The Whole Lesbian Sex Book (56 page)

27
Susun S. Weed,
New Menopausal Years the Wise Woman Way: Alternative Approaches for Women 30-90
(Ashtree Publishing, 2002), 63.

28
Carol Leonard, “Hotter Than a Red-Assed Bee: The Menopause Experience,” posted on Power Surge. Leonard specifically mentions Polycarbophil found in Replens,
www.power-surge.com
.

29
Ibid.

30
Power Surge,
www.power-surge.com
.

31
Gracia. The study also found that “other independent risk factors for decreased libido include vaginal dryness, depression, and living with children.”
No kidding.

32
Dr. Susan Rako, Power Surge Live!, July 10, 2003,
www.powersurge.com
.

33
Ibid.

34
Jennifer Hays et al., “Effects of Estrogen Plus Progestin on Health-Related Quality of Life,”
New England Journal of Medicine,
May 2003.

chapter four

1
Cathy Winks and Anne Semans,
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex
, 3rd edition (Cleis Press, 2002), 38.

2
Margo Anand,
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers
(Tarcher, 1989), 309.

3
Mikaya Heart,
When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm
(Celestial Arts, 1998), 109.

4
Annie Sprinkle, “Seven Types of Female Orgasm or Annie Sprinkle’s Models of Orgasm,”
www.anniesprinkle.org/html/writings/7_types_org.html
.

5
Ibid.

6
Carol Ann Darling, J. Kenneth Davidson Sr., and Colleen Conway-Welch, “Female Ejaculation: Perceived Origins, the Grafenberg Spot/Area, and Sexual Responsiveness,”
Archives of Sexual Behavior,
vol. 19, no. 1, 45, 1990.

chapter five

1
Carol Queen,
Exhibitionism for the Shy
(Down There Press, 1995), 46.

2
Staci Haines,
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse
(Cleis Press, 1999), 16.

3
Heather Corinna, “Aphrodite’s Appetite: The Ins and Outs of Eating for Great Sex,”
ScarletLetters,
May 1999.

4
Jeanne M. Marrazzo, Laura A. Koutsky, Kathleen L. Strine, et al., “Genital Human Papillomavirus Infection in Women Who Have Sex with Women,”
Journal of Infectious Diseases,
vol. 178, 1604-09, 1999.

5
Tristan Taormino,
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
(Cleis Press, 1997), 36; Cathy Winks and Anne Semans,
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex,
3rd edition (Cleis Press, 2002); and San Francisco Sex Information.

6
Rachel Pepper,
The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians
(Cleis Press, 1999), 128.

chapter six

1
Betty Dodson,
Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving
(Crown, 1996), 95.

2
Cathy Winks and Anne Semans,
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex,
3rd edition (Cleis Press, 2002).

3
Tristan Taormino, Adventure Girl, “I Came on Prozac with Betty Dodson,”
On Our Backs,
vol. 14, no. 2 (April/May 1999), 7.

4
Staci Haines,
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse
(Cleis Press, 1999), 221.

5
Winks and Semans,
The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex.

6
Ibid.

7
Lonnie Barbach Ph.D.,
For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality
(Signet/Penguin, 1975), 94-95.

8
Annie Sprinkle, with Jwala, “How to Have Energy Orgasms,”
www.tantra.com/energy.html
.

9
“Ask Aphrodite,” A Woman’s Touch website,
www.a-womans-touch.com
.

chapter seven

1
Susie Bright,
Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex World,
2nd edition (Cleis Press, 1998), 34.

2
Carol Queen,
Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture,
2nd edition (Cleis Press, 2002), 62.

3
Ibid., 68.

chapter eight

1
Staci Haines,
The Survivors Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse
(Cleis Press, 1999), 22.

2
This list of “specific and doable” conditions of satisfaction was developed in conversation with relationship coach Paula Love, February 4, 2004,
www.paulaloveconsulting.com
.

3
This is true of both heterosexual lore, as seen in mainstream popular culture, and lesbian lore, as seen in popular culture created by lesbians for lesbians.

4
Suzanne Iasenza Ph.D., “The Big Lie: Lesbian Bed Death,” on
www.GayHealth.com
; reprinted from
In The Family,
April 1999.

5
Jack Morin,
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment
(HarperPerennial, 1996), 268.

6
Posted on
www.classicdykes.com
. Used with the permission of the author and site owner. Copyright 1998-2004, Classic Dykes Online. All Rights Reserved.

7
Staci Haines,
Healing Sex: The Complete Guide to Sexual Wholeness
(S.I.R. Productions, 2004).

8
Staci Haines,
The Survivor’s Guide to Sex
, 164.

9
Paula Love, personal email.

10
Iasenza.

chapter eleven

1
“The Diva Sex Report,”
Diva
(January 1999), 16-20.

chapter twelve

1
Susie Bright,
Susie Sexpert’s Lesbian Sex World
, 2nd edition (Cleis Press, 1990, 1998), 15.

2
Susan Williamson, reporting O’Connell’s findings in
Today’s Life Science.
See also Helen E. O’Connell et al., “Anatomical Relationship Between Urethra and Clitoris,”
Journal of Urology,
vol. 159, 1892-97, June 1998.

3
Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah,
Sex Toys 101: A Playfully Uninhibited Guide
(Simon & Schuster, 2003), 77.

4
Tristan Taormino,
Down and Dirty Sex Secrets: The New and Naughty Guide to Being Great in Bed
(ReganBooks, 2001), 152.

chapter thirteen

1
Toys in Babeland website,
www.babeland.com
.

2
Robert Morgan, quoted by Tristan Taormino in
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
(Cleis Press, 1997), 88.

3
Jack Morin,
Anal Pleasure and Health
(Down There Press, 1998), 227-29. According to Morin, hemorrhoids are caused by tension in the internal sphincter muscles, along with a diet of overly refined foods. “[W]hen rectal entry is accomplished through relaxation, the results are beneficial, even to the hemorrhoid sufferer.”

4
RedRight website,
www.winternet.com/~redright/redright.htm
.

5
Nina Hartley, “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Sex” (Adam and Eve Productions, 1994).

6
“Ask Dr. Myrtle,” A Woman’s Touch website,
www.a-womans-touch.com
.

chapter fourteen

1
Cheryl Chase, correspondence, September 1999.

2
“Frequency: How Common Are Intersex Conditions?” ISNA website, posted January 1, 2004,
www.isna.org
.

3
Annalee Newitz, “When Doctors Try to Fix What Ain’t Broke,”
GettingIt.com
, July 27, 1999,
www.gettingit.com
.

4
Like other clitoridectomies performed for cultural or religious reasons, surgery performed on intersex children amounts to genital mutilation. Thanks to intersex activists, such medical practices are changing in some areas.

5
ISNA website,
www.isna.org
.

6
Alice Domurat Dreger, “‘Ambiguous sex’—or Ambivalent Medicine?”
Hastings Center Report,
vol. 28, no. 3, 24-35, May/June 1998. The full text of the article can be found on the ISNA website,
www.isna.org
.

7
See TS Roadmap for an extensive guide to MTF gender transition,
www.tsroadmap.com
.

8
See Jamison Green’s thorough discussion of FTM surgical options and costs in
Becoming a Visible Man
(Vanderbilt University Press, 2004), 102-19.

chapter fifteen

1
Patrick Califia,
Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex,
2nd edition (Cleis Press, 2000), 165.

2
Janette Heartwood, Heartwood Whips of Passion website,
www.heartwoodwhips.com
.

chapter seventeen

1
Good Vibrations, product insert.

2
Sarah Forbes-Roberts and Sandra Haar, Come As You Are, correspondence, 1999.

3
Sarah Dewhirst, Good Vibrations, correspondence, 1999.

4
Ellen Barnard, A Woman’s Touch website, correspondence, 1999.

5
Tristan Taormino, describing the Steel Uranus,
www.puckerup.com
.

6
Rachel Venning, Toys in Babeland, “I Dream of Dildos,”
Girlfriends
magazine, July 1994, 32.

7
Blowfish website,
www.blowfish.com
.

8
Venning.

9
Girlfriends
magazine, September 2000.

10
Toys in Babeland, “The Crystal Wand,”
Girlfriends
magazine, October 1997, 40.

11
Grand Opening! website,
www.grandopening.com
.

12
Terry Morris, Good Vibrations, correspondence, 1999.

chapter eighteen

1
Jeanne Marrazzo, LesbianStd.Com,
www.lesbianstd.com
.

2
Tristan Taormino,
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
(Cleis Press, 1997), 123.

3
Charles Moser Ph.D., M.D.,
Health Care Without Shame: A Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers
(Greenery Press, 1999), 39, 42-43.

4
Jamie Feldman M.D., Ph.D., and Walter Bockting Ph.D., “Transgender Health,”
Minnesota Medicine
vol. 86, July 2003. See also Dr. Lenore Tietjens-Grillo M.D., FACOG, “Guidelines for Routine Health Care.”
www.man2manpdx.us/sex_std/transgender_issues_risks.shtml
.

5
Shadow Morton, Yosenio Lewis, Aaron Hans, and James Green, editor, “FTM 101—The Invisible Transsexuals,” 1997,
www.gendercentre.org.au/invisibletranssexuals.htm
.

6
Tietjens-Grillo.

7
Feldman.

8
LesbianSTD.com
,
www.lesbianstd.com
.

9
“Female = Woman, Right? Not Always…”
www.butch-femme.net/butchfemmenetwork_039.htm
.

10
Jeanne Marrazzo, personal correspondence, August 15, 2004. Tristan Taormino,
The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
(Cleis Press, 1997), 36. See also D. M. Phillips, K. M. Sudol, C. L. Taylor, L. Guichard, R. Elsen, and R. A. Maguire, “Lubricants Containing N-9 May Enhance Rectal Transmission of HIV and Other STIs,”
Contraception,
vol. 70, no. 2, 107-10, August 2004, and “Nonoxynol-9 Information,” Condom Depot. In February 2004, the retailer announced it would no longer sell products containing nonoxynol-9.
www.condoms-buy.com/non9/
.

11
CDC,
www.cdc.gov/std/STDFact-MSM&Syphilis.htm
.

12
Kathleen Stine, “Sexual Minority Women and Vulvar-Vaginal Infections,”
Lesbian-Bisexual Women’s Health Study,
University of Washington Virology Research Clinic, 1999.

13
J. Marrazzo, L. A. Koutsky, K. Stine, and S. Hillier, “Prevalence and Microbiology of Bacterial Vaginosis in Lesbians,”
LesbianSTD.com
,
www.lesbianstd.com
.

14
Marrazzo, conversation, October 6, 1999.

15
Stine, “Sexual Minority Women and Vulvar-Vaginal Infections.”

16
Jeanne M. Marrazzo, Laura A. Koutsky, Kathleen L. Stine, et al., “Genital Human Papillomavirus in Women Who Have Sex with Women,”
Journal of Infectious Diseases,
vol. 178, 1604-09, 1998. Marrazzo found that of the 149 women, 147 had digital-vaginal sex with women in the prior year. The same number had cunnilingus in the prior year. More than half used insertive sex toys in the prior year. More than half had anal sex with women in the prior year. Slightly more than a third had engaged in rimming in the prior year.

17
Marrazzo, conversation, October 6, 1999.

18
Ibid.

19
“What You Should Know About Hepatitis C,” National Institutes of Health, 2001,
www.niaid.nih.gov/dmid/hepatitis/hepcfacts.htm
.

20
Hepatitis Research Foundation, June 2003,
www.heprf.org/rationale.htm
.

21
Roselyn Payne Epps and Susan Cobb Stewart, eds.,
The American Medical Women’s Association Guide to Sexuality
(Dell Books, 1996), 140.

22
National Herpes Resource Center, American Social Health Association, 2001,
www.ashastd.org/hrc/educate.html#common
.

23
Helena A. Kwakwa and M. W. Ghobrial, “Female-to-Female Transmission of Human Immunodeficiency Virus,”
Clinical Infectious Diseases,
January 10, 2003.

24
Jennifer Block, “Lady Buggers,”
POZ,
May 2003, 15.