The Whole Lesbian Sex Book (55 page)

www.barbaracarrellas.com

Body Electric

Teaches touch, conscious breath, and honoring the wisdom of the body. Offers women-only workshops, including “Celebrating the Body Erotic for Women,” “The Lusty Crone,” “Dancing the Fire Within,” and “Sacred Intimacy for Women,” in Seattle, Oakland, Atlanta, Boston, and New York.

6527-A Telegraph Ave., Oakland, CA 94609
Tel. (510) 869-4383
Fax (510) 653-4991
[email protected]
www.bodyelectric.org/women_index.htm

Jwala

Masseuse, rebirther, and designer of sensual boudoirs, Jwala has taught Tantra internationally for over 20 years in Australia, England, India, Germany, and throughout the United States.

http://tantra.com/jwala

Women’s Sexuality Center

Pamela Madison offers workshops and classes with the goal of sexually empowering women through education. Lesbian classes include Tantra, with both evening and weekend-long workshops. Classes offered in Santa Barbara and Sausalito.

30 West Mission, Suite 8,
Santa Barbara, CA 93101
(805) 563-1071
(866) QTANTRA
[email protected]
www.womensexualitycenter.com
www.pamelamadison.com

Transgender and Intersex Resources

American Boyz

Serves people who “were labeled female at birth but who feel that is not an accurate or complete description of who they are,” including FTMs, butches, transmen, drag kings, boychicks, she-bears, shapeshifters, transfags, tomboys, passing women, two spirits, tranny boys, intersexuals, and significant others, friends, family members, and allies. AmBoyz provides education, support, social events, newsletters, publications, email lists, and hosts the national True Spirit Conference.

212-A So. Bridge St., Suite 131,
Elkton, MD 21921
Tel. (410) 392-3640
Fax (410) 620-2024
[email protected]
[email protected]
www.amboyz.org

Butchdykeboy.com

Intersection of Boston’s Queer, Transgender, and Gender Queer Communities. Resources, rants, and information for everyone on queer, transgender, and gender queer issues.

[email protected]
www.butchdykeboy.com

Drag Kings

Announcement list for show dates, news, and other information from drag king performers and fans. Write the list owner. For information, contact:

[email protected]

FTM Informational Network

The FTM Informational Network website is packed with information—legal and political news, sources for testosterone, packin’ gear in several sizes, personal stories, shaving tips, and clothing advice.

[email protected]
www.ftminfo.net

FTM International, Inc.

FTM International represents a diverse group of transgendered men: “We come from different backgrounds, include every imaginable sexual orientation, and are multi-cultural. We range in age from our teens to our 70s and include persons who are just beginning to examine gender issues as well as persons who have been dealing with them for many years. We are here to help—whether in the form of providing information, or through our newsletter and other publications, through support from volunteers who are willing to help if you need someone to talk to, or through our list of online mailing lists and links, and also through our monthly meetings and special events.”

1360 Mission St., Suite 200,
San Francisco, CA 94103
(415) 553-5987
www.ftmi.org

IFGE

The International Foundation for Gender Education, founded in 1978, advocates for freedom of gender expression. “We promote the understanding and acceptance of all people: Transgender, Transsexual, Crossdresser, Agender, Gender Queer, Intersex, Two Spirit, Drag King, Drag Queen, Queer, Straight, Butch, Femme, Homosexual, Bisexual, Heterosexual, and of course, You!” Also publishes
Transgender Tapestry.

P.O. Box 540229, Waltham, MA 02254
(781) 899-2212
[email protected]
www.ifge.org

Intersex Society of North America (ISNA)

“The Intersex Society of North America (ISNA) is devoted to systemic change to end shame, secrecy, and unwanted genital surgeries for people born with an anatomy that someone decided is not standard for male or female. ISNA works toward this end primarily through public education and through reforming medical education.” Contact them through their website:

www.isna.org

Press for Change

A political lobbying and educational organization working to achieve equality and respect for all transsexual and transgendered people in the United Kingdom. The well-written website reads like a London
Times
of the trans world.

[email protected]
www.pfc.org.uk

TransGenderCare

Provides health information for MTF and FTM transsexuals, with extensive information on transitioning.

www.transgendercare.com

Transgender Health Program

Provides anonymous, confidential, free support in British Columbia for transgendered people, their family members, partners, and friends. Website offers care guidelines, online library, links to other resources.

Three Bridges Community Health Centre
1292 Hornby St.,
Vancouver BC, V6Z 1W2 Canada
Phone/TTY: (604) 734-1514
(866) 999-1514 (toll free in BC)
[email protected]
www.vch.ca/transhealth

TransHealth.Com

The online magazine of health and fitness for transsexual and transgendered people.

www.trans-health.com

Youth Gender Project

Youth-led organization working to empower and advocate for trans, gender-variant, and questioning (TGQ) youth in the San Francisco Bay area.

www.youthgenderproject.org

Notes

chapter one

1
Dr. David Reuben M.D.,
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex (but Were Afraid to Ask),
2nd ed. (HarperCollins, 1999), 163. In the original 1969 edition, the quote was “one vagina plus one vagina equals zero.”

chapter two

1
Dossie Easton, San Francisco Sex Information continuing education workshop, San Francisco, March 22, 1999.

2
Sigmund Freud, “Three Essays on Sexuality,” in the
Standard Edition of The Complete Psychological Works,
vol. 7 (Hogarth Press, 1953). As quoted in
The Deviant’s Dictionary,
online encyclopedic dictionary of S/M-related terms, 1997.
http://public.diversity.org.uk/pages.html
.

3
Patrick Califia,
Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex,
2nd edition (Cleis Press, 2000), 176. He continues, “However, much fetishism probably passes as ‘normal’ (nonfetishist) sexuality because the required cue is so common and easy to obtain that no one notices how necessary they are.”

4
Webster’s Unabridged Encyclopedic Dictionary
(1989 edition), as quoted in alt.sex.fetish.fashion, 1996. See
www.sexuality.org/1/fetish/fashion.html
.

5
Rachel Pepper,
The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians
(Cleis Press, 1999), 126.

6
Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids
(Inner Ocean, 2004), 106.

7
Posted on
www.classicdykes.com
. Used with the permission of the author and site owner. Copyright 1998-2004, Classic Dykes Online. All Rights Reserved.

8
E. H. H. Cawood and J. Bancroft, “Steroid Hormones, the Menopause, Sexuality and Well-Being of Women.”
Psychological Medicine,
vol. 26, 925-36, 1996. “None of the hormonal parameters significantly predicted measures of sexuality; the most important predictors were other aspects of the sexual relationship, sexual attitudes and measures of well-being. The best predictor of both well-being and depression was tiredness.”

9
Jack Morin,
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment
(HarperPerennial, 1996), 50.

10
Violet Blue,
The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos
(Cleis Press, 2003), 213-14.

11
Posted on
www.classicdykes.com
. Used with the permission of the author and site owner. Copyright 1998-2004, Classic Dykes Online. All Rights Reserved.

chapter three

1
Rebecca Chalker,
The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips
(Seven Stories Press, 2000), 36.

2
Ibid., 35, 51, 54-55. Of the 18 “parts,” eight are located on the exterior of the body. Of the interior “parts” of the clitoris, three consist of erectile tissue, two of blood vessels, two of the paraurethral and Bartholin’s glands, one of muscle, one of ligaments, and one of nerves.

3
Ibid., 35.

4
Susan Williamson, “The Truth About Women,”
New Scientist,
August 1, 1998. See also Helen E. O’Connell et al., “Anatomical Relationship Between Urethra and Clitoris,”
Journal of Urology,
vol. 159, 1892-97, June 1998.

5
“Body of Knowledge,” Interview with Helen E. O’Connell, Australian Broadcasting Corporation, October 22, 1998.
http://abc.net.au/quantum/scripts98/9825/clitoris.html
.

6
Helen E. O’Connell et al., “Anatomical Relationship Between Urethra and Clitoris.”

7
Williamson.

8
John DeLancey, University of Michigan-Ann Arbor, quoted in Williamson.

9
Susie Bright,
Susie Bright’s Sexual Reality
(Cleis Press, 1992), 102.

10
Dr. Susan Love with Karen Lindsey,
Dr. Susan Love’s Breast Book,
2nd edition (Perseus Books, 1995), 5.

11
William Masters and Virginia Johnson,
Human Sexual Response
(Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 1966).

12
Helen Singer Kaplan,
The New Sex Therapy: Active Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions
(Times Book, 1974).

13
Joann Loulan,
Lesbian Sex
(Spinsters, 1984) and
Lesbian Passion
(Spinsters, 1987).

14
See chapter 14, Gender (Not Destiny). From an email sent to this author December 1, 2001. The writer is referring to the first edition of this book.

15
Pandora, “Tranny Sex,”
Trans-Health,
vol. 2, issue 2, Fall 2002.

16
M. Atmaca, M. Kuloglu, E. Tezcan, and A. Buyukbayram, “Switching to Tianeptine in Patients with Antidepressant-Induced Sexual Dysfunction,”
Human Psychopharmacology,
vol.18, no. 4, 277-80, June 2003.

17
H. G. Nurnberg et al., “Sildenafil for Iatrogenic Serotonergic Antidepressant Medication-Induced Sexual Dysfunction in 4 Patients,”
Journal of Clinical Psychiatry,
vol. 60, no. 1, 33-35, January 1999.

18
Arline Kaplan, “Light Treatment for Nonseasonal Depression,”
Psychiatric Times,
vol. 16, issue 3
,
March 1999.

19
John J. B. Allen Ph.D., “Depression and Acupuncture: A Controlled Clinical Trial,”
Psychiatric Times,
vol. 17, issue 3
,
March 2000.

20
Allen. Following treatments specifically designed to address symptoms of depression, 64 percent of women experienced full remission according to
DSM-IV
criteria.

21
R. G. Walton, R. Hudak, and R. J. Green-Waite, “Adverse Reactions to Aspartame: Double-Blind Challenge in Patients from a Vulnerable Population,”
Biological Psychiatry,
vol. 34, no. 1-2, 13-17, July 1-15, 1993. See also Christiane Northrup,
The Wisdom of Menopause: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing During the Change
(Bantam Dell, 2001), 322.

22
David L. Rowland and Wendi Tai, “A Review of Plant-Derived and Herbal Approaches to the Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions,”
Journal of Sex Marital Therapy,
vol. 29, no. 3, 185-205, May-June, 2003.

23
Ibid.

24
Ibid. Even less clear is the phase of the sexual response cycle presumably affected by the specific agent or the mechanism of action through which the agent might be exerting its effect.

25
C. R. Gracia, M. D. Sammel, E. W. Freeman, L. Liu, L. Hollander, and D. B. Nelson, “Predictors of Decreased Libido in Women During the Late Reproductive Years,”
Menopause,
vol. 11, 144-50, 2004. “Women aged 35 to 47 years identified through random digit dialing were prospectively followed for 4 years with serial hormone assays and standardized questionnaires…. Of 326 women, 87 (27%) reported a decreased libido, whereas 239 (73%) did not.”

26
“Boosting Libido,” Power Surge,
www.power-surge.com
.