Read Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship Online
Authors: David Schnarch
Tags: #Family & Relationships, #Marriage & Long Term Relationships, #Psychology, #Emotions, #Human Sexuality, #Interpersonal Relations
system of,
139
–144
mythical quests,
192
–193
N
National Cancer Institute,
251
negative mental tapes,
204
negative reflected sense of self,
46
neocortex,
400
n
29
neural network for mind-mapping,
52
neuroscience of love,
398
n
13
NMS (normal marital sadism),
211
–215,
225
,
229
–230,
251
,
354
.
See also
sadism
normal
as added pressure when problems surface,
4
–5
LDP and HDP as,
9
–11
sexual desire problems as,
17
–19
normal marital sadism (NMS),
211
–215,
225
,
229
–230,
251
,
354
.
See also
sadism
O
Office of Cancer Survivorship of the National Cancer Institute,
251
oral sex
avoidance of,
364
–367
couple’s discomfort with the idea,
161
–163
developing comfort with,
358
–360
giving,
369
–370
overcoming discomfort,
380
–383
overview,
355
–358
power and submission aspects,
355
receiving,
362
–368
surrender aspect of,
360
–362
orgasms
eyes-open,
338
–339
neurophysiology and neuro-chemistry of,
418
n
211
other-validated intimacy
mind-mapping in,
109
–110
mixing self-validated intimacy and,
129
overview,
104
–105
Ovid,
63
P
Passionate Marriage
(Schnarch),
xviii
–xix
Passionate Marriage® Couples Enrichment Weekends,
319
–320,
378
paternity and subjugation of women,
137
–138
performance pressure,
141
–142
personal growth
as a choice,
228
–229
from conversations,
199
–202
human reluctance,
176
for keeping sex alive,
173
–176
maintaining sexual desire through,
170
–171
in marriage,
238
overview,
19
–20
self-confrontation and self-soothing,
202
–206
suffering as part of,
251
–252
from wanting,
204
–206
See also
conflicts; Four Points of Balance; human nature
phenomenological consciousness,
406
n
91
physical abuse by HDP in control of sex,
397
n
6
Playboy
(magazine),
134
points of balance.
See
Four Points of Balance
polygamy,
397
n
6
polygyny,
134
positions in a relationship,
9
–10
positive psychology and resilience science,
20
post-traumatic growth,
251
post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD),
266
power versus weakness,
367
–368
Prehistory of Sex, The
(Taylor),
403
n
48
Present Moment in Psychotherapy and Everyday Life, The
(Stern),
59
,
405
n
71
primitive brain.
See
reptilian brain
pseudo-differentiation,
143
–144
Psychology Today
(magazine),
134
PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder),
266
Q
Quantum Model,
414
n
178
Quiet Mind–Calm Heart
and collaborative alliance,
305
–306
holding hands application of,
321
–322
hugging till relaxed,
278
–285,
322
–323,
413
nn
170–172,
413
n
176,
417
n
201
in midst of critical mass,
252
as one aspect of differentiation,
88
–89
reflexive anxiety regulation versus,
172
tips for developing,
203
–204
utilizing principle of,
147
–148
See also
Four Points of Balance; Four Points of Balance weakness-related problems
R
rape,
xx
receiver in control mindset,
304
receiving oral sex,
362
–368
reciprocal criticisms,
32
reciprocal mind-mapping,
109
–110.
See also
moments of meeting
reciprocity in other-validating intimacy,
104
–105,
113
–114,
116
Redbook
(magazine),
134
reflected sense of self
couples with different needs,
103
–104
cycle of,
47
–49
as damper on innovation,
167
–169
delusions of grandeur,
136
–138
and desire for new sexual partners,
155
difficulty with acceptance and forgiveness,
241
in evolution of man,
29
exclusivity aspect of,
409
n
129
and identity crises,
172
–173
looking perfect as part of,
77
mirroring versus,
118
moving toward gridlock,
83
–84
sexual desire problems from,
144
social pressure as group control of,
153
See also
other-validated intimacy
relationship ecology
anxiety-tolerance,
175
–176
caring more about partner than yourself,
166
–167
emotional torture,
215
–221