Threesomes: For Couples Who Want to Know More (9 page)

Whether this is going to be a one-time thing or one of those special experiences you do from time to time as part of your sexual repertoire, always remember that your boyfriend does love you and only enjoys this as something different to do, just an extra kick of pleasure. If you aren’t going to enjoy it to its fullest capacity, chances are he won’t want to do it either. He doesn’t want to jeopardize your relationship any more than you do, so don’t ever feel pressured to engage in it unless it’s something you’ve truly fantasized about.

Once you do it, it could be like eating potato chips, and you might want more. Don’t do it again right away, because you don’t want your boyfriend to think this is something you could do at any given time. Use the experience as part of your one-on-one time. Talk about it, e-mail each other about, you’ll see how hot the two of you get just recalling it, and you’ll have some pretty amazing sex together just fueled on it.

He will marvel about what a sexual being you are and can feed on the memory of the first encounter for quite awhile. Think about it when you’re on your own and see how turned on you get by it without him egging you on. Go over what you’d like to do next and with what kind of woman. This could be the beginning of your own sexual awakening. You don’t have to question yourself or your own sexuality. If having a soft, curvy, pretty woman in the mix stirs something deep inside you, it’s a great thing, and you’re a very lucky, sexy woman.

We women are lucky
, we can enjoy a loving friendship with each other, being verbally and physically demonstrative, and society won’t accuse us of being peculiar in the least bit.

Friendships between women are nonsexual romances of sorts. We miss each other, we breathlessly give each other the latest news, and we buy gifts for each other when it’s not even our birthday or Christmas. That’s why we are the superior sex when it comes to love, because we’ve learned just how to love at an early age, while men have to repress their feelings about their buddy and not risk being branded as creepy.

When I am on the phone with my best friend Rachel, my voice gets soft and baby-like at times, so much so I’ve been teased about this by my boyfriend who says one day Rachel will steal me away from him. And I joke often that the only thing holding Rachel and I apart is a nice, thick cock. Of course, for many girlfriends it isn’t as limited as this.

And allow me to share this pearl of wisdom with you:
It’s a whole lot easier to nab the hottest man of your choice with a girlfriend than alone.

It’s happened oh so many times, hasn’t it? You and your girlfriend are bored and out looking for adventure over a few drinks. You see a guy standing alone whom you both are eyeballing, neither of you is looking for a boyfriend or a date, but you’re both thinking “Hmmm, that’s a tasty, hot-looking man for us both!” He notices both of you giggling and looking, and looking away and giggling, and then you both go out of your way to get your second round of drinks at his end of the bar.

I have been there more than once, more than twice, more than three times, where my gal pal has said in jest, “Aaah, let’s share him and make his dreams come true.” Well, why not?

You don’t have to be bisexual or bi-curious to make this happen. And allow me to share this pearl of wisdom with you: It’s a whole lot easier to nab the hottest man of your choice with a girlfriend than alone.

A man’s fantasy to have two women use him for the stud muffin he is doesn’t necessarily have to entail a whole lesbian show. It would be nice of course, but it’s definitely not essential, particularly if he looks to be a virile young man who can take you both, or at least try his hardest (pardon the pun) to.

When you and your friend approach a man, you don’t have to feel the least bit shy or awkward. You don’t have to worry about making a fool out of yourself; this friend is someone whom you goof around with all the time. In fact, you’ll probably find it really easy to approach the opposite sex with her by your side!

Women often decide to pick up a man together as an excuse to get it on with each other without feeling like hard-core dykes. There, I’ve said it, and it’s true. This is a great way to explore your girlie love leanings in a safe way, one in which you won’t feel like you’re putting yourself, your girlfriend, or your friendship in a compromising position.

Your girlfriend doesn’t have to be your best friend. She can be your party friend or your shopping friend or your bar friend. You’ve probably had a few drinks with her and thought she could do this with you and it wouldn’t be awkward at all. In fact, you probably realized it would be hella hot. And maybe you’ve already kissed each other—so what if it was on a dare and after a few drinks? You still did it, for a long time. So sharing a man could be just the right tool you need to reach out and touch her in the way you both have always wanted to.

But you have to be a little more careful when you’re two hot-in-the-pants women who are looking for their human dildo. Don’t intimidate, don’t let your target in question know you’re ready to pounce so quickly. Men can become intimidated by two strong and sexy females who know what they want and don’t need to waste time screwing around to get it. Also, the guy may think, “No way, this is TOO good to be true. Something is going on, either they’re pros or they’re going to rob me.” Cynical thinking, you may say, but it’s not.

Hopefully the man you and your girlfriend choose won’t be a complete dumb-ass (and if we know anything about sex, we know that morons make terrible lovers). Women are not the only people who fall victim during sexual circumstance, so please ladies, keep this in mind and don’t scare him away with your over-enthusiasm.

So who is this man, where will you find him, and where do you take him from there?

Dance clubs are a great place for you and your girlfriend to find a man because you can just sashay up to a guy who is dancing by himself or in a group and get it going like that. Or you can spot a hot guy standing by himself scanning the dance floor, and you can both go up to him and see if he’d like to join you. It’s also more socially accepted to be physically aggressive on the dance floor. You both can start dancing with the man, letting him see you both, and then one of you can get behind him while the other goes in the front, doing the classic dance sandwich. You can gauge whether he likes the both of you by his grinding and how he distributes his attention on the dance floor. When you’ve had enough of that, both of you should ask him if he wants to join you for a drink. Don’t be surprised if he beats you to the punch.

Dance clubs are also good because you can sample him right there before the two of you decide to take him home. There are plenty of comfy, plush couches for the three of you to get better acquainted, and as I mentioned earlier, some of the trendier clubs have erotic unisex bathrooms that are just begging you to take this guy into a stall and see what he’s made of.

In fact, some clubs are so liberal about sex that you may not have to even bother to take him home at all, but instead just do it at the club. Of course, you also can risk getting thrown out too, but do you really care? Mild recklessness like public sex is part of the whole spirit of adventure and crazy experience.

I’ve always been really jealous about one thing with men, and that’s that they can go to a bar alone and won’t be seen as a prostitute, lush, or loser. Men go to bars alone all the time when they’re bored. They watch the game, they bullshit with the bartender, they play the jukebox, they play pool, they even read books and newspapers. Men are so comfortable in bars that even men who don’t drink alcohol like to stop for a little distraction with soda or a juice. For men who have nothing to do and no one to hang out with, it’s better than sitting home and watching TV.

So girls, take advantage of this. The two of you should sit next to him and chat him up. Ask him what he’s reading or compliment his musical selections. These two subjects alone should strike up enough conversation.