this position she can begin to play with her lover’s testicles while she firmly grasps the shaft of his penis. She runs her lips and tongue torridly over the surface of his foreskin and glans. Once it is well lubricated, she introduces it into her mouth and starts moving like it’s coitus, but gently, slowly, gradually increasing the rhythm until he comes undone in ecstasy.
Remember, if your lover senses you are enjoying giving him fellatio, you are halfway to climaxing him. For that reason, you should add a little “juice” and not skimp on moans, little grunts, soft words . . . which set your boy’s desire on fire. If he sees you turned on, that will turn him on even more!
On top of her. In this position she lies on her back with him straddling her with his knees on both sides of his lover’s head.
This way, his penis is virtually on top of her lips and all she has to do is open her mouth to receive her lover’s hot “gift.”
For her, this is basically a passive position. But having her hands free, she can grab her lover’s butt and pull him closer to her, simultaneously stimulating and massaging his thighs and even his anus.
This position allows deep penetration of the penis into her mouth, as well as one of the favorite fantasies of most men (and many women, too): ejaculating on her breasts or face.
On the knees. Both partners are on their knees on the bed and begin to stimulate each other. They give kisses, strokes, and nibbles to each other while each masturbates in front of the other. As this happens, she arches her back and approaches her lover’s penis with her lips while continuing to stimulate her clitoris with the other hand.
This posture provides very deep oral stimulation. Meanwhile, he can stroke her hair, her face, her back, and even her breasts. Orgasm is sure to follow!
She’s seated. This deals with a very seductive position and, above all, one that is very comfortable for her. The woman sits on the edge of the bed with open legs. He stands on the mattress and moves his penis towards his lover’s mouth. While she is masturbating, he puts his penis into her hot mouth. With her other hand she can stimulate her partner’s perineum and anus, or play with his testicles. She runs her
mouth over his penis from top to bottom while he draws her mouth to him until he reaches climax.
The sexiest number. As the form of the numeral graphically illustrates, “69” allows each lover to stimulate the other’s genitals in comfort and, best of all, simultaneously.
This position is so versatile that it is used not only for simultaneous oral sex, fellatio, and cunnilingus, but also can be alternated with techniques of genital masturbation or anal play. Often it is used as foreplay prior to penetration, but if the partners use appropriate stimulation it can also become a very pleasant way of reaching orgasm and ejaculation by itself.
In general, the woman lies on top of the man with her genitals in his face and her mouth on his penis (with the man on top it is somewhat more complicated for the woman to stimulate his erect penis).
There is, however, a position much more comfortable and relaxing for the two of them. It consists of both lying on their side, parallel to each other, genitals at the face of the other.
There are, in addition to 69, other numerals to consider such as 696, when we’re talking about a threesome, or 6969, when talking about an orgy! Another exciting variation is 70 (69+1). In this case, the “+1” refers to the finger of one of the lovers introduced into the anus of the other.
Though 69 is a very exciting position, there are certain inconvenient aspects to it that you should keep in mind. For one thing, while each lover is being orally stimulated, it often
occurs that one of them gets sidetracked because of the pleasure they are receiving. This can result in forgetting to pleasure the other sufficiently. One way to avoid this “lapse” is to keep the inverted position, and while one of them orally stimulates their partner, the other masturbates the first, later exchanging roles. This way it is much easier for both to reach orgasm together.
In this position, maneuvering of hands is substantially reduced and using the tongue to reach the clitoris is also more complicated.
EVEN IN THE CAR . . .
We’ve already noted that you can have oral sex anytime, anywhere. The automobile is a classic place for oral sex, and here we offer the most exciting positions for doing it “on the fly.”
FROM LEFT TO RIGHT. He sits in the driver’s seat and she leans towards him from the passenger side.
FROM BEHIND. He kneels between the two front seats, facing towards the rear, and puts his penis in the space between them. She engages in oral sex from the back seat.
69. Both lovers are in the rear seat. She is on the bottom with her legs open, and he is on all fours on top of her, in the opposite orientation.
WITH THE DOOR OPEN. With the door open, either one sits in whatever seat they like, with the other partner outside on their knees, giving the “inside” partner oral sex.
WHAT TYPE OF MAN ARE YOU?
According to the Kama Sutra, a man may be classified according to the size of his lingam (penis):
THE RABBIT. He has a lingam which does not exceed six fingers in length when erect. It is said he is a short man, but with a well-formed body. His hands, knees, feet, and thighs are small. He has a round face, small, fine teeth, silky hair and big, open eyes. He has a calm temperament; he desires fame, though he is humble. He is abstemious in eating and moderate in all his carnal desires.
THE BULL. When erect, his penis measures nine fingers in length. His body is robust and solid, broad-chested, rock-bellied. His forehead is wide and his eyes are large. He has a restless, irascible temperament.
THE HORSE. This one comes with a twelve-finger erection. He is tall, but not heavy. He prefers big, robust women. He has a hard body with a wide, muscular chest. His teeth, neck, and ears are big, as are his hands and fingers. His hair is thick, his look is determined and hard, and his voice is deep. His is daring, passionate, and ambitious of spirit.
You should be clear about one thing: sex is all in the mind. If you are imaginative, fun, curious, and daring, your lover is in luck. The secret is to free yourself and dare to try new things without fear or repression. Let your erotic imagination go; dive into sexual fantasy and fire up your sexual energy and power of seduction. Leave all limits behind and let exciting ideas and dreams inspire how you make love with your partner. Remember that guilt makes for poor sex. Everything you do in sex is OK, as long as it is done with a free spirit, treasuring every moment.
Make sure you put your fantasies into play. Throw out shame, false modesty, and taboos. Sex is one of the most liberating and pleasing activities a human being can enjoy. Don’t put limits on your sexuality; let yourself go in total confidence and all naturalness.
To this end it is important to share with your partner. Tell him or her your sexual fantasies without leaving out any of the details and let them know that you want to share them with him or her. Get your lover to tell you their fantasies too; it is likely you have more than a few in common. This sharing is the main ingredient for a healthy, sincere, and frank relationship, and the ideal recipe for turning up the heat on your mutual desire.
INDECENT PROPOSALS
There are many ways you can share your “perversions” with your lover, the ones which fire up your desire. In previous
chapters we have talked about foreplay. There is no reason you have to wait until you are in bed to start foreplay; you can begin to “warm up the engine” even at the office. Send your partner some sexy text messages, something risqué in tone that will get them going the rest of the day, fantasizing about what you’re going to do when you get them alone. You can be sure this seductive, unexpected little incitement will pique their desire. And if you want to use a more direct approach, you can always call them on the telephone. Fill your partner’s head with exciting images, whisper dirty little nothings, and promise them you’re serious about sharing those fantasies that really get them going.
BREAKFAST IN BED
We are not talking about your typical buttered toast and orange juice. Wake a bit earlier than usual and slip your hands under the sheets. Slowly, sweetly, start to caress her “little treasure” with moistened fingertips. The idea is to make her come without waking her up. Well, almost (By the way, this practice is known as somnophilia.). Don’t open the window, turn on the lights, or make any sudden movements. She has to feel like she is having an erotic dream. Go down on her and give her a gentle morning session of oral sex. If it’s the weekend, you can go on to coitus, but if she’s got to go to work, stop before that; remind her she owes you and you want it back later, with interest. You will see how your lover remembers every detail of her kinky reveille all through the day and how she won’t be able to wait till nighttime to settle the account with you!
THE “BLACK KISS”
The anus is a very erotic zone, but many couples have reservations about including it in a session of oral sex. Know that as far as men are concerned, the proximity of the prostate to the anus makes it an extremely pleasurable area, if it is stimulated properly. Just remember, this can be a touchy subject and many men feel their masculinity is threatened when this “off-limits” zone is handled.
For starters, you can give him a gentle massage around his anus with moistened fingers. Spend some time doing this as you fondle his testicles with your other hand. Use a gentle touch, natural, without forcing it. Ask him, from time to time, if he likes it and if what you’re doing excites him. His groans, his facial expression, and his words will tell you if you should keep on going or stop and go to another area. If your guy is up to it, continue by putting your finger in a bit deeper and move it in a circular movement, carefully. Obviously, anal sex requires some basic hygiene for hands and rear-end.
If you want, you can make your way between his butt cheeks with your hot tongue while you stimulate his penis with your hand.
The “black kiss” or anallingus (oral stimulation of the anus) is an exciting complement to fellatio and cunnilingus. The ideal position for success is to get down on all fours and let your lover place him-/herself behind you with their head below the arch formed by your legs. That way, they can stimulate and lick the entire anal and genital area, as well as play with your rump and the inner part of your thighs.
At first, the rectal area responds to stimulation by contracting. For this reason it’s important your partner relaxes and feels
comfortable with your explorations of their rear before you put your tongue there. Massage their back and butt; kiss and rub the front of their thighs. Carefully lick, suck, and nibble their rump, perineum, and the skin around their anus. Warm up and moisten the area with your mouth.
The rectum contracts when first stimulated, and then it expands. Lick it or touch it with the tip of your tongue, and watch its response. The muscles of the sphincter will begin to relax, allowing you to explore it deeper.
Using fingers is a very exciting way to stimulate the anal zone. The vagina shares a wall with the rectum and a series of erogenous zones as well, along with many nerve endings. You can alternate manual stimulation with licks and kisses (watch out: use great caution and do this only when the area is sufficiently excited and dilated). Moisten or lubricate a finger and start by stroking the anal opening. Carefully, gradually, introduce the finger until it touches the “G” spot (refer to the chapter on orgasm). Stimulate it with little circles and by moving the finger up and down.
A final piece of advice: oral stimulation of the anus requires certain precautions. Keep in mind the presence of certain bacteria that live in the large intestine and colon which can cause infection. So if you want to do the “black kiss,” practice extremely good hygiene and be sure you know the person with whom you’re doing it.
For his pleasure. Have him get down on all fours and lie on your back with your head beneath his legs. Start sucking his penis while you moisten your fingers in your vagina or with saliva. Play with his ass cheeks and don’t stop licking him as
you begin to stimulate his perinuem (the area between the base of his testicles and anus) with light and gentle pressure.
Now, get on your knees, behind your lover, and begin by dragging your tongue along the crack of his butt. Let your hot breath stimulate the whole area as you continue to masturbate his penis with your other hand. Moisten one of your fingers with saliva and massage the outer ring of his anus. The idea is, bit by bit, for him to get used to your stimulation. As his excitement increases, open his ass cheeks and kiss between them, lick his anus, and push it with the tip of your tongue. Stimulate his perineum with one hand as you continue to masturbate him with the other, until he comes.
Don’t forget about his testicles, how sensitive and capable they are of reacting to the slightest touch. The skin of the scrotum is delicate and when stroked produces very pleasant sensations. Just holding the testicles makes for something very pleasant. Support them gently, but firmly, in your hand. This always gives rise to a delicious effect, which spreads to the entire genital area. Stimulating the scrotum also arouses the surrounding area.
Another pleasant way to stimulate the testicles is to slide your fingertips over the scrotum and give them a gentle massage. A firm massage with the tip of your tongue at the base of his penis also produces intense, but pleasing sensations.
During fellatio, it is exciting to forget the penis for a while and give his testicles their due. You can kiss, lick—making small circles with the tongue-tip—or nibble (careful: just the skin which surrounds them).
For her pleasure. Same position, but it is now she who is on all fours and he who lies under her legs. Enjoy yourself as you lick her vulva and clitoris with your hot tongue. Massage her butt cheeks and put your fingers in the crease between them. Keep licking her perineum and gently rub the outside of her anus to make her rectal area relax.
Kiss her ass cheeks, making concentric spirals from outside to inside. Stretch your tongue and move it close to the outer part of her anus. Press with the tip and move gently towards the inner part. Stimulate her clitoris until she reaches climax.
CHANGE OF SCENERY
We’ve already commented how monotony and lack of imagination are the worst enemies of sex. As exciting as your sexual escapades may be, you can always top them with a little something extra, perhaps a “kinky” touch that fires up the passion of the moment. One of the great advantages, and pleasures, of oral sex is that you can do it virtually anywhere and in any situation. So don’t limit yourself at home by just doing it in the comfort of your bed. Try out the bathroom, the kitchen, the living room sofa, or the deckchair on the terrace.
If you have a stairway, why not give it a try? Steps are ideal for oral sex due to their difference in level. Just sit on the stairs (you’ll be more comfortable if you use cushions), with your partner’s head between your legs and their knees on a lower step. This will allow better mobility of their head.
HOW TASTY!
Oral sex is a practice that gives rise to a lot of prejudgments and inhibitions. One of the most common concerns revolves around the color and taste of the genitals, as well as their secretions. There is nothing better to chase away those “phantoms” than to propose a romantic and exciting shared bath. You can add to the level of seduction of your bath by incorporating rose petals, scented candles, essential oils, and bathing salts.
If the taste of oral sex continues to be a problem, you can buy any number of sexual lubricants specially designed for this pleasure. They are completely edible and are available in luscious flavors such as strawberry, lemon, mint, chocolate, etc. You can also use extra-strong mint candy while you suck on his penis (he will enjoy this too) or put a capsule of edible sexual lubricant in your mouth and crack it open with your teeth. Another option is to use toothpaste (this gives a sensation of freshness) or even a shot of cognac (sensation of heat).
There’s an injunction: “Don’t play with your food.” This time, however, we will leave this wise counsel and use food as an ideal condiment to spice up our session of oral sex. Ingredients such as whipped cream, marmalade, champagne, honey, yogurt, chocolate, or wine allow us to further “savor” our lover’s body.
Here are some tasty recipes: