Toygasms! (16 page)

Communicate

Anal play is a perfectly healthy desire in men and women. Talking about anal play—before, during and after—always helps enhance your experience and avoid physical discomfort. Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings; don’t pressure beyond anyone’s comfort zone, and respect all likes and dislikes.

Remember:
communication, patience and proper technique add up to highly stimulating fun!

Lube up

Unlike the vagina, there’s no natural lubrication produced in the anus and rectum. This means you must add your own lubrication before engaging in this activity—even more than you think necessary. Silicone lubes are ideal for back door play, since they stay slippery longer than water-based lubes and generally have a thicker texture.

Cleanliness

Never insert a finger or sex toy you’ve used for anal play into your vagina until you’ve washed the digit or toy
thoroughly with anti-bacterial soap and hot water. Transferring bacteria from one area to another could cause infection. No back-and-forthing without washing!

Safety

Your rectum is lined with thin, delicate tissue. It’s why you need to inspect anything you plan to put in there for rough edges that may scratch or tear the lining. Your fingernails must be well-trimmed and filed smooth. And feel your toys for even the slightest seams—then smooth any rough edges with a nail file.

Relax. And then relax even more

Relax your mind. Relax your body. And most of all, relax your sphincters! This allows the tissue folds of the anal canal to expand, making them more receptive to penetration. It’s also your key to enjoying the experience. Let yourself go in all ways, and revel in the sensations of the erotic touch to your most densely concentrated nerve endings. You’ll shiver in delight.

Go sloooow

You’re playing with tissue that’s very thin—much more delicate than the walls of a vagina. Go slow. Be gentle. And create the perfect technique to enhance the unique sensations of anal play.

That depends on what you like. Some women like the pleasures of simultaneous anal and vaginal penetration. Others like the sense of “fullness” from plug insertion during intercourse, which also tightens the vagina and stimulates more pleasure for both partners. And many men like the way an anal plug stimulates the prostate during lovemaking, which can lead to more explosive orgasms. You’ll find what works best for you in this chapter.

Sadie Sez:

Wrap your toy in two or three condoms and simply remove an outer condom when switching from anus to vagina, or from one partner to another.

Butt Plugs

Put ‘em in—and leave ‘em in. These anal toys come in a variety of different sizes, but all have a similar shape—narrow at the base, thickest in the middle and narrowest on top. The flared base prevents the plug from
getting “sucked in” and lost inside the rectum. Plugs are designed to stay still while inside, rather than be pushed in and out. It will help you train and relax your anal muscles, and give you a pleasurable feeling of fullness as you stimulate your other erogenous zones.

“Corkscrew You”

Go “corkscrew” yourself! These butt plugs are designed to do just what they say, featuring ridges that curve around the toy from top to bottom—just like a screw. After lubing the toy, lightly twist it inside you with an upward pressure. Feel the ridges caress the sphincter muscles as the toy slowly moves inside. Take your time, tease the sensations, and continue corkscrewing yourself till the plug is at its last ridge, all tight and snug inside. When you’re done, reverse the motion to remove the plug.

Vibrating Butt Plugs

For a little buzz in your tush, try a vibrating butt plug during solo or partner sex. These plugs come with a variable-speed vibrator that you activate from a handheld controller. The feeling of fullness, together with a touch of inner vibration, create unusual, exciting sensations.

Anal Beads

These smooth orgasm-enhancing beads come in all sizes—from blueberry-small to orange-gigantic! They’re made of plastic, jelly, rubber or silicone, and are strung together with nylon or cotton cords. Just pre-insert a strand of lubed beads into the anus, then slowly pull them out during orgasm. Many men and women enjoy the feeling of the anus opening and closing around each bead during orgasmic contractions.
Note:
Cotton cord models are for one-time use only, since they can store bacteria, even after washing. Go nylon or silicone instead.

“Moon Beads”

Inserting anal beads can be just as much fun as pulling them out. Pre-lube them, then slowly, gently, nudge each one in, keeping the pull-ring outside. You may really enjoy watching them feed into your lover’s back door, knowing you’ll soon be popping them back out! When the climactic moment arrives, ease them out by gently tugging on the ring. Your lover will feel the exciting orgasmic contractions hug each bead with the outward motion. Swifter extractions can be pleasing for some, but play it safe and work up to that gradually.

Sadie Sez:

Before using anal beads, always examine them thoroughly for any rough edges that may need filing and smoothing.

Anal Probes

For a more active anal experience, try these slender vibrating or non-vibrating probes. Some are made with flexible materials, others are available as a stiff, gyrating model. And some models offer a series of gentle mounds on the shaft that allow the anus to expand and contract as the probe is moved in and out.

Inflatable Toys

Now you can start small and increase your pressure and pleasure progressively—especially during intercourse! Just use the small hand pump to inflate this toy after it’s in position. These toys also serve to ‘fill up’ space in your rectum, so your vagina may feel ‘tighter’ to your man.