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CONNECTORS: The advantage to buying an enema kit is that everything fits together. If you buy your items separately, not everything may be the same size, since widths of enema bag openings, tubing, and nozzles can vary from 1/4” to 5/16” to 3/4”. If the items you want to use are not the same size, then you need connectors. For example, in order to use a bag with a 1/4” opening and tubing that’s 5/16” together, you need a 1/4”-to-5/16” connector. Connectors are sold separately at enema equipment specialty stores and websites.

 

HOOKS: Enema kits come with a plastic hook or you can purchase one separately. This is a small but important piece since you’ll need to hang the enema bag.

 

TOWELS: It’s a good idea to put a bath mat down on the floor, and have a towel or two nearby. If you’re administering an enema to yourself or someone else in a place other than a bathroom, you may want to lay down towels or absorbent bed pads.

 

FLOW INDICATORS: Although not necessary for an effective enema, a flow indicator is a cool accessory for enema fans. Flow indicators attach to the enema tubing and measure the speed of the water flow.

When you purchase an enema bag kit, it comes with a basic nozzle for the end of the tubing; it’s made of a firmer material than the tubing and has one or more holes in it through which the water flows. If you purchase your enema items separately, you’ll definitely need to get a nozzle. Since the nozzle is the part that goes inside your ass, you want the size, shape, and material to be comfortable for you. Here are some examples of different kinds (also see Illustration 5):

 

FLEXIBLE RUBBER NOZZLES: These slim, soft rubber nozzles are easy to insert and great for enema beginners. Because they’re skinny, though, some people complain that water can leak out more easily.

 

HARD RUBBER OR PLASTIC NOZZLES: These small but hard nozzles are often sold in a set of several different sizes and shapes. Their size is good for novices, although their firmness may be less comfortable than a more flexible material.

 

BUTT PLUG STYLE NOZZLES: Made of a variety of materials including rubber, hard plastic, aluminum, and stainless steel, these nozzles look like butt plugs and anal bead toys because basically they are—except they attach to tubing and have holes in the tips for water to flow through. If you want to add a pleasurable element to your enema, then nozzles that “double” as toys are for you.

 

INFLATABLE BALLOON NOZZLES: The top-of-the-line accessories that enema aficionados rave about are the single and double inflatable balloon nozzles. Picture a rubber arrow-shaped nozzle with an inflator bulb attached. The idea behind the design is that once you insert and inflate the nozzle, it forms a kind of seal which helps you keep it in. They can be very expensive (from one-hundred to two-hundred dollars), but they are worth it. There are also less expensive disposable models on the market.

For the single inflatable, lube up the deflated nozzle and carefully insert it into the ass. Since it’s so squishy, getting it in can be a challenge. Try twisting it back and forth or slipping a finger under the bottom of the nozzle to help guide it. Once it’s in, inflate the balloon with several squeezes of the inflator bulb (about one to four squeezes for 250cc balloons and one to eight for the larger variety). Once the balloon is inflated, tug on it very gently to make sure that it is sitting just inside the inner sphincters.

One complaint about the single balloon nozzle is that it can shift position and water can leak past it. The double inflatable has two nozzles designed to solve this problem: one sits just inside the sphincter and the other sits outside the anal opening to hold everything in place. Insert the first nozzle, following the single nozzle instructions above. Once that nozzle is in and inflated, inflate the second nozzle just outside the anus. Once the nozzles are in place and feel snug, you can begin the flow of water.

Inflatable nozzles come in rubber and silicone; never use oil-based lubes on rubber, or silicone lubes on silicone. For cleaning instructions, see the cleaning section later in this chapter.

One you’ve got all your equipment and the appropriate pieces are connected to one another, you’re almost ready to start your enema. Fill the bag with plain warm water. Test the temperature on your wrist first to make sure it’s not too hot. If you’re going to fuss with things for several minutes after you fill the bag, then you can make the water slightly hotter and it will cool off. It’s best to fill the bag entirely, even if you don’t think you’ll take the whole thing, to prevent air bubbles.

Hang the enema bag approximately 18-24” from where your butt will be when you get into your desired position. This could be on the shower curtain rod, on a hook, or if you’re very fancy, on an IV stand. The idea here is that gravity powers the enema, so it needs to be far enough above you to work but not so high up that the water flows too quickly. When the bag is full—before you insert anything—unlock the clamp and let the water begin to flow into the tub, sink, or a bucket. You can make sure everything is properly connected and working , and you can adjust the flow if your clamp is ratchet-style. This also allows you to release any air bubbles. Close the clamp.

If you’re giving yourself an enema, make sure the clamp is close enough to the nozzle to be within easy reach for you. You can proceed two ways: insert the well-lubricated nozzle into your ass, then get into the position you want to be in, or get into position, then insert the nozzle.
This, along with your chosen position, is something you should experiment with beforehand to see what’s comfortable. If you’re using a nozzle bigger than the size of a finger, you need to warm up the ass with fingers or smaller toys before you put it in. Some people like to lie on their back with their knees up and hips tilted forward for easy access; others prefer to lay on their stomachs or in a fetal position. You could get into doggie-style position or on your knees with ass up and head down, especially if someone is helping you with your enema. The traditional position used in hospitals is lying on your left side with your right leg pulled up to your chest. Standing up, sitting up, or squatting are the trickiest positions because the colon is not in the best position for gravity to work its magic, but if this position works for you, then go for it. When you’re ready, unlock the clamp to begin the flow of water. If the clamp is adjustable, begin with the lowest flow speed at first. You can always increase it later, but the lowest is absolutely recommended for beginners.

Take some deep breaths as the water fills your ass. It’s going to feel strange at first. Since your rectum is used to expelling matter, having water flow into it, however slowly, can feel a little weird at first. Don’t worry—this sensation of fullness in your rectum just takes some getting used to. You may feel uncomfortable at first, but it should not feel painful at all. If you experience any cramping, close the clamp and take some deep breaths. Try changing positions or bringing the bag closer to you. Proceed when you feel ready.

Experts agree that the average person can take about 2 quarts of water. But an average is just that, so take as much or as little as you can. Experienced enemates shouldn’t take more than 4 quarts at one time, although even larger-sized bags are sold and people do use them safely. You’ll know when you’ve had enough because you’ll have the sensation of fullness and pressure or you’ll have the urge to go the bathroom. At this point, some people are able to take a deep breath and relax and take in some more. Others need to stop. Do what works for you. When you’re ready to stop, close the clamp. When you’re full, hold the water for as long as feels comfortable. This could be a few seconds or a few minutes, depending on your experience and comfort level. You’ll have a distinct urge to have a bowel movement; listen to your body. Carefully slide the nozzle out of your ass, sit on the toilet, and let nature takes its course. I prefer to leave the nozzle in until the last moment, so I detach the nozzle from the
tubing (whatever water remains in the tube from the clamp to the nozzle will come out, so be prepared for that), sit on the toilet, then slide the nozzle out once I’m there. You can do it either way.

Give yourself plenty of time to evacuate. When you go, it may feel like having diarrhea. That’s normal since you’ve just introduced a lot of water into the rectum and loosened everything up. When you’re done, you may decide to go a second round. In that case, repeat the steps until only clear water comes out of your ass. When it’s over, clean your enema equipment and drink a glass of water or a sports drink to stay hydrated.

A guy I know from Texas installed an enema attachment in his shower. Shortly thereafter, his mother came to his house. Notoriously nosey, she snooped around, as she usually did, looking into every nook and cranny and inspecting his cleaning skills. During her visit to his bathroom, although the shower curtain was closed, she pulled it back to check out the bathtub. When she came out of the bathroom, she asked, “What’s that fancy thing in the shower for?” Caught off guard and more than a little embarrassed, he answered quickly, “Oh, that’s for giving the dog a bath.”

“What a great idea!” she responded. “You’ll have to install one in my house!” Not wanting to get caught in a lie, the next weekend he installed a Shower Shot enema attachment for his mother. Either she’s figured out what it’s really for, or that’s one clean dog she’s got.

You can buy an attachment for your shower—called the nozzle attachment, shower diverter, Shower Shot, or the Shur Shot—through some hardware stores or at specialty retail websites. The attachment diverts the water from the shower head to a hose with a nozzle at the end of it. Some systems allow water to flow through both the shower head and the nozzle, so you can have an enema and get the rest of you body clean simultaneously. Some are made entirely of chrome-plated brass and metal, others are made of chrome with vinyl hoses and plastic nozzles. Some shower attachment sets come with a nozzle, others do not; a wide variety of nozzles—including aluminum butt plug style nozzles, stainless steel interchangeable nozzles, and jelly dong nozzles—are sold separately. Some diverters are a simple
on/off
style, while others are a combination of
on/off
and a flow control.

The upside to this type of enema is the convenience and a constant water supply—no bag to refill, no pieces to assemble; your enema setup is right there in the shower. You also have much more control over the water flow, which is controlled by the faucets in your tub. You can often take as much or more water as you can with an enema bag, for a deeper cleaning. The downside is you can’t take it with you anywhere you go! There are a few things that are important to consider before you decide to invest in one of these attachment kits (which usually cost from forty to seventy dollars). You should only use a shower attachment if you have good control over your water temperature and pressure. If you live in an apartment building where either regularly fluctuates, or in a house with older plumbing or a small hot water heater, this is not the enema setup for you. If, during a shower, you often find the water going from the perfect temperature to freezing or scalding in an instant, then yours is not the ideal shower for an enema attachment.

If you’re a good candidate, then purchase an attachment kit and follow the instructions to install it. After installation, it’s best to test things out before you christen it. Set the water temperature and pressure to a comfortable level. Flip the lever that switches the flow and see how it works. Once you’re satisfied with the setup, you can begin. Find a comfortable position; since you’re in the shower you may want to stand or kneel and lean over the edge of the tub. Lubricate the nozzle, and warm up your ass first. Just as with an enema bag enema, you’re going to fill up, hold it, and evacuate. Some people get out of the shower and sit on the toilet, while others prefer to stay right in the shower. Doing it right in the shower means you don’t have to keep jumping in and out; however, you should only release the water (and everything that comes with it) from your ass into the shower if you know that you’ve got an exceptional drainage system. Believe me, you don’t want to call a plumber in the middle of your enema. Repeat the enema until you’re all clean.

Giving enemas is a skill that takes practice and patience. You should feel only a little discomfort during an enema; if you experience pain or cramping, go sit on the toilet right away. Allow yourself plenty of time and several bowel movements before you’re cleaned out. If you are a frequent enema-taker or are concerned about losing electrolytes, you can add 1 teaspoon of sea salt per 1 quart of water. The salt brings the enema water more closely in balance with bodily fluids and helps prevent too much water from being absorbed by the colon. When less water is absorbed, you can get a better cleansing, and more water will come out of your ass. You may also feel the need to pee less often.