Codependent No More Workbook (26 page)
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Authors: Melody Beattie
NAR-ANON
- We admitted we were powerless over the addict—that our lives have become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people whenever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
CODEPENDENTS OF SEX ADDICTS (COSA)
- We admitted we were powerless over compulsive sexual behavior—that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.
Resources
Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Fellowship Services Office
PO. Box 33577 Phoenix, AZ 85067-3577
602-277-7991
(This number provides only meeting information)
888-444-2359 (Toll-free)
888-444-2379 (Spanish toll-free)
www.coda.org
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters
1600 Corporate Landing Parkway
Virginia, Beach, VA 23454-5617
888-4AL-ANON (888-425-2666) (Toll-free)
757-563-1600 (Phone)
757-563-1655 (Fax)
www.al-anon.alateen.org
Gam-Anon International Service Office, Inc.
PO. Box 157
Whitestone, NY 11357
718-352-1671 (Phone)
718-746-2571 (Fax)
www.gam-anon.org
Nar-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
22527 Crenshaw Blvd., Suite 200B
Torrance, CA 90505
800-477-6291 (Toll-free)
310-534-8188 (Phone)
www.nar-anon.org
International Service Organization of Codependents
of Sex Addicts (or ISO of COSA)
PO. Box 14537
Minneapolis, MN 55414
763-537-6904 (Phone)
www.xosa-recovery.org
MELODY BEATTIE is one of America’s most beloved self-help authors and a household name in addiction and recovery circles. Her international bestselling book, Codependent No More, introduced the world to the term codependency in 1986. Millions of readers have trusted Melody’s words of wisdom and guidance because she knows firsthand what they’re going through. In her lifetime, she has survived abandonment, kidnapping, sexual abuse, drug and alcohol addiction, divorce, and the death of a child. “Beattie understands being overboard, which helps her throw bestselling lifelines to those still adrift,” said Time Magazine.
Melody was born in St. Paul, Minnesota, in 1948. Her father left home when she was a toddler, and she was raised by her mother. “My mother was a classic codependent,” Melody recalls. Spanning more than twenty years, her writing career has produced fifteen books published in twenty languages and hundreds of newspaper and magazine articles. She has been a frequent guest on many national television shows, including Oprah. She and her books continue to be featured regularly in national publications including Time, People, and other major periodicals around the world.
Although it almost destroyed her when her twelve-year-old son Shane died in a ski accident in 1991, eventually Melody picked up the pieces of her life again. “I wanted to die, but I kept waking up alive,” she says. She began skydiving, mountain climbing, and teaching others what she’d learned about grief.
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“
Beattie understands being overboard,
which helps her throw best-selling lifelines
to those still adrift.
”—Time
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Inspirations by Melody Beattie
“Today, celebrate who you are.”
“We can show our gratitude for life in even our smallest actions.”
“Could it be that you’re who you are and where you are for now for a reason?”
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