Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women (12 page)

Slowly pour a trickle of sparkling rose wine on your lover’s Mount of Venus. Let the little stream of bubbly descend to her vagina and meet it there with your tongue. Lick the lips, the clitoris . . . drink the refreshing vintage from the most sensuous cup imaginable.

Prepare thick hot chocolate and let it cool down a while in a bowl. Add a few tablespoons of whipped cream. With a brush, spread this delicacy on the navel and genitals of your lover. Let your greedy tongue enjoy the sweet banquet: sip it, lick it, suck it, devour it totally, with pleasure . . .

Mix strawberry yogurt with a bit of honey. Let it chill in the refrigerator, and use it to garnish her clitoris. Spread it smoothly in small amounts so that it slides over the hood of her clitoris and little lips of her vulva. Do this very slowly so that the chill stimulates the area and later you can lick her, greedily!

Freshen up his penis with some mint. Rinse your mouth with the strongest mouthwash you can find, or take a super-strong mint candy and give him refreshing fellatio. Your mentholated tongue will give him new, fresh experiences due to its properties as a vasoconstrictor.

Don’t forget to have a box of scented wipes available so you can clean up (both of you) after the banquet!

GOOD VIBRATIONS

Surely you must have heard about the ring vibrator used to stimulate the clitoris during penetration. These are placed at the end of the shaft of the penis and small batteries make it vibrate during coitus.

The sex toy industry now offers a novelty, which provides exciting and pleasurable sessions of oral sex. The device in question is a ring vibrator, which is put on the tongue (available in several sizes and colors) and gives much more intense oral stimulation for both the man and the woman.

DOUBLE YOUR PLEASURE

If you have an open-minded and free relationship with your partner, you can always go one step beyond in your sexual encounters. We’re talking about including a third person in your oral sex play. This is the star-attraction fantasy of every man: to have sex with two women at the same time. For women, this fantasy is usually to have sex with two men, but there are those who prefer that one of the two partners be another woman.

If you are able to overcome bashfulness or cultural inhibitions, this “round robin” of pleasure can turn into something very exciting.

For example, in multiple oral sex, one of the women can give the other woman cunnilingus, while the second licks the

man’s penis. They can take turns, or else give the man fellatio together while they swap off masturbating him. One can suck on his glans, while the other strokes the root of his penis from top to bottom. Then one of them can lick his scrotum, while the other takes his penis in her mouth and sucks him for all it’s worth. On this point in common, which is the man’s penis, they might end up kissing each other or having their tongues entwined—a lesbian-conjuring image which greatly excites men.

In the case of two men and one woman, she has two penises to play with, and even better, two tongues which can give her an unforgettable session of cunnilingus. She can give fellatio to one while she masturbates the other.

She can play with both penises on her lips and even lick them together at the same time, glans against glans. When it is her time to receive, she can get down on all fours and let them stimulate her vagina, her perineum, her anus . . . in an irresistible clash of tongues and hot breath. Or, in this position, she can give one of them fellatio while the other gives her cunnilingus as he lies on his back between her legs.

THE MOST SENSUAL PIERCING

Piercing goes far beyond simple esthetics. Done on certain parts of the body, it can be the perfect way to increase sexual pleasure. It can aid stimulation of the genitals, above all the clitoris, if it is located there. Most women pierce either their labia minora, at the bottom of the vaginal opening, or the perineum. These piercings are very sensual, and to play with those in the nipples as well as the genitals can be very exciting.

Even so, one must take every precaution not to engage in positions that can result in injury, and, regarding hygiene, make sure to avoid infections.

Daring places to have piercings include: nipples, tongue (very exciting for giving your guy fellatio), or clitoris. A piercing in the navel is less “hardcore,” but very erotic anyway.

If you get a piercing in your tongue, your lover will experience a windfall of pleasure when you give him oral sex. Since a piercing is metallic, it is an excellent conductor of heat and provides you with a tool you can use to intensify or vary the stimulation you give in oral sex. A good idea is drinking something hot or cold prior to putting your mouth on your partner’s penis or vulva. The piercing will retain the temperature of the beverage, and this will be much more seductive and sensual for your lover.

Make sure to engage the services of a professional when you get pierced and that the level of hygiene is the same you would expect at a dentist’s office. This is to avoid the risk of infection or other sickness such as hepatitis or AIDS.

Keep your “little jewels” clean at all times. Wash them in hot water and neutral soap after every sexual encounter. Avoid soaps that are too strong or overly perfumed.

DECORATE YOURSELF!

Forget about clothes for a second and surprise your partner with a new look in nudity: body painting! You can do it yourself at home or go to a professional who can trim you from top to bottom. The paints used for this have been

adapted for use on the skin so as to avoid any allergic reactions or irritation. They come in different colors and tastes, which your partner can lick in suggestive and sensual ways.

HOW ABOUT A SHOWER?

If you enjoy trying out new spots with your partner, why not try oral sex in the shower? We’ve already talked about the necessity of good hygiene before oral sex. Here we are going to combine the two: personal hygiene and pleasure!

Before you start, why don’t you spruce up the bathroom a bit? Usually somewhat cold and impersonal, you can give this space an erotic touch and make it more sensual with candles, incense, and sultry music. Be careful and make sure the wiring for the sound equipment is as far as possible from water so you don’t get shocked.

The temperature of the space is also important. Take into account that you are naked and getting splashed with water, so make sure the bathroom is well heated.

Now that you’ve taken care of the setting, it’s time for action. Both of you get in the shower and let the hot water run over your nude skin. For her, it is especially erotic to direct the stream of water directly on the vagina. This is very sensual and exciting. In the meantime, your partner can soap your back and run his slippery hands over your butt, your breasts, your abdomen, etc. He can start to explore your more intimate areas with his moistened fingers and slowly, but surely, heat up the shower even more.

The essential thing is to let go, to enjoy yourselves, to experience the hot water and foam, and, above all, to talk to each other. Tell him what you like and what you don’t like so you can make it the best experience possible.

Each can also pleasure him–or herself, alone. It is extremely hot to watch your partner masturbating.

Turn off the water and push your guy’s head down. Have him get down on his knees and have him “drink” your soaking genitals. Be careful not to slip. If the shower is not big enough you might have to hold on to one of the fixtures to steady yourself. Let him sink his face between your legs. To provide for deeper stimulation of his tongue, drape one of your legs over his shoulder.

Oral sex in the shower can sometimes be a little uncomfortable. Change positions to avoid any tiring, and little by little both can reach a nice, “soft-boiled” orgasm!

NAUGHTY PHONE SEX

In general, ladies love to spend time glued to the phone. Take advantage of this with your partner and give her a session of “opportunistic” phone sex. While she’s chatting away, kneel in front of her, remove her shoes, and start kissing her feet, sensually. Don’t tickle her or your presence will be tipped off to the other person on the line. Go up her legs with your kisses, making sure to rub against her skin. If she is wearing a skirt it will be easier for you to reach your “objective.” If she happens to be wearing pants, unzip them quickly and surely.

Don’t take no for an answer. If you manage to remove her clothes waist down, without any opposition, gently slide your fingertips over her nude skin. Start kissing the inside of her thighs and slowly approach her sexual part with your hot breath. Don’t hurry. If you are too rough, you might cause her to interrupt her conversation with little moans or a change of voice which can betray your activity to her interlocutor. Once she’s finished with the phone conversation you needn’t get up; just finish what you started.

You also can use the telephone for the following game. Call a phone sex number (they’re listed in the newspaper or Internet). If you have a speaker phone, use it; that will allow your free hands more exciting options and both of you will be able to share the sensual moment.

Have your guy do the talking and let him get excited from the fantasies the phone sex operator gives him. As things start heating up, unzip his pants and start to kiss, suck, and lick his penis. The greatest excitement will be generated if you are able to synchronize what you are doing to him with what is going on with the phone sex. And don’t worry about the phone bill. Normally, phone sex fantasies get them going really quick and before you know it, he’ll already have shot his dice!

DEEP THROAT

It was 1972 when Linda Lovelace became the sex icon of the day. Directed by Gerard Damiano (owner of a beauty parlor before he got into movie-making), Deep Throat told the story of a woman who couldn’t reach orgasm during coitus because her clitoris, due to an unusual birth defect, was located in her

throat! The film caused considerable uproar, both social and political. The Nixon administration launched an aggressive campaign to prevent distribution of the film, which unleashed a firestorm of controversy. The movie was banned in twenty-three states, and its protagonists were charged with “conspiracy to transport obscene materials across state lines.”

Today, fortunately, times have changed and no one, or almost no one, is scandalized by these things. And so this legendary flick has inspired us to show you how to enjoy one of the most surprising and pleasing techniques of fellatio you can give to your lover.

It is not the easiest of positions to pull off. The secret lies in being able to breathe through your nose. You have to practice until you are able to completely control each part of its execution. If you are patient, you will see it was more than worth it once you see your guy’s face after you have given him the best orgasm of his life!

As we’ve already said, to begin to train for this you must learn to breathe through your nose. Practice a while until you feel completely comfortable doing it. Now comes the hard part. You must be able to control the natural “gagging” reflex. You can start by introducing two or three fingers into your throat. Start off shallow, then go deeper gradually as you learn to better control the reflex. Try to keep your fingers in the back of your throat for four to five seconds. Meanwhile, keep breathing through the nose and RELAX. Remove your fingers, rest a moment, and then try again. You’ll see, after a few days, with the help of nasal breathing the gagging reflex will start to disappear. Remember, this technique requires a lot of practice and mental focus.

The best “deep throat” position is to be on your knees with your shoulders arched backwards. Separate your knees, but keep your ankles together and hold them with your hands. Let your head roll back; this way your mouth and throat will be perfectly aligned and this will facilitate deep penetration of his penis.

Another position for deep throat is to lie down with your shoulders flat on the bed and let your head hang over the edge. This way you can make your neck and mouth align and allow superb oral penetration.

In both positions, he will have to place himself in front of your face. Have him hold you at the nape of your neck, so he can support your head and keep your mouth and throat in a straight line. You’ll probably feel, at least the first few times, that he is choking you with his penis. Just remember your breathing exercises and focus your mind on the orgasm he will have. Tell your lover not to make any rough movements and, above all, not to force penetration.

TWO FOR THE PRICE OF ONE

It will drive your lover wild if you give him both oral and penetrating sex together. He will go nuts when you massage his penis, passing it from your mouth to your vagina, and then back again to your mouth. You should adopt a comfortable position that allows you freedom of movement. Know that you’re going to move a lot and it is best if he lies on the bed face up with you on top.

Begin by sinking your mouth between his legs. Lick his penis for a while, then sit on his face and let him play a bit with

your “inner parts.” Let him stay there a couple of minutes, then take away your face. Sit on his pelvis and have him penetrate you. Don’t let him get too deep into you; let him experience your heat a bit and then go back to his face for more oral sex. This switching from top to bottom will make him mad with pleasure, and you’ll be the one who decides how it ends up!

ORAL TANTRA

Oral Tantric sex is a slow, sensual practice that can last hours.

According to the ancient tradition of Tantra, there are two positions for oral sex:

The “Kakasana” Position. In this position, the woman (Shakti) and the man (Shakta) lie parallel to each other on their right sides with faces opposite the other’s genitals. Shakta (the man) slips his right hand under the woman’s thighs and rests his head between them. Then he moistens his thumb and index finger of his right hand with saliva and seals her anus with the index finger while he puts his thumb in her yoni (vagina). Then he rests his mouth on her yoni and starts to activate her clitoris with his tongue.

For her part, the Shakti sucks his lingam with her mouth, sealing off its opening with her tongue and pressing on his anus with the third finger of her right hand. She uses the rest of her fingers to massage his scrotum and perineum.

This position, called “Kakasana,” brings about a gentle orgasm and allows the merging of the awareness of the “god” and “goddess” into a realm of transcendent peace.