about the funny clothes our parents made us wear. We remember how it felt the first time somebody we loved moved away. We write down losses that other people might find trivial. We ignore the tapes in our head that say, "That was such a long time ago." and "That happens to everyone." and ''That was such a little thing, how can you still remember that?" and simply catalog the losses we remember.
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My daughter and I have talked about losses, especially during therapy sessions when we were dealing with loss. I've made a list of my losses, and talked with her about some of my feelings.
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| · Loss of childhood and trust due to sexual abuse by my dad.
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| · Loss of brother through death.
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| · Loss of secure job, dropping out of graduate school to put my husband through medical school, loss of academic life.
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| · Losses that came about from drinking and codependency, trying to please my husband (the stagnant years).
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| · Problems with self-esteem.
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| · Loss of cherry desk, marble table, and other furniture.
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| · Little Bear, the cat who thought she was a dog.
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